why won't my husband hug me when i cry?

Answer 1

Some men have it hard trying to show affection. Maybe he's one of them. You could ask him to try.

Answer 2

Some men don't know how to react. He's probably not used to comforting someone. He probably feels helpless. If he had lots of sisters, it might not affect him the same way. Just ask him sometime, "What would you do if your mother started crying?" continue from there with "I always hugged my mom, she liked that, having a shoulder to cry on. I always liked that too." then if he doesn't take the hint (which he might not) just tell him. Maybe when its quiet during/after dinner. Will you hold me when I cry?
He should take the hint.

Answer 3

Maybe he feels that if he gives you a hug after you start crying that he may do the same thing. It is never manly to see a man cry. Sometimes a hug can help share the pain.

Answer 4

Some guys just don't know what to do. I personally if my wife is crying I hug and hold her when she's crying.

Maybe his dad never taught him while growing up what he sould do to comfort his wife, when she's crying or sad.

Sit down and talk with him, and tell him how you feel, don't yell, just calmly sit down and talk about it, and let him know how you feel. It will probably help.

Hope that this works. Take care and God Bless

Answer 5

I have a question... Does he hug you other times?

Some men feel emotions are a weakness maybe he feels if he is drawn it he will be too weak especially if he starts to cry in front of you.

Maybe it's too much for him to handle.

Maybe he doesn't know how to act or react to your crying.

Depending on why you're crying.

Please, ask him..... He is the only one who can really tell you. (HUGS)

Answer 6

Some men find it difficult to demonstrate emotions when someone else is going through a very demonstrative experience. You tend not to want to touch someone who is going through a sorrowful experience if that is your frame of reference. The most important thing that you need to do is to let your husband know that this is something that will help you and that he needs to allow himself to empathize with your pain or sorrow. Many men need approval and encouragement to handle emotions. Honest conversation is the best way to start.

Answer 7

My husband is the same and for me he was never shown that type of compansion. His whole family does not hug much and they are all self centered.
Married 6 years still the same good luck.

Answer 8

Most men do not know how to deal with crying, in women or babies, their first instinct is to run very fast in the other direction, so you might learn to deal with you problems in a different way. besides a hug never has solved a problem that I am aware of.also are you that needy, you are an adult, children need hugs not you

Answer 9

Men do not openly show emotions. They are not good at comforting either. Crying scares them.

Perhaps you can train him to be more emotionally helpful, but I doubt it. He was raised to hide emotions and doesn't understand why you can't. You can try to train him when you aren't blubbering all over, but unless he's already a huggy type, I don't think it will work.

Answer 10

listen instead of crying try telling your husband what is wrong and what is bothering you talk to him about it instead of crying, nothing wrong with crying, i guess. crying is a release after a good cry you should b ready to talk about it. this works in my rel.
so talk to him.,

Answer 11

Maybe it makes him uncomfortable and some men just arent touchy feely. They dont really like touching people. You should tak to him and ask him that question.