for ex: flirting with your husband only while she is drunk? but otherwise you really enjoy being with her and you are her are so much alike in the way you think and she's a lot of fun??? forgive and move on?
2006-11-18 12:12:16 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
So long as you rhusband doesn't bite, no harm. And she's apologized, right? She is insecure and needs to find a boyfriend. Help her with that. And help her not be drunk around your husband.
2006-11-18 12:14:29 · answer #1 · answered by Dr_Adam_Bricker 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'd say that her being drunk and flirting w/ your husband either reveals her true feelings about him, or it simply means she's not herself when drunk, and that she can't control herself. I would talk to her about her slobbering over your husband, and then see what she says. If she acts cool about it, like she's sorry and she didn't realize (or maybe she does, I don't know!) then forgive and forget. But if she acts like she's hiding something and then avoids you for a while even after you tell her you're cool with it as long as she's not doing it on purpose, I'd get suspicious. Maybe it's time to find a new girlfriend?
2006-11-18 21:20:10 · answer #2 · answered by ♥Just Another Broken Heart♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The old saying goes:
Fool me once, shame on you!
Fool me twice, shame on me!
Fool me three times......who do you think will be to blame?
It is easy to try and forgive. I personally think that forgiveness is not possible. Forgetting is though, and that takes a long time. Even if you can successfully "lie" to yourself and say that you have forgiven her, you will never be able to lie to yourself 100% and there will always be that bone of contention betwixt you, that is until time dulls the perception of pain that your memories of betrayal inflict upon you (forgetting).
So, knowing that now, you have to really ask yourself two questions:
Are you willing to submit yourself to this same betrayal again? It is bound to happen if it has already twice.
and:
Is the companionship you feel for this person stronger than the sense of dejection you got from her initial betrayal?
2006-11-18 20:18:42 · answer #3 · answered by Random 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alcohol lowers one's inhibitions, it does not give them episodes of psycosis. She is flirting with your husband because she wants him. Alcohol or no alcohol, she is thinking about it. That means she has no respect for you as a friend or a person. Her jealousy and envy of your life makes her a negative person. You do not need negative people around you.
I was in a situation like this before. My wife's so called 'best friend' kept making advances at me, and she didn't check her on it. I tried to hold out, but eventually I fell into temptation. Cut her off now before she ruins your marriage. She is not a true friend and has nothing to lose, but you and your husband do.
2006-11-18 20:27:01 · answer #4 · answered by Bmenace 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
keep your enemies even closer.
you don't hate her for it. I would hate any friend who does this to me. People lose their life over far less. How can you respect yourself having such a friend? You must find it acceptable... if so, then it's not a problem. But you're calling it betrayal. So what is it? You keep this punta on a leash until you figure yourself out.
2006-11-19 04:14:26 · answer #5 · answered by -.- 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Forgive, but she's not your friend. She realized she was wrong when she did it, she just didn't care.
Everyone can be trusted, but what can they be trusted to do? This woman can be trusted to flirt with your husband. Now the hard question is, what can you trust your husband to do?
2006-11-18 22:48:06 · answer #6 · answered by RainbowSeer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a friend who is going to bring trouble to your life sooner or later. Drunk or sober is this truly a friend. Maybe time to put some distance between you.
2006-11-18 21:00:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on a few things:
How you feel about it.
How your husband feels about it.
How your friend feels about it.
Forgive, move on or deal with it?
I would say, deal with it, do what you think is right to get the situation back to balance where you don't have to loose any thing.
2006-11-18 20:25:41 · answer #8 · answered by Daniel 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, but I don't think you should call her a really good friend because friends don't betray those they care about. Drinking usually lifts people's inhibitions and brings out their true feelings, so I'd find a new good friend. Take care.
2006-11-18 20:17:08 · answer #9 · answered by Darby 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
So your friend thinks your husband's hot; so what, be flattered. So when she's blasted she losses control, nothing so unusual about that. So long as flirting doesn't lead to a relationship, so be it.
2006-11-18 20:45:38 · answer #10 · answered by Cafegeek 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋