do you think age plays a part in a marriage?im 12 years older than my husband?

Answer 1

I don't think 10-12 years is a big deal. You can look just as good or better then the woman his age, plus your smarter and wiser! After that I would say time takes a toll! If it's not the physical appearance your worried about, but maturity, well maturity comes in all ages. I've seen 20 year olds more mature then 30 year olds and so on....just enjoy what you got! Hardest part is finding someone you connect with, and you already accomplished that! ps.It's the perfect age difference for a great sex life-so I heard! LOL

Answer 2

Age can play a significant role in a marriage. Wisdom comes with age and so does maturity. When your childhood took place, how you grew up, and what the moral guidelines were from your parents are all affected by your age. One person might remember enjoying their childhood during the 50s whereas their spouse remembers their childhood of the 60s. A lot happened and contrasted between the fifties and sixties. While one was still looking forward to age 10 in the sixties, the other one was looking forward to age 20. Then you pull upon your childhood, adolescent, and young adult memories to guide you. It becomes difficult when your spouse doesn't share similar memories because they were behind or ahead of you by a decade or more. Even 5 or 6 years can have an effect.

However, maturity and personality can help to bridge the gap. The younger spouse may do something that reminds the older spouse of a lesson they learned while growing up, and they feel they have something in common. On the other hand, the older spouse may have "been there, done that" and feels the need to offer guidance to the younger spouse, which can lead to problems. The younger spouse may feel belittled or intimidated by the other.

There is a lot more work involved in having a large age gap. Most couples try to stay within a 5 year gap so that their life histories can be similar enough to pull from for the sake of compatibility. Men are typically older than females in marriages because the older spouse tends to be more "protective" of the younger spouse because they want to help them. With men, a protective nature is expected and socially acceptable.

Your relationship will be more difficult than a "typical" marriage, because of the age gap and the conflicts of either one of you trying to protect or guide the other one. If you try to set aside your differences and pull from areas other than growing up or age, then you might find your common ground. Like everything else in a marriage it will require work, and a lot of it.

Answer 3

I don't really think that age is a big factor in a happy marriage. As long as you look after yourself physically and you still do the things he wants to do l can't see there being any problems. He obviously loved you and married you knowing you were older, so you have nothing to worry about. My mum is living with a guy who is 11 years younger than her and they are both very happy.If he had a problem with the age difference l am sure he would not have married you, Stop stressing and just be happy !!!!!!!

Answer 4

I'm 24 years older than my Husband & it's only the small minded bigots that have tried to control our relationship in the past that could have split us up if we'd allowed them to.
We've been married for 5 years now...together for 7...& we don't even notice an age gap.
I'm 50 & he's 26. I look a lot younger than my age & he looks about 30...so we meet somewhere in the middle.

No-one believes my age when I tell them......what I find strange is that people assume when we hit a certain age everything starts to drop off, well it doesn't if you've looked after yourself...I've heard all the crap about the younger one will want to go out clubbing while the older one will want to stay indoors doing crossword puzzles...yea! OK.

In fact I'm the one that wants to go out & enjoy myself, I've been indoors enough while my Children were growing up.

It's all down to an attitude & how you get on together, if things don't work out then, it's nothing to do with the age thing...if it were....you wouldn't have got together in the first place.

People who have a far less exciting life will give their tuppence worth about yours. ignore them, one day they'll be happy too & be too busy to comment on what others are doing.
Good luck, have fun.

Oh look, there's one right above me now. talks crap, knows nothing...

Answer 5

The only time age is an issue is when you let it become one. My sister is 12 years older than her husband, too. They have been married for 7 years and together for 5 years before that. They don't let it bother them.

Answer 6

Ok, just so you know, you will more than likely pass first. So make sure he's well taken care of in his senior years. I should have thought about that before I got married, its one way to get a 30 yr old chick when I turn 90. But to answer your question, nope!

Answer 7

I think she could defiantly go as a flower girl and he can just walk down the isle with her. Yes shes a little older but if you dont already have a flower girl definitely use them for that! Good luck!

Answer 8

No, I dont think age makes a difference if both partners love each other. Just think of it as this < when you are a hundred he will still be young enough to take care of you > Good luck to both of you.

Answer 9

I'm 13 yr older than my husband and it hasnt made any difference.
Personall if you are comfortable with it and your husband doesnt mind then there is no problem.

Answer 10

i do think that is a little weird especially when the wife is older than the husband but my mom is older than my stepdad