OKAY MY COUSIN WHO IS EIGHT MONTHS PREGNANT AND MARRIED MAY I ADD SAYS THAT SHE WANTS HER HUSBAND TO GET A GIRLFRIEND. I AM JUST THINKING THAT SHE FEELS LIKE THIS BECAUSE SHE IS PREGNANT AND MAY CHANGE HER MIND AFTER HAVING THE BABY. BUT ANHYHOW SHE WANTS HER HUSBAND TO HAVE SEX WITH SOMEONE ELSE. I TOLD HER SHE WILL REGRET IT. HOW MANY PEOPLE WOULD DO THIS OR HAVE THOUGHT OF THIS BEFORE?
2006-11-18
10:40:58
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SHE SAID THAT SHE IS TIRED OF HAVING SEX NOW AND TOLD HIM THAT HE NEEDS TO FIND HIMSELF A GIRLFRIEND. HE THINKS ITS THE PREG HORMONES AND IS KINDA SCARED TO DO IT THINKING THAT SHE WILL LEAVE ONCE SHE COMES TO HER SENSES. BUT THE OTHER DAY SHE TOLD ME THAT HE MET SOMEONE BUT SHE DOESN'T WANT HIM TO HAVE THAT GIRL BECAUSE SHE HAS A BOYFRIEND. SHE WANTS HER HUSBAND TO GET A GIRL THAT IS SINGLE.
2006-11-18
10:50:19 ·
update #1
her husband isn't demanding sex or anything. she actually just WANTS HIM to get a girlfriend to have sex with because she is pregnant and doesn't feel like it. Nope she doesn't feel bad about her sex either. I think she is just tired of her husband because she is pregnant.
2006-11-18
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She will never forgive him if he does do it. Right now her hormones are taking over. Give her a few months after her delivery maybe she will change.
2006-11-18 10:45:08
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answered by RealtorRN 1
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It's really a bad idea. This is the sort of thing that causes divorces, after all! A guy getting a girlfriend while his wife is pregnant? Is it just because he wants sex and she doesn't, maybe? I mean, she's already pregnant, and probably feeling pretty bad from time to time. If he's demanding, she may be wishing he'd just go somewhere else! But it's still a bad idea. After all, what if he does, and decides he likes the girlfriend better? Your cousin would be alone with her baby, and have to hope he's honorable enough to pay the support. Very dangerous idea. I sure wouldn't do it.
2006-11-18 10:51:47
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answered by Baby'sMom 7
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I have also told my husband that he needs to find a girlfriend. I say this and mean it. I am not pregnant I just hate my husband. I am hoping one day he will find someone that will make him as miserable as he has made be and get out of my life. Maybe she is hoping the same thing. No women that felt thinks like this would want her husband to find a women already in a relationship because the odds of them getting together hopefully permanently is slim to none. I don't know about your cousin but its a good enough reason for me.
2006-11-18 11:04:04
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answered by Anonymous
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I think her actions are a result of a couple of factors. I think her hormones are raging out of control due to the pregnancy, and her reasoning skills are a bit shady at the moment. I assume this is her first pregnancy? If so, she may be so appalled at the effect pregnancy has had on her body, not to mention the fear of impending child birth, that she thinks allowing her husband a girlfriend will be a sure fire means of birth control in the future...thus sparing her the pains of pregnancy ever again. The fact that she doesn't want to have sex at all with him anymore supports the fact that she has become frightened that sex will result in pregnancy. She is being illogical, of course, and her husband needs to realize this as well. He needs to continue to be suppotive of her and stop looking for a replacement bed partner, no matter how adament his wife is about him doing so. When the child is born and her hormones level out, she will feel totally different. I suggest the husband stop making a big deal out of having sex for at least the remainder of the pregnancy (1 month?). Maybe if she didn't feel pressured to perform, she wouldn't be making these wild suggestions. This is the time during their marriage that they need to really pull together and be supportive of one another rather than distancing themselves. I really believe her feelings will change after the baby arrives, but both of them need to be patient for the time being. I wish them both luck in their marriage and impending roles as parents.
2006-11-18 11:27:47
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answered by Decadent Musings06 2
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WOW, Oh that poor girl. . Yes I think you are right she has to be going through some kind of a depression while she is pregnant. I hope she dont let her husband do it because later she will realize that she opened a door that probally will never get closed not to say anything bad about her husband but she will eventually hang that over his head and then it will eat at their relationship till there is nothing left and where is that fair to thier child left in the middle of it? Poor Girl, I hope she sees that he loves her and she should see that and want to keep it.
2006-11-18 10:52:10
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answered by iamcarrie77 1
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2016-10-22 08:02:43
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answered by harte 4
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it is the hormones, but the more serious problem is the husband who would consider it. What kind of loving, committed, respectful man would do that to the person he's supposed to love more than anything in the world? Especially considering that she is having his baby any time now. NO DON"T DO IT!!!
tell her good luck with the baby but i think she needs more luck with the louse she married.
2006-11-18 11:06:25
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answered by 1973kimberly 2
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Her "hormones" must be out of whack! Once she opens this can of worms, there's no closing it. She will "most definitely" regret her decision.
Looking outside the marriage (for any reason) is wrong and it "never" solves anything! If they love each other and their marriage is based on love and respect they wouldn't even consider such a thing.
Best of luck, hope she gets her head on straight before she ruins a good thing.
2006-11-18 10:47:19
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answered by Anonymous
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I would NEVER tell my husband to get a girlfriend. I think her hormones are going crazy. What would she do if he did get a girlfriend and then things move farther than that and he leaves her? Then she will be mad because he "cheated" on her and left her. I think she is crazy.
2006-11-18 10:44:30
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answered by TheRaven_poe 2
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It would be a terrible idea for sure. I've had 2 children and I know that pregnancy can make you feel and do some strange things and with my second child my body changed drastically. It can be really hard to deal with sometimes. but unless she wants to (eventually) end her marriage then she needs to rethink the whole girlfriend thing.
2006-11-18 10:50:17
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answered by Jackie 2
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