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Question

I don´t know who to talk to anymore so i guess dats why im writing this…..im a 15 year old girl and i feel useless and im so tired of trying so hard at skool to get good grades and keeping them up…to keep trying to make fwends but never make them…to try dance even though i suck at it!

I have lost my enthusiasm for life actually i hav for a long time and i dont wanna live anymore its 2 hard i know i sound like a stupid weakling but i dont care i hav no friends here where i live i just study but i hav just studied and had no fun for already 1 and a half years since we left our oldd country but anyway i dont think i was even that happy now…..i dont find myself to b such a good person and i always fight with my familly and i feel like crying so often….im supposed to continue doing great at skool and go to havard to become a doctor and save lives but i think that if people hav to die wen they old they just should because its natural and to help other people there is already enought doctors…..so i thought why not become famous because i love entertaining but that is impossible because loads of people want to do dat and im not probebly the best so i dont think ill make it and to include i dont have much support from anyone….and im so upsed wit good grades bcause of my father….and i hav no fwends at all basically here where im living so lets just say im not living like a normal teenager…i find people my age or even 2 years older inmature and find it easier to become fwends wit adults….yep well dats about it so if u hav any advice of how to get rid of my depression or on how to make fwends i will be greatful……th ank you for your time…

Answer 1

You seem to think that in order to be successful, you have to do something outstanding like go to Harvard, become a doctor and save lives, or become famous. Look around and see that there are many, many average, normal people who I would certainly term successful. (Rich and successful are not the same.)

At 15, you are in a very vulnerable period of life. Almost everyone, even adults, feel depressed and disappointed in themselves at times, but a 15-year-old, even more so. You don't have the experience of knowing that you'll get through it and there will be happy times to come.

You are old enough to make an effort to communicate properly. I couldn't tell if your spelling is at fault, or if you are just so used to communicating in that vernacular, but that has got to go! It isn't becoming.

Please tell your parents or another trusted what you are going through. And remember. Things aren't as bad as they seem when you are feeling down.

Answer 2

It is really hard to explain to someone like yourself that at your age you are taking on too much responsibility and that you need to just stop worrying about the problems of the world and take care of yourself and be happy.

Take one day at a time, don't worry about what others say or do, you don't really need a bunch of people or friends to validate you as a good person, people are inherently good they learn bad habits, they are not born with them, so you know what is right and wrong, live your life accordingly.
Go to school, DO THE BEST YOU CAN, if you don't get the grades others want, well, that's too bad, you know that you did the best that you could, if they cannot understand they are the fools who are trying by setting unrealistic goals on their children to succeed where they failed in their life. In other words they are living their life through you. If you have your heart set on something other than medicine, then all I can tell you is you will never be good at medicine, because it is not your first love or desire. Set yourself a goal and do whatever it takes to reach it. Sometimes the road will be hard, because others will not support you. But if you have the will and the desire you will succeed and if you fail there is no shame in that, because you will know you did the best you could. No matter what you do in life always make sure you have a fallback position, what this means is if you have some particular goal, work towards it but have another guaranteed way to make a living, and use that income to finance your ultimate goal. For instance if you wanted to be an actress, well, have enough education to work at another job, say at a bank as a loan officer, or an accountant somewhere, that will pay the bills and finance your ultimate goal.
Companions and friends will be easier to make when you are perceived to be a happy and fun person to be around. So stop being so serious and get out and be a happy girl.
If you want someone to bounce ideas off of feel free to contact me via this site and I will answer your questions or attempt to give you guidance. If you don't want to do that please contact a counselor at your school for help because you young lady are our future.

Answer 3

What do you like to do for fun? Do you play sports? Try volunteering at a shelter or some other type of organization. There are many ways to make friends and have fun in life. A good friend will be someone who likes doing the things you do. Getting good grades in school is tough I know, I've been there and went through many bouts of depression. School is one of the most difficult periods in life where people are expected to be part of one group or another and can be frustrating when you don't seem to fit. As hard as it is you have to be strong and once you begin to enjoy yourself I think your grades will come around on their own and that self esteem will build on itself until you are on the top of the world.

Answer 4

If you do not get an education and learn to spell so that you can communicate professionally, you are not going to have to worry about getting into Harvard to be a doctor. Maybe you are suffering from some type of depression, as what you are describing sounds like symptoms of it. Talk to your parent/s or how will they be able to know what is going on with you if you do not talk to them. Good Luck in whatever it is that you decide to do in life.