I have a 22 year old daughter who is an absolute sweet heart. She is one of the kindest, sweetest young women?

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you will ever meet. BUT she has such a fowl mouth. She is married to an African-American Marine who has done 3 tours in Iraq and she can make him blush. She is expectibg her first child in february and I'm afraid that if she doesn't clean up her language the baby will pick it up. I mean the f-word is her favorite. How do I get her to stop? Or should I consider my self lucky that that is her only shortcoming?

Answer 1

What does her husband being black have to do with this? You just made yourself sound extremely ignorant and stereotypical. You might want to make sure that you change your views or at least keep them to yourself before your african-american grandchild is born. Worry about that instead of your grown daughter's bad language. I'm sure her and her husband would agree!

Answer 2

Have you tried to talk to her and tell her exactly what you have told us?? Have her read this question and all the answers. Most of us females on this site under this question are mothers ourselves of little ones. We know how their minds are little sponges and how the children sooo want to be like mommy and daddy that they pick-up EVERYTHING. Even though most of us are careful about what we say they still pick-up a sware word now and then and we have to explain to them that it was a bad word and they should never say it. BUT, they end up saying it at the most embarrassing moment to the parents. Unless your "sweet" daughter with a potty mouth wants that to happen to her all the time I suggest she finds a way to change her language NOT for you , but for her little one and herself. Personally I think no matter how "sweet" the person is, a potty mouth makes them look trashy, and being pregnant with a potty mouth looks almost as bad as smoking while pregnant. I hope this helps... By the way congratulations grandma !!!! No matter what you can spoil that little one and enjoy it all to pieces. Give it Lots of love, hugs and kisses.. :-)

Answer 3

Ask her flat out. If this is how she wants her baby to talk. If she says no the will work on her language. If she says yes or I don't care then the baby will be a fowl mouth little brat. That will cause her many problems when he or she gets older.

Answer 4

I have a bad habit of cussing. I don't know where I get it. I'm also partial to the f-word. I've tried to clean up my act but it hasn't happened yet. I have two children 6 and 3. I'm expecting my third. My children do not repeat any of the words I say. I started explaining to them at an early age that some words are okay for grown ups and some are not. They both know not to say those words and they don't. My oldest won't even say the words crap or hell. The other day he was asking me about the show "Hell's Kitchen" and he kept referring to it as the kitchen show because he didn't want to say hell.

I'm still trying to clean up my act. I've slowed down a bit and I'm not proud of myself. But just because an adult swears does not mean a child will. She, as the parent, just needs to set the ground rules.

Answer 5

I think you definately shouldn't get on her too much. I am 22 myself but already with two boys. As I am sure you know kids real make you grow up faster than anything else. If she doesn't want her children cussing she won't and if she does. This sounds awful and I don't allow my children to cuss BUT a lot of kids do these days. ITs almost hard to keep them from it... cuss words are everywhere even some G rated movies have cuss words in them. I think in their generation cussing isn't really even going to be cussing but rather just words. I think I would be thankful thats all there is... at least shes not stealing or murdering people haha :) I do understand your worry I didn't mean to make light of it, but like I said these days cuss words almost aren't even thought of...

Answer 6

She is 22. Why are you posting this in the adolescent section? She is an adult and she has the right to use whatever language she wishes. If you don't like it, don't talk to her.

If her only fault is that she swears, you are lucky.

By the way, it is "foul", not "fowl". A fowl is a kind of bird.

Answer 7

Maybe the fact that her mother knows her so little as to think using bad language is her ONLY shortcoming has contributed to the insecurity that drives her to overuse expletives? Just a guess as obviously I don't know any of you.

Answer 8

All you can really do is to voice your opinion to her. She has to be the one to really want to tone her language skills down for her child. If you harp on it, she may think you are criticizing her ability to be a wonderful mother. I think after her child picks up on her cursing the first time she will try to watch her language a little better.

Answer 9

She has a "fowl" mouth or a foul mouth? Everytime she uses that kind of language around you, tell her to cut it out. She does it because she thinks it's acceptable. Let her know it isn't.

Answer 10

Hopefully because parenthood changes you she will realise that she cant be cussin..You should explain to her that when that child is born and gets old enough to go to school that is he/she goes to school cussin that they can turn her in and she could get her child taken away..That's the way it is here..Good Luck..