I'm leaving my job, should I tell my boss it's partly because of one co worker in particular or just go?

Question

I have a better job offer and I am leaving. I know my boss likes me & will want to know why, does it pay to be honest and say it is a) because this other job is better but also partly because this guy I have to work with has such an attitude problem and is alternatingly inconsiderate and bossy, ingratiating to customers,(only to talk about them the second they leave) rude to employees, etc. etc. or just assume he knows what this guy is like & leave w/o saying anything? I feel like I really want to tell someone and I know I am not supposed to tell the new job anything bad about the old one (but I don't know why this makes me look bad, if it's the truth, I know you're not supposed to complain or they might think it was you and not him, but sometimes it is HIM! ).....

Answer 1

Ya I would go ahead and tell him about it. More than likely it won't amount to much, but one thing it will do is show that this guy is such an *** that people WILL quit because of him.
Alot of bosses i've had tolerate jerk employees because they don't see any consequences to keeping him around.

Answer 2

I think you need to be honest and open to your boss. I would tell your boss you are leaving to accept a higher paying job, and also because of the problems you are having with your co worker. It is better to be truthfull just in case the boss does not know about the co-worker. At least the boss can keep a better eye on your co worker so he does not cause problems with any other employees that work there.

Good Luck: :-)

Answer 3

Dear Ellen,
I understand your dilemma. If you feel that you have a strong and honest relationship with your boss and he/she would take it right, I see no harm in telling him about your co-worker....AFTER you tell him that you are leaving for a better job. I would give my two week notice and the day before you are due to leave, ask to speak to your boss again. Tell him/her how fortunate you feel to have had the chance to work for him and that you have learned a lot from having him/her as a boss. Then, if you feel that you are on firm enough footing, you might just say..."and by the way, do you realize that Mr. So-and-so mocks our clients as soon as they leave? I have always been most uncomfortable with this behavior." Then, leave it alone. You have done your best for your boss. Good luck to you in your new spot.

Answer 4

Never complain in an interview for a new job. If you are going to say anything at your old job wait until you are going out the door on your last day.
TRUTH - you are leaving because you made a decision to... not because you were driven out . Be proud of that.

Think about how you will use your experience and contribute to a positive job culture where you are going. Enjoy your new job!!

Answer 5

Don't mention it until after you've left and started the new job. Arrange to meet your old boss for drinks and then let him know that this guy's behavior and attitude were a factor in your leaving.

As far as I know it's not bad to talk about conflicts with employees at other jobs. It is however bad to slag your former boss. Especially in front of your new boss.

Answer 6

there is not any thank you to assure that he won't tell the boss whether you do what he says. additionally, the boss ought to probable locate out different methods. So do now stay conscious with him no remember what. If it grew to become into my husband in this occasion, he might probable hunt this guy down and scare him so badly that he might by no ability consult with me that way returned and would not even think of approximately telling the boss. And in the journey that your husband does get in project for it by way of this guy, he could rfile to the employer what this guy did to you.

Answer 7

It sounds as if you feel the need to tell someone the truth about what's going on, so if it gets it off your chest and does some good, tell him. Otherwise, find a confessor or therapist, and let go of it.

If you're concerned about what he might think about you, then that's another matter. Honestly, what do you care what someone else thinks about you? You know who you are, and what they think about you is just *their* baggage!

Remember that when a person asks a question, **they** are responsible for handling the answer!!!!

Many people ask for information without thinking ahead that the answer might not be something they want to deal with, and then what will they do?

So you might want to check first "Are you sure you want to ask me that? What if my answer isn't something you want to hear?"
Then you have to judge the consequences of actually telling him and decide if you are ready to handle his reaction.

You might want to decline "I hear you saying that you want the information, but I'm afraid you may not be ready to accept what I say. I want to leave here on good terms and I'm not willing to jeopardize our relationship."

Or you might feel clear enough to tell him "I feel that this is an unhealthy work environment."

Bottm line: You have to face the truth, and speak it or not, you have to decide how to live with it.

Answer 8

Who says you are not meant to complain...! You are meant to have a proper exit interview, at our work an external company handles it and they give the feedback accordingly...like with anything u can't say this person is d!ckhe@d...u must have examples and the more the better...how and where and when...write it down or in point form if you have to...it will show you are prepared and not just complaining...also from the the beginning of your comment you've gone from my workmates were terrible, to sometimes it was me, to totally going off track...write down all the examples you have and show them to friend who is impartial and if they convince them then explain them to your boss in an exit interview...ask for one if you aren't getting one.

Answer 9

Just go. Leave out the part about the coworker who is an @sshole. There is ALWAYS going to be at least one person that you cant stand that you have to work with. We have all had one of those types of people who just annoy the crap out of us. Just tell your boss the other job will be more beneficial for you.

Answer 10

Don't burn your bridges. Have a heart to heart with your boss but don't mention any names. Thank him for the opportunity but you are moving on for personal growth, wish him well and continued success and keep the door open in case there is an opportunity in the future with that company. Good Luck!