2006-11-18 11:13:19 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Break lose.
2006-11-18 11:14:30 · answer #1 · answered by Mom 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your fiance is "controlling" you now, just imagine how bad it will get after you get married...........
A healthy marriage is built on love and respect. Mature well-adjusted people are secure and confident. They don't feel the need to "control" their partners. If your fiance has "control issues" already, red flags should be going off in your head. Don't make the mistake of ignoring them.
I'm assuming that if your "financial freedom" is being "controlled" by your fiance, you must be living together. Here's a clue - move out! If he's "controlling", he's probably also "jealous", not good signs for a happy future.
You need to take control of your own life and make your own decisions. Don't give your "power" away to anyone! Best of luck.
2006-11-18 12:20:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like serious discussion time. You may be surprised by what openess can do at this crucial point of your relationship. Sometimes we send AND receive mixed or unclear messages. This possibly could be the case if you are letting your emotions rule you and not common sense. I have found from experience that sometimes when we THINK a person is "controling" us... it is actually that we are GIVING the other person control and even ASKING that they take the lead in given situations... then when we want to do something that they feel is out of the ordinary - we balk.
Talking can clear up a load of confusion and create a wonderfully balance relationship with the right amount of "give" and "take".
I just went through this very thing with my fiance of 3 years and found out that he was WANTING me to take a more active role in decision-making and asserting myself. It's getting better everyday now when we can actually ask each other... "okay, who should take the LEAD on this one? and why?"
2006-11-18 11:27:35 · answer #3 · answered by wonderful1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really loved your fiance you would not feel the way you do. Your fiance should not be controlling you though, everyone needs to be their own person.If you feel the need for freedom, call off your engagement. A marriage with this person will never work out if you already feel this way and you are only engaged.
2006-11-18 11:40:50 · answer #4 · answered by kazzadanni 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage or any relationship for that matter should never be about control. When two people become one in marriage that doesn't mean they lose themselves. It sounds as though you need to have a conversation with your fiance. I don't recall anything in the vows I took that said anything about rendering full control. If you really love this person and they love you as well there shouldn't be that much of a problem. We are suppose to fall in love with people because of who they already are, not what we want to make them into. Best wishes.
Nae
2006-11-18 11:27:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should marry someone out of love. If you're fiance is making you feel controlled, marriage can only be worse. I would break it off.
Sorry. Your mate should not make you feel like a prisoner.
2006-11-18 11:14:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes cut the umbilicle and scoot control is a big no!no! go and enjoy good luck
2006-11-18 11:49:24 · answer #7 · answered by terrano 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drop 2cool like a bad habit unless of course you are 2cool in disguise.
2006-11-20 13:39:04 · answer #8 · answered by Darcee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is what my friend and i call a "draino" , you have to cut her loose like a leg with gangreene or else you will never be happy.
2006-11-18 12:26:43 · answer #9 · answered by yellabanana77 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know the answer to this one.
2006-11-18 11:15:00 · answer #10 · answered by ignoramus 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋