i guess this sounds pretty philosophical and all, and it is, but not as much as you think.
sooo i'm an eigth grade girl... and i'm japanese.... but well, i've been living here for over 10 years, so i'm pretty much bilingual.
AND... at school, i'm this really hyper, sorta popular (if i say so myself..... i'm not trying to brag or anything....), really talkative, social person. i have a bunch of friends, and since i get okay grades, the teachers don't bug me either. so i like school.
but when i get home, everything changes. it's like someone's switched me into QUIET mode, and all of a sudden i don't talk like ONE bit; only when someone asks me a direct question... or something like that. i'm usually always on the computer, and when i go for a walk, i call my friends, and when they cant come i stay home. my parents have it in their mind i'm a quiet person so they dont bug me, but it bugs ME.
its like i'm a different person,
and i dont know which side of me is the real me.
i just dont get
2006-11-18 09:47:51 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I used to be just like you. I loved it! Home was my down time. I always felt that the girl at school was the real me but once I went away to college I discovered that that act I put on at school took too much energy and the quiet side prevailed. I suspect you are a person of depth and that's a good thing. Being able to project a personality while you maintain your inner core is a great gift; a great blessing. Be grateful for it. These words from Emily Dickinson may help you to appreciate this stage you're in now (because it won't last):
The soul selects her own society
Then shuts the door
On her divine majority
Present no more.
2006-11-18 09:57:31 · answer #1 · answered by Babs 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
From my understanding, the Japanese culture is one where the women are quieter. I could be totally off base here with that one. I've never been to or spent a lot of time with people from Japan. But in American culture, women are not the type to stay silent. Tell your parents that you feel confused because of the difference in you when you are with your friends. I know it may be difficult, but your parents should know that you are different than they think.
Eighth grade is a confusing age for most kids. You are just now at the point where you will figure out who you are and what you want out of your life. I hate to say it, but it will only get worse before it gets better on this one. In 3 or 4 years it will become more clear for you. Hang in there and be true to yourself. It's the only way you will find happiness in the future.
2006-11-18 18:03:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer is that both are the real you. People react to the surroundings they are in at any given time. You are simply reacting to your environment. As long as you are not hurting someone else while you are reacting, just accept that this is how you feel you should act in each place. It is a good thing that you have a place where you feel comfortable letting go and letting the slightly wild side show!! Just as long as it doens't get too wild!!!!!
2006-11-18 18:01:40 · answer #3 · answered by georgiaporchmonkey 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Both sides of you are the real you. At school, you're outgoing because you're with your friends, and that's ok. At home, you act different because you're being who your parents expect you to be, and that's ok too.
2006-11-18 17:54:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it sounds like you are being your self at school more than at home because there are people there your own age that can relate to you better than your parents. all i can say is be yourself.
2006-11-18 17:53:51 · answer #5 · answered by mstycain 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should just be yourself. like the way you are at school be that way at home.
2006-11-18 17:52:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋