We have a new baby together and that is why I feel like I can't leave him. We can't go a few days without getting into an argument and him making me upset and cry. We always say that we are going to try and make things better but it only lasts for a day or two at the most. I'm so unhappy but I don't think that I will ever find someone better thats why I'm stuck in my unhappy marriage. Sometimes he makes me feels so bad that I don't even feel like I'm worth anything at all. What is a women to do?
2006-11-18 12:28:02 · 21 answers · asked by guardianangel 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your husband needs to step and be a man.
2006-11-18 12:32:29 · answer #1 · answered by S K 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
What do you mean find someone better? From what you are saying you can find way better. He is a complete jacka** if he has no compassion for you and the fact that you just had a baby. I mean does he not get what you and your body goes through? You need to get out of this marraige, for not just yourself anymore, but for the baby as well. It is not healthy for a baby to be around so much hostility, believe it or not they may not seem like they understand what is going on, but they do stress when they hear you yelling, and as the baby gets older it adds more stress because you then put the child in a situation where he has to kinda chose who he wants to side with when a argument happens. So suggest counseling and if that works for you then great but if not you need to do yourself and the child a favor and move on. It is only fair for all of you
2006-11-18 12:57:15 · answer #2 · answered by melissa052572 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the postpartum answers sound right but also sometimes you are just stuck in a repetitive cycle. Try to change your altitude so you aren't so angry and looking for the jab in everything he says. Every marriage has it's spells, especially after a life altering event. I have felt the same way. And as hard as it is to do, sometimes just letting a remark go by a few times just seems to help. Try to remember how you used to like him.
2006-11-18 12:53:31 · answer #3 · answered by dixiedarling 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a very stressfull time for you both. Arrange a few hours for yourself. Go shopping,or out to lunch with the girls, whatever you like. He should do the same. If at all possible, take some time for both of you, as a couple. Once things have settled down with the new baby (congrats, by the way), if your feelings haven't changed, check out your options.
2006-11-18 12:45:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You start by saying you love your husband......, if that is true, then try to work it out. It is not easy to leave someone you love without trying to fix it first, mainly if you can feel he loves you too. Remember many men feel jealous when babies arrive, and feel neglected and unattended, may be that is what is happening here. Give it sometime and do not despair.... he might be missing you and does not know how to let you know and instead he makes you feel uncomfortable.
2006-11-18 12:55:31 · answer #5 · answered by Malvina Fortuna 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry for the pain you are in. It can get better. Counciling is a very good thing for both of you. Find a good councilor, it will make a huge difference in your life. Group counciling is good too. You can really learn a lot about yourself from other's experiences. Fights or arguments are defensive behavior. We are defensive because we are afraid... of being hurt so we protect ourselves with defensiveness. You both have to be willing to understand your behaviors and where they are coming from. It can really get better. Good luck to you.
2006-11-18 12:34:55 · answer #6 · answered by Bullwinkle 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
(((hugs))) Sit down and have a heart to heart with him. Agree with each other that any time either of you starts to raise their voice, talk down to the other or whatever, the other partner will say STOP AND THINK and walk away or leave the house. Perhaps some joint counselling would help you two. Good luck.
2006-11-18 12:32:31 · answer #7 · answered by me 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go to the Doctor and explain your feelings. Sounds like Post Part-em depression sinse you just had a baby
2006-11-18 12:31:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
before you decide to file those papers, try to remember what is was that brought you together.,,why did you fall for him in the first place see if you can get that back. find out what happened to you guys! me and my man have had some fights!!! but we love each other and we want to make it work. try finding out what happened to you two along the way...you know before you two do anything drastic.
2006-11-18 12:36:27 · answer #9 · answered by yellabanana77 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I talked to my doctor and got on antidepressants.... had post partum depression. Also husband was an @sshole to me too... but the medication kept me from going over the edge
2006-11-18 12:31:33 · answer #10 · answered by Jennifer L 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One of my friends is actually going to counseling for this right now. She was diagnosed with Post Partum Depression and OCD. She and her husband are going once a week for couples counseling to deal with the issues they have and she is going alone once a week for individual counseling. Please speak with your OB/GYN about the way you are feeling Post Partum is serious.
2006-11-18 12:57:35 · answer #11 · answered by raynelley 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋