the bad thing is im 13! idn if we should! i mean it shoulds great but im afraid i would get pregnant! im not sure if i should or if i shouldnt! o ya and im a virgin rite now! HELP ME!!
2006-11-18 10:50:23 · 24 answers · asked by XOXOiiLoveYoohXOXO 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
THANKS EVERYBODY! i ahave decided not to do it and wait! thank you everybody! but now i have to choose a best answer...
2006-11-18 11:00:17 · update #1
Save yourself for your husband. It will only be great for him.
Please wait until you marry.
2006-11-18 10:54:30 · answer #1 · answered by egg_sammash 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO.
If you are scared to get pregnant then why risk it. I really hope you rethink this. Sex is not all it is brought out to be. I think you should REALLY be rethinking the boyfriend if there is any pressure.
But as I have been a teen before. I know if you are thinking about it now, nothing anyone says here will matter to you because you will do what you want.
Just for the record. I was a virgin until age 18. I was engaged before I broke my virginity as well. Happily married to him and have son now.
Before you ever consider having sex again. You and your partner sit down and think of how you will tell your parents you are pregant. If you are having sex at 13 you will I almost guarantee will have a baby before you are out of high school. The odds are for it.
2006-11-18 18:56:18 · answer #2 · answered by Summer H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is good to hear that you decided to wait.
yah, I know coming from adults (and other age related peers) to wait seems like we just saying it to be nagging. However, sometimes we have to set aside or age differences and look at the bigger picture on what the advice is really saying.
You are 13 and I do remember how much I wanted to have sex with my bf (who is now my fiance, been together for almost 2 years). We are 21 and then, I decided to wait. I was 18 and when I had sex with my ex of 3 years and I regret it. Not only was I not ready i realized, I was also not in love with the guy as I finally listened to my heart instead of forcing that feeling that I truly didn't have. I am now with my fiance, who was my first boyfriend and we are happily together. We currently are sexually active and this time, I am extremly happy on my choice to make love to him.
Just remember, when you do feel ready, prepare yourself: Birth control, condoms, std tests and to discuss the outcomes of sex: pregnancy is one big topic in itself.
Whether you have sex before or after marriage, that is all up to you. The main point is to be ready and be prepared.
Goodluck and take care of yourself.
2006-11-20 04:41:38 · answer #3 · answered by Mutchkin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let's see. . . you want to have sex, but you're 13. You are NOT ready for a number of reasons:
-There is NO safe sex
-Without protection you chances of pregnancy are VERY high
-Even with protection (birth control pills AND a condom) you CAN get pregnant
-Sex is fun ONLY when you are not living in worry, guilt, and fear of pregnancy (and you are married)
-Your virginity is the ONLY gift you can give your future husband. What is that worth to you and HIM?
I won't talk about the STD issues, the possiblity of your folks finding out (you'd like that I'm sure) and his folks, your friends, etc.
I guess the bottom line is that would be a dumb decision, one you WILL regret. Don't do it.
2006-11-18 20:45:13 · answer #4 · answered by snddupree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know at your age everyone thinks it seems too young and that you are too young. I am now a senior in high school and I lost my virginity at age 13. I will be trufully honest with you. I felt like a sl*t. I didn't instantly regret it but i did regret it very soon after. I thought I was in love and I wasn't. My boyfriend dumped me after we had sex 8 times. I know I'm just going to sound like everyone else but trust me just wait. Especially if you're boyfriend is older than you, just because he might be ready doesn't mean you are too. I didn't get pregnant because I was on birth control and we always used condoms but trust me, in the long run your best choice is to wait.
2006-11-18 19:22:04 · answer #5 · answered by Jessica! At the Disco 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way about having sex. You are WAY TOO YOUNG. There's no hurry because you can do it just fine when you're older and more responsible. Ideally, wait until you're married.
All I can say is where the hell are your parents? For one, to pose a question to total strangers about sex when you're 13, but then also be considering doing it without them around to pick up on this?!
2006-11-18 18:55:10 · answer #6 · answered by M H 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are so afraid and worried about things then don't do it!!! If your bf loves you enough then he will understand and he will wait until you are ready to. If you do decide to, then make sure that you use protection. However, if he is over 18 and someone finds out he could go to jail for statuory rape. I would wait if I were you. If I could go back in time and wait I would have. I regret who I did it with for the first time. (He turned out to be a jerk).
2006-11-18 18:56:33 · answer #7 · answered by TheRaven_poe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please wait. You are so young and sex is such a big thing. My husband is a High school teacher and we have helped so many young girls that have gotten pregnant and it was not what they had planned for their futures. I know that there is alot of pressure to have sex, but anyone that gives you grief is giving it to you because they wish they had waited. And if it is a guy that is pressuring you he is NOT worth it, anyone that says that they won't be with you because you won't sleep with them is not worth it and he doesn't care about you. I know that this is what you have heard before, but please wait. Be the person that everyone will be so proud of because you waited. Im not talking about until marriage because I know the chances of that, but please wait until you are older, I promise it will be the best decision you make.
2006-11-18 18:59:41 · answer #8 · answered by bamababe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What the hell are you thinking? Why do you want to have sex with a guy when you're 13?! No you shouldn't. At least wait till you're 18 or something.
2006-11-18 18:58:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say it, but if you're 13 years old you're probably not ready. I know you think you are, and it feels like you're both so in love, but trust me - these things pass, especially at your age. Not to mention if you're asking about this on yahoo! answers instead of researching STDs and protection that doesn't say much for how mature you are (no offence), wait - there's tons of other stuff you can to without going all the way.
2006-11-18 18:54:32 · answer #10 · answered by c 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are way too young to be having sex that young. You have the rest of your life to experience that but 13 is not the right age, because people at your age are not mature enough to handle something that can be so emotional.
2006-11-18 21:53:51 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋