Supose you are the dad. The 16 year old son comes to you with the report card and tells you he modified some grades and feels really guilty now so he wanted to confess. The report card as it was in original was bad. Would you punish the kid only for the bad report and how? Would you punish the kid for the bad report and for changing the grades with the intention to lie to you and how? Would you give some credit for confesing the truth , if yes in what way?
(Im the kid tourmented by guilt feelings and wanting to confess )
2006-11-18 10:45:42 · 9 answers · asked by Rebel 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
My younger brother tried to pull that with me. I'm with my brothers most of the time while mom works so I get all the 'fun' report cards and etc. Jordan is usually an honest child but sometimes he doesn't like to disappoint mom or me and so he'll lie. I honestly think you should just be honest with your parents and explain that you felt like you were letting them down by getting the bad grades but then felt even worse for trying to cover the truth up. If you have understanding parents then they will only be upset for a bit and then lighten up. Lying only leads to more lies and you should never resort to that.
2006-11-24 14:41:10 · answer #1 · answered by Pandabat 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would be more upset about the modified grades than I would the bad report. A few D's and F's I can deal with, but I CAN'T STAND being lied to. For punishment I would take away all privileges (phones, internet, car, etc.) until the next (unmodified) report card came home.
2006-11-18 19:12:24 · answer #2 · answered by Ms. GTO 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a parent, I would first appreciate the honesty. I would take time to decide on the punishment while carefully weighing the fact that you came clean. Obviously, you know you did a bad thing. I'd make you accountable for the grades and maybe even meet with your teachers. My husband who is leaning over my shoulder thinks you broke a trust, but I happen to think that you confessing outweghs that emotion. Go with your gut. You will survive and feel better. Parents want to see kids succeed. You'll have taght yourself a great lesson.
2006-11-18 22:24:45 · answer #3 · answered by Christine B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best to tell the truth regardless of consequences. At least the guilty feeling will go away.
As for the report card, I would probably only reprimand for the bad grades.
2006-11-18 18:49:57 · answer #4 · answered by tootsie1115 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would be disappointed but I wouldn't punish him. The fact that he wanted to tell me means that his conscience has been punishing him enough. On the other hand, I would know that he is becoming a decent man because of his honesty and willingness to face the music.
You are becoming a real stand up guy, by the way.
2006-11-18 19:10:09 · answer #5 · answered by blazenphoenix 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop being dishonest...you want to be this way all your life...Stop trying to fool adults, they are always 1 step ahead of you...Lying, cheating the next thing you know you will steal...those 2 things usually go together.. "you lie, you steal". Always be truthful, its easier...If I was your Dad I would literally take off my belt to you....send you to your room, but do not turn on that TV, no video games..no telephone..punished for 2 weeks and you will study the whole time you are in that room.. I know it sounds rough but you lie, you trying to fool someone and that is just dishonest... You should be trying to make Dad proud of you...Do something nice for him. when this is over, start changing your ways..do good and be good...So now it is time to face the music...Just let Dad know how and why you did it and promise it won't happen again...and YOU, stick to your word!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-11-18 21:35:01 · answer #6 · answered by wndybcktt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it would depend how you approach your dad. If you r sincere and apologetic , i believe i would still have to give you the lecture on lying, and the importance of good grades etc. But, i would be proud that you came to confess to me before i found out the truth on my own. Your always better off coming clean in every situation.
2006-11-18 19:07:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if i was your dad i would be happy you confessed but not so happy you did it in the first place! i wouldnt punish you bad but maybe a few days to a week of grounding...and if ur dad is nice maybe just one day! but first you gotta ask urself...what would you do if you were in ur dads shoes????
2006-11-18 19:56:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
id tell the kid he was dumbass for telling me and should of went with the modified report card
2006-11-18 18:49:03 · answer #9 · answered by Josh 2 · 1⤊ 3⤋