i never get anytime to myself , clean , clean , clean, kids, kids,kids, my husband works fulltime, but still he should make time to help out!
2006-11-18 11:08:07 · 21 answers · asked by amae_2399 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sounds to me like a housewife.........nothing more
2006-11-18 11:19:18 · answer #1 · answered by classy&sassy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to find time for each other get some help with the kids and take off for a romantic night on the town or better yet see if the grandparents will take the kids for the weekend and get out of town and relax in a nice B&B or a Resort Spa you need to be pampered and if he works all the time he could use a holiday
away just the two of you get the fires burning and enjoy. God Bless and Have Fun whatever you decide to do.
2006-11-18 19:22:12 · answer #2 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds king of normal to me Dear: what did you think married life was like? We had five kids, both of us worked swing shifts, usually different shifts. I heard sex twice a week was normal for married people, we were luck to have sex once a month. Meals were half done and on the run, the car payment at the front door and the bank at the back.
Between doctor calls and not being home, I missed weddings funerals and graduations. We made it though, we lived through it like everyone else. I can only say Sweetheart, stop crying and start supper, it's that time again, you'll live. We all did.
I was still able to get in 84 credits in three Universities for a medical degree in MedLab Tech. All nights or in my spare time. Good luck
2006-11-18 19:18:53 · answer #3 · answered by cowboydoc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah you are....one day you will reach your breaking point.....mostly happens when the kids are grown up. A woman decides it is time to take care of herself, gets a divorce and finally gets to do the things she was never able to. Men like to blame this on menopause and the hormonal change. What it is though is a woman feels like she has done her duty and now it's time for herself. Talk to your husband and make an agreement where every week you get a certain amount of time all to yourself. Explain to him that it's not that you want to go out and party or anything just sometimes to need to breathe. That itself may help your marriage.
2006-11-18 19:12:46 · answer #4 · answered by Ruth Less RN 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no ur not a slave thats life i clean wash an cook every day and my husband sit down infornt of the tv watchin stupid movies and i do all the house work .. u cant complain about it cuz men are 2 lazy to move theirs asses to help! but u do need some time to rest tell him that he should share the house work with you because ur tierd of it .. and try to have some time for ur self
2006-11-18 19:13:47 · answer #5 · answered by mimi ^____^ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you think so than it will be. there's always balance in life although family is important. if you are frustrated that your husband is not sharing any house responsibilities like chores or taking care the kids than you should be talking and solving this problem with him. it's not a point to harbor it in your heart for many years to come and then allow yourself to 'burst'. it's really painful. although, having the fact to appreciate that he's working full time to provide for the family but then again life nowadays in this generation/ modern society it's a share/ join task.
2006-11-18 19:15:09 · answer #6 · answered by - 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That would make you a maid not a slave.....talk with him about it!!! Do you want to live the rest of your life this way? Talk to him at a good time for both of you - and make some reasonable requests. If you can't function - the rest of his life won't either!! Let him know.
2006-11-18 19:13:38 · answer #7 · answered by Amy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your JOB is housewife/mother and his job is outside the house, you need to get together, hire a babysitter now and then, and go out to dinner and a movie. Then you won't feel like a slave anymore.
2006-11-18 19:11:04 · answer #8 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man you sound like me.....it's like work work clean husband husband no life no happy.....do what i did get a sitter once a week and have me time take up a hobby and meet new people and have fun :-)
2006-11-18 19:16:46 · answer #9 · answered by lol_des 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are a stay at home mom then....as hard as it is....that is your job.
If you work outside the home in addition to this yes he should help as often as possible.
Now perhaps once a week he could give you a break. And trust me I know how much you need it. But please don't expect him to work all day and then come home to help you on a regular bases.
2006-11-18 19:16:10 · answer #10 · answered by John B 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think i'd get a paying job----and for heavens sake unless all your kids are under 2 it won't hurt them to do some chores around the house too---if your hubby won't back you up on this then yes you have entered the realm of domestic slavery
2006-11-18 19:15:14 · answer #11 · answered by lexiwords 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋