im a little older than him,and he doesnt have a very strong sex drive.i dont think hes cheating but i cant figure out what to do to make it better.help!
2006-11-18 12:57:02 · 6 answers · asked by starr67 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am her husband, and i am not bored with our sex life and would love to make love to every day. but like ive told her i do have health problems, i did get tested to see if i was diabetic and it can back negative...these are my problems....i have constant headaces....they last 3 to 4 days at a time and nothing i take gets rid of them. i am fatigued 24/7 i can sleep 12 hours a night and get up the next day and still barely hold my eyes open. i stay nausiated at least two or three times a day lasting anywhere from a hour to two hours, and theirs other health issues i have but im hoping this gets my point across, honeslty i know i should go back to the doctor, but i guess deep down im scared of what they may say, stress is another factor...i just went through a custody battle with my ex wife (i did win) but wasnt really prepared for the diffence it make to have a extra mouth to feed, before i started fighting her in court i was working 3 jobs and sometimes working a hundred hours a week, it really brought me down. now i work two jobs and can barely hold out to work 50 hours a week.....anyways i just wanted to throw in my side of the situation....and let it be know that it has nothing to do with boredome or cheating
2006-11-19 01:31:52 · answer #1 · answered by bshelby2121 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not kids anymore lol, it happened to me were have been married for 5 years, together for 10, when we met we had the best sex, experimented all kinds of goodies, even as we got married it was great, were did not have much money assets etc. Then we started to focus, both of us are in very well jobs now a one year old. we get too tired, occupied with kids and job. I agree i dint even remotely have the drive i used too.
2006-11-18 21:02:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem is probably medical. Many people suffer from diabetes without knowing it and diabetes can damn a relationship. Also, other medical issues can result in depression which also can damn a relationship.
2006-11-18 23:03:07 · answer #3 · answered by Long Gone 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
put it all out there. just ask him about it. it may be embarassing for him if he is having a problem that is medical then you can encourage him to seek professional help. if he is just tired or bored then he can suggest things for you to try. maybe he doesn't even realize you think there is a problem.
2006-11-18 21:17:22 · answer #4 · answered by Miranda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
has his drive changed or always been like this?
is he taking any medications which may affect the drive?
if his drive has always been not strong, it may just be the way he is. if it is causing problems, you could try counseling. or he may need an MD to check his testosterone level.
2006-11-18 21:00:13 · answer #5 · answered by mahz85 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just be honest with him and talk it over. i am sure he will have some answers for you. how much does he work? how much stress is he under?
2006-11-18 22:59:52 · answer #6 · answered by ~just_jd~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋