I have a friend who is gay that wants me. I have never been with a guy but should I just lay back, close my eyes, and try to live life to the fullest. I was always told you should try everything once in life.
What should I do?
2006-11-18 12:57:16 · 24 answers · asked by questionseeker46539 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Do it if you want to. Don't do it if you don't want to. Do it if you're curious enough to try it. But don't let anyone manipulate you into something that you're not keen on.
2006-11-18 13:00:45 · answer #1 · answered by Angry Gay Man 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me that the answer lies within you, if you are straight and don't want to do anything just tell him. Gay people are some of the most respectful people around unlike so many straight guys when someone says no it's no.In the other hand if your actually thinking about this then you should be asking yourself not us. You are the one that has to live with your decision whether you like it or not. Don't be influence by the decisions or suggestions of others this is a personal matter, do what you feel it's right as long as nobody is getting hurt do as you please, just be safe.
2006-11-18 21:06:12 · answer #2 · answered by spanish_fly63 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You must decide if you are really straight, bisexual or gay. Do you have feelings for this man?
If you are straight then let him know that under no circumstances do you want to have sex with him and to look for sexual partners elsewhere. If he keeps pressing you on this then stop being his friend and cut him off. I am gay and I have plenty of straight friends. I would never dream of hitting on my straight friends.
If you are bi or gay think about the short and long term consequences of your actions. Would the friendship with him end? Do you care if it ends? Do you want him as a lover at all - do you want to experiment with other guys besides him? Will one or both of you want a long term relationship?
If you are gay or bi I'd march your self over over to a gay book store or a gay section in a book store. Start reading up on coming out stories, gay issues and about gay sex. Inform your self.
2006-11-18 22:25:04 · answer #3 · answered by Think.for.your.self 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I thinks its great that you have and accept a gay friend ! That's way cool. But don't however let sex, if it happens ruin that. I would tell him how you feel, like you said here. Just lay back and enjoy. If that's all he wants help each other out. I would just be sure that he understands you just helping each other out !
2006-11-18 21:33:28 · answer #4 · answered by nicenvt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are something in this life that can only be done once. They usually end it. lol
If you are uncomfortable with your friend's advances, then explain to him that you don't feel that way about him. If he doesn't take "no" for an answer, then he's no longer your friend, he's a predator and should be treated as such. Good luck.
2006-11-18 21:01:36 · answer #5 · answered by Odindmar 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if a lesbian really wanted me, I'd do it I don't care, it'll be a great story to tell me boyfriend, lol cuz men love those. You have to ask yourself if this is something your gonna regret later? This may be the only chance you get to have an experience like this, and when your older and married, it'll definitley be to late and you might be wondering what it would've been like. Good? Bad? So-So? My advice, do it, but you have to look within yourself first.
2006-11-18 21:02:35 · answer #6 · answered by StarGirl 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you already want too. Think of the repercussions, if any. Does your family think ill of gay/lesbian relations? if something were to happen,would you try to keep it to yourself? What if you did it and decided you did not like it and some of your acquaintances found out? would it ruin your future relationships with females if they were to find out about a gay encounter? I really hope you think this through. I think you night be setting yourself up for disappointment and ridicule.
2006-11-18 21:04:03 · answer #7 · answered by X_YELLOWJACKET_X 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you're curious and want to experiment, try it. If you'd rather not and just keep living the straight life, let him know that you're not interested. Just be honest with him.
2006-11-19 01:04:25 · answer #8 · answered by carora13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't 'lie back' and let him do something unless it's what YOU want. If you're curious but nervous, tell him that, discuss it properly, and decide what you're comfortable trying.
If you're really not into the idea, tell him that. If you're straight, you're straight; there's no obligation to try anything.
2006-11-18 21:03:22 · answer #9 · answered by JBoy Wonder 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Just by your hesitation it shows that you are willing to experiment. I would say if you are curious, just be curious and experiment a little. Dont worry about what other people might say if that is a concern.
2006-11-18 21:08:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he likes you and you like the idea of making him happy go for it. He might even make you happy in the process. Whatever you do - don't regret it. If your going to hate yourself the next day - skip it.
2006-11-18 23:22:06 · answer #11 · answered by johnatplayct 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋