How should i tell my parents im pregnant? im only 16!?

Question

im only 16 yrs.old and boyfriend is 17. we've been together for 2 yrs and 3 months now and we decided to keep the baby. but im scared to tell my parents and dont know how.my parents are so strict so i know they'll go crazy!! but i know i need to tell them but how?!? i need help!!!!!

Answer 1

you and your boyfriend should sit down with your parents and calmy say something like, [boyfriends name] and i have been going out for 2 years now, and we know were young, but we have to tell you something. we dont want you to be angry at us but its a decision weve made. we recently found out that we are pregnant and we would like to keep the baby. then give them a chance to talk

Answer 2

OK, I am old enough to be your mother. I would want my daughter to tell me ASAP. Yes, I may be a little angry, frustrated, upset and dissappointed at first. Your parents will probably be all of those at first also... BUT, good news is they will more than likely get over it before the baby gets here. Make sure you and your bf set down with your parents and his and make a united front to tell them together. Very important !!! That way they will know that you two have discussed your options (which shows maturity) The fact that you have been together for over 2 years is mature in itself. If you want have them read your question and these answers. That way you don't have to come right out and tell them, you can be in a different room at the time and give them a chance to react without you being right in their face. Only you know the best way to tell your parents. I would not mind being told either way, I would just want to be told soon, so I could sort out my feelings and then help my daughter or son. Good luck sweety... I hope you and your boyfriend realize you both will have to grow-up really fast.... I wish the best for you and I know your nerves are going crazy right now. Try to calm down for you and the babies sake. The sooner you tell your parents the less stress you will feel about telling them. Depending on how strict your parents are you and your boyfriend may want to find other living arrangements. (I hope not because they would be missing out on a lot) Just something more to think about.. Your parents will react however they react, it will not change the fact that you have decided to have this baby.. No matter what they will come around and deal with it.

Answer 3

I suggest you get both your parents together in the same room. That way everything is out in the open at one time and everyone can keep everyone in line. Do know they will not be happy and they may say some things they don't mean out of anger.

They love you and you are their daughter. You and your boyfriend need to grow up fast. Make sure you both have jobs and can support your baby on your own without asking for your families to buy your stuff.

I give you MAJOR kudos for keeping your baby and owning to the consequences of your actions. You know the road will be hard I am sure. But accepting your child is the first thing. You family will adjust. Just make sure no matter what you both stay in high school and graduate. If you both decide to go to college make sure you have classes on alternate days so you both can advance yet someone be home with baby all the time.

CONGRATS!!!

Answer 4

All I can say is you have to suck it up and tell them. Be ready for them to freak out on you, but if you are mature enough to have sex and get pregnant then you need to be mature enough to face the music.

Just know being a parent is not an easy job, most day's it's not all fun and games. Also know that you've not completely ruined your parents trust in you and that is something that you can probably never get back, and not to be rude, I hope it was worth it.

It is very admirable that you want to keep it, I just hope you both have really good jobs and that both sets of now grandparents will help, because it's very expensive raising a baby, if at all possible you both need to finish school!

Good luck.

Answer 5

This is such a touchy situation for teens that get pregnant. In order to show your parents that you are responsible, have your BF there with you when you tell them. That way they can see that you are taking the adult "route". One thing to remember is that, you think that your parents will be mad. They wont be mad, they will be dissapointed. When you become a parent, you want your child to grow up, go to college, get a degree, fall in love, get married, and have a family. That is what you want for your child. When you get preg at age 15,16, 17 18.. they dont see that time line happening. Then they think that they have failed. That is just a natural reaction on their part. Make sure that you have planned out what you will say. Maybe ask if your BF can come over for dinner.. and then after dinner, tell them. Be honest, straight forward and brave. If you have a plan on what you would like to do.. share it. Make sure that you have thought it through, and are not saying things that you think that they want to hear, and do not have any plans on following through with it. My advice is to stay in school. I know it will be hard, but it is so necessary. Not only will it help you get a job and go to college, but it also sets the bar for your child. When they get older, you can say, I graduated HS when I was preg with you!!!!.. Set your sights HIGH and I know that you can reach them. Good Luck, and remember.. Your parents will be dissapointed, and hurt.. but they will ALWAYS love you. Good Luck and congrats!!!

Answer 6

Well 2 yrs and 3 months is along time to be in a relationship. I am scared for you! My sister had her first baby at 16 and the guy wasn't willing to stay with her, however my niece is so precious to me; I can' t imagine if she would have given her up. Get a counceler or close relative to be at your house or with you (they would already know, but would stay quiet) when you tell them. They will have to accept the fact, it is just easier to have someone else there while you tell them, as it will be a horrible shock. Best of Luck to you on your journey in life, and God Bless.

Answer 7

You need to rememeber, this is your family. Now I hate my family, really I do, i have had many issues with them. I ran away because of some of them. But even though I knew they would not aprove of me being pregnant at 17 i told them. I didnt care what they said, there is no changing it now, and after getting a lecture from every memebr of the family, they offerd help, clothes, items and real advice. like i said i hate my family, but they will be the only ones you can turn to sometimes, and honesty is the best bet first. They will understand. I have been lucky in the fact that i dont see my family, i moved to the other side of the country, and married the man in which i had the kid with, I am lucky to have a man that was mature enough to stick around. I am 19 currently and pregnant with our second child. My family doesnt aprove of this one iether but I am mature, and i know it, they know I am a good mother. I dont party and i am responsable. The key to this whole thing is to be mature about it. When you tell them you need to tell them that you wish to keep it, and finish school(finish, i dropped out and am regretting it!!!), and get a part time job, and get your life going, hopefully with the father in the picture. Your 16, and In my mind that is old enough to be able to handle a child with some help. Good luck and if you need help or want to talk more E-mail me at [e-mail]

Be Happy!! YOUR GONNA BE A MOMMY!!!! CONGRATS!!!

Answer 8

if you are sure they will not harm you (I've heard a few bad stories recently about this, but you know what kind of parents you have. if you are afraid you will be kicked out or beaten please contact social services in your area for assistants or some other pregnancy crisis center) but if you feel safe then just be straight up and tell them... probably best not to have the bf with you. tell them what you told us, your pregnant and you have decided to keep the baby. would probably be best if you do some research and figure out what assistance you might qualify for and how you are going to stay in school and go to college, before you tell them so you can share this info with them as well. will make it seem like you at least planned something and have some idea of what to do. oh yeah and do some research on birth control for after the baby is born.

Answer 9

You just need to sit down and tell them that you're pregnant. There's really no other way to do it. I know it can be a scary thing. If they get angry, they'll get angry but once they get over that and see the baby for the first time, they'll forget about how upset they were. Nobody can be mad at a baby.

Answer 10

You and your boyfriend need to tell them together. Be honest about your feelings about wanting to keep the baby. Explain to your parents that you have given it thought and you have your boyfriends support in keeping the baby. They will probably be upset at first but they will come around. It is their grand child. Don't get bummed if they react badly at first. It will take time to get used to the idea. Good luck.

Answer 11

I think it would be best for you and your boyfriend to tell them together. Take them to dinner or something like that and tell them. Or give them a present for Christmas early that says "worlds best grandma/grandpa". I got pregnant at 17 and my parents were WAY cooler than I thought they could ever be. Remember that even if it isn't what they wanted for you this young it is still their grandchild and they will be thrilled. My parents were upset but then they both got excited and were actually present at my daughters birth. In fact.... we are expecting our 4th and my mom still screamed with joy when I told her about this one. They will come around. Good luck and Congrats. Thanks for not killing it. If you need any help email me.