she has been having fantasies about a MFM experience. she wants me involved, although I am not very well endowled, could that be the reason she is having these fantasies?
2006-11-18 08:52:23 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You never know. Maybe she wants to spice things up, and in her mind thats the extreme. Try to spice things up in other ways, if you dont want to do a MFM, them she might find that she has a different fantasy.
2006-11-18 08:54:53 · answer #1 · answered by Tiffany B 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I am a relationship coach and i have had many clients that had the same 'problem' so i am speaking from experience.
Your wife telling you about her fantasies only proves that she feels she can be herself while she is with you. She feels you are her true ally ..she can be who she really is . Now this is HUGE. I do not think you should be worried. Talk more about this , talk about your fantasies too. Fantasies have a way of not being as interesting if they are no longer taboo.There are two things that can happen you can talk about it and both decide to look for someone ( if you do you have to set ground rules before you do anything and make sure you both are comfortable with it - as comfortable as it can be the first time) or it could just be a fantasies you guys talk about while making love or whenever the subject pops up.
Do not doubt yourself and your relationship. I am sure you ,just like her have fantasies...that one day you may act on but would you leave your wife for a fantasy?
Feel free to e-mail me if you need more help.
2006-11-18 09:08:20 · answer #2 · answered by ilfecoach 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should be happy that she can talk to you about this. So many relationships lack the honesty needed in the bedroom which can result in straying. Don't be intimidated. It has nothing to do with your size. She probably wants to experiment and if she's talking to you about it then it's obvious she wants to experiment with you. Assuming your relationship is secure, it wouldn't hurt to be open to something new that the two of you can share. Set ground rules. Make sure it's no one either of you are close with. Try some of the couple clubs in your area. You never know, you might be surprised to find out a couple of things about yourself as well. Good luck and have fun!
2006-11-18 09:04:24 · answer #3 · answered by Dorothy 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That depends. If this is something she talks about while you two are having sex, it could just be a fantasy and nothing more. On the other hand, if she talks about it any other time outside of the bedroom then you probably have something to worry about and you need to address the issue with her.
2006-11-18 09:02:09 · answer #4 · answered by jdhs 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do not even consider this fantasy this is known as one of the most damaging scenarios for any marriage it can lead to cheating and other stuff that is just wrong in the vows that you spoke in front of god and to your wife. Realize that this is
something implanted by the works of satans helpers and you should explain to your wife right away that you will never be comfortable with a threesome period.
2006-11-18 09:00:11 · answer #5 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
http://www.healthyplace.com/Communities/Sex/sexpsych/sexual_fantasies/fantasies.htm
Why has she continued any relationship with you if you don't suffice?! Don't let her actions or verbalizations determine your personal worthiness! I think if you invest some time into reading the link I put up you could turn this around to a positive. If not for you both atleast for yourself. Keep your communication open & detailed. Is she serious about makeing her fantasy a reality? What is SHE LACKING?! I wish you both all the best. You may see if she's open to couples counseling? or sex therapy?
2006-11-18 09:04:41 · answer #6 · answered by Kim 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have reason to be worried, because it tells me that your wife is thinking about herself, and not thinking of your feelings in this. Bringing other people into your bed for sex is recipe for disaster. I know, I've been there, and thankfully my wife and I have been able to work out these differences. We've been going through marriage counceling and it's helped us alot. But having threesomes or getting into the swinging lifestyle can cause nothing but problems in a marriage. Just tell her that you don't feel comfortable with it, and hope that she respects your wishes.
Hope that this helps. Take care and God Bless
2006-11-18 09:38:06 · answer #7 · answered by Bryan M 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm going to tell you someting about 3somes. I heard of couples that broke up after having them. One partner might find the 3rd party attractive and start seeing that person on the side. Do a search for a sex toy site instead.
2006-11-18 08:55:41 · answer #8 · answered by pinkrosegreeneyes bluerose 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you need to worry. Both men and women have fantasies. The fact that she wants you involved lets you know that it is not something to worry about.
2006-11-18 09:05:57 · answer #9 · answered by libra1079 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Some fantasies are just fantasies, most people do not have the nerve to act upon them. I would be turned on and excited that she is that open and comfortable with you to admit such a thing, and tell you about it. That shows a lot of trust.
2006-11-18 08:57:26 · answer #10 · answered by Jason M 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋