Ex-Wife 26 years, The story Continues !!!?

Question

Well thankyou for all your previous remarks. I can not explain what is going on at the moment with so many weird things happening!. I know that these things happen once, twice maybe three times, but to many times in the last 2 weeks seems to make me think something strange.
Since these things started, I am getting paranoid about the coincidences, I am having which all relate to her.
1 Work search finds her?
2 Booklet advertising her business appears
3 Divorce papers turn up out of the blue
4 See her old friend from 27 years ago
5 See her old car (vintage classic by the way)
And as of yesterday?
6 I am an estate agent and was called to value a house for sale ( OUR OLD HOUSE)
7 see article about her fathers death in old paper? (from 1997)
8 My nephew, who lives about 12 miles from where she lives now, has a new apprentice working for him, HER SON!!!

THIS MUST BE SOME FORM OF MESSAGE!
More advice before I do something stupid and ruin more lives
Thanks in advance
Paul

one more thing to add; I have found out that her son's birthday is
THE SAME YEAR,MONTH AND DATE AS MY SON WITH MY PARTNER

Answer 1

Wow, Paul. Creepy. I agree that that these recent events may seem 'cosmic' in nature, but some of these things may seem suddenly more related because you have her on your mind. Constantly. Kind of like when you learn a new word or phrase, and then it seems like you hear that word or phrase constantly right after that. Know what I mean?

I think you've become obsessed with her, and you're not really thinking this through.

First of all, have you discussed this with your son? How does he feel about getting to know his mother after all these years? If you contact this woman, that may become a reality, and your son may have a different idea about that.

How would your wife react to this?

Most importantly, what purpose would it serve? I think you have this fairy-tale idea that you'll become pals again and all will suddenly be well. In reality, you'll be dredging up years of resentment, anger, and disappointment, especially where your son is concerned.

Is it really worth it?

I can tell you that the reality of the results of such an endeavor will rarely live up to your hopes.

Don't look at all these recent events as a MESSAGE. That's an EXCUSE. You want us to encourage you to do this thing.

I'm not gonna do it.

Good Luck,

Polly

Answer 2

I don't know if there is 'an answer', but I’m curious about

> 6 I am an estate agent and was called to value a house for sale ( OUR OLD HOUSE) <

How was it that you didn't recognise the address before you went there?

Also, if your office is anywhere in the neighbourhood of it, then there has always been 'the chance of being called to put a valuation on it.' So it's not that strange or much of a coincidence either.

I used to live on one side of London (UK), and my 2nd wife then lived on the opposite side.

1: It turned out that her ex husband was the best friend of a guy whose wife I was working with ~ and

2: that the sister of the Best Friend was someone I used to chat with most mornings on the phone.

3: Three years before I knew my wife (No2), she had a lover who died on a train to meet her.....

4: At the time he died, the clock in my wife’s kitchen STOPPED, and her phone rang with their pre-arranged signal.

5: His medications were handed by the police to the senior pharmacist (whom I was in love with) at the same hospital were I was working.

6: His body was brought into our mortuary, and was taken there by one of my best friends.

7: Although three years after the event, I got her taken to the mortuary to see where the body had been laid out, as she had never been allowed to grieve his dieing.

I'm unsure if there is a message there for she n me ~ because we invariably argue each day we are together
etc etc etc etc....... which is so totally different from how it was at the start.


We can make of these things what we will.
Sash.

Answer 3

So what ?
Look at all the co-incidents and have a laugh !
It's obvious that you are looking for more "messages" to add to the list .
Stop going through old drawers an papers.
Divorce papers means it's over !
Old friends turns up every now and then.
So does old cars.
The house would be on sale even if you were a taxi-driver.
Why do you go looking through nine-ten years old newspapers?
Everyone needs a job and as far as I understand, you live in a small community and it's normal to try to get a job close to your family.
Of course there's a message ! it says : be happy with the life you've got and get yourself a hobby ! ( Buy the old classic car and restore it to new condition and drive it, have fun and concentrate on the life you've got NOW !
B

Answer 4

I really do not think it is a question of whether or not YOU should contact her. I believe that if you are already with someone and have been with her for 24 years then you about to get yourself mixed up in a mixture for disaster. Why would you even think of contacting this women after she walked out on you AND your young son. Yes people may change over time but I am sorry if a women can walk out on her child and make a new life and have another child and never look back I really don't think that is something that can be forgiven. It would be one thing if your son wanted to contact her but as far as you and she are concerned I think whatever you had together so long ago should be left right where she left it. After this long I don't think there is any reason to question the events that took place or why. It is obvious that you have found someone that you have been happy with for this long so why risk messing it up for someone who didn't care enough about you and your son to give you a reason for leaving much less staying in contact with her own flesh and blood. I would tell your son that you know where she is at if he does not already know her but other than that if you are not contacting her for him I would not contact her at all.

Answer 5

I think the trouble is you have never had what the Americans call 'closure' - you never really knew the reasons why she walked out. This sort of thing can become overwhelming and it can be very difficult to ignore.

The right thing to do is the obvious - leave her alone and get on with your life, but I accept this is much easier said than done. It can help to talk to people about your feelings, and if after all you feel you have to contact her to get 'closure', then do it. But expect a frosty reception, if you get one at all.

Good luck, and I hope it works out for you.

Answer 6

Insread of coincidence, Id say alot of things were going on behind your back unbekownest to you long before your divorce and now since the divorce everything is just coming out in the open and isnt as secretive as before for whatever reason but I suspect it had something to do with your divorce and hiding marital assets. Although this scenario is rare it does happen

Answer 7

HEy man what you need is a good case of reality and forget all that and get a life and don't worry. As long as you have your health and got a job, who cares what your ex does. ALl just my be coendences but who cares just life your life one day at a time, and to teh fullest. Maybe you'll find someone nicer than your ex. SO DON'T WORRY BE HAPPY.

Answer 8

I have read your other questions, and I think I have your answer. Sometimes our thoughts can manifest into reality, there is no such thing as a coincidence or an accident, everything happens for a reason, contact your ex-wife you have been wanting too for a long time...

Answer 9

Wow put down the papers close your eyes when you go out ,OR just move on there better things waiting for you if you would stop looking back !!!

Answer 10

Sorry I didn't see your first post.

Maybe you are looking "too hard" for coicidences because you want an "excuse" to see your "ex"?

You need to think very carefully before you do anything that could mess up a lot of lives. I think you're looking "desperately" for a message where there may just not be one.

Sorry................