Why do people think that it's ok to cheat on thier spouse?

Question

I think it's really sad that people think that they need to cheat out their spouses because they don't want to try and work out differences in their relationship.

Just curious as to what you all think.

Hey JD, I totally agree with you, Cheating is wrong. And I think it's sad that people do it.

Answer 1

I think it is very selfish to do that, if you aren't happy then try counseling and if that don't work then end it, cheating is just selfish and dumb. You know the consequence of doing it when you do so why even do that and hurt the person you are with if you could save them the hurt to begin with??? Great question!!

Answer 2

Some spouses cheat because something is wrong in the marriage and the affair is a bi-product of those problems, even when most other aspects of the relationship are working well. “The problem” is often one that the faithful spouse who would never think of cheating does not see or has elected to ignore for one reason or another. Other times, the marriage has changed and evolved in a way that leaves the cheating husband or cheating wife feeling left out or somehow empty. Those changes may include a shift in attitudes toward one another and the problems ensue. When a spouse feels that his or her needs are not being met, some turn to their work, others to drugs or alcohol and many to the arms of another man or woman. There is not enough communication between spouses so problems instead of being resolved they grow.
Although this appears to be the most common cause, there are others who engage in an affair or infidelity purely for the sex. They do not want their relationship to end, they simply seek the thrill that being with someone else brings.

Answer 3

If they didn't want to deal with problems at home, if they couldn't understand how the other feels, if they couldn't communicate with the person they are married to, AND if they are afraid of committment then why did they get married??? Do you think people who cheat get married in the 1st place b/c they don't want to end up alone? I think so!

Marriage is a mature decision. You are marrying a person with feelings and who has decided to spend life with you. So what if they get so involved in thier routine in taking care of the house and other aspects of life that they don't give attenetion to thier spouse once in a while. I think b/c of busy lifestyle ppl lose track of each other. Then they feel unwanted, not taken care of, etc. So they go out and cheat. I don't really know why people cheat but when they are married I wish they would take it seriously. Cheating is for college/high school/non-married people. If you want to "do what everyone is doing" then do it before you get married. You're just a worthless idiot if you cheat on your spouse!! Its funny I stumble upon this question b/c just this morning I heard a thing on the radio where a wife had to work on a saturday so she left home early, 15 mins later came back to get something she forgot at home and found her husband naked on top of another women!!! Isn't that horrifying.

Having wife/husband is something different than having a boy/girl friend. I think these days, along with other worries, people have forgotten the significance of having someone special in their life. We don't know real love anymore. We demand a lot but we don't want to give a lot unless we get something back for it. And if we don't get what we want we don't want to ask for it b/c we're insecure. I have no respect for people who cheat on thier spouse. They just never matured!!

Answer 4

When was it ever okay to cheat on your spouse, after having given them your vows to "forsake all others?" It is NEVER okay and yes, I agree with you 100%. Others will argue that they're having problems in the marriage and that's why they cheated...etc, etc but all the reasons they come up with are all just excuses at best. In my opinion, if you're unhappy in your marriage for whatever reason, you have a choice to either work on it or leave. But instead, a lot of people want to take the coward's way out and cheat.

Answer 5

Well I had someone tell me that men need to have attraction in order to stay committed. They want their women to stay beautiful like the day they got together, otherwise they are going to cheat. Personally, I think that is wrong.
Now I don't have a lot of room to talk, because I also cheated. I did it because I was lacking attention. Instead of saying anything I just cheated. Well over the years I realized that I was unhappy in my marriage, and moved on. So I advise anyone that is in a relationship, work out your issues and if you can't then end it before looking for anyone else. It is better for everyone.

Answer 6

I've often wondered about that myself. Here are some possibilities:
They simply have no morals or they believe in moral relativism.
They have no sense of commitment.
They're just plain bored & looking for excitement.
They have a sexual addiction.
They feel unhappy or unfulfilled in their marriage.
They're looking for a way out of the marriage.
Any combination of the above.
Maybe someone could add to the list.
But cheating is just plain wrong, no matter which partner does it. There's no excuse for it. None.

Answer 7

I don't think that the cheaters feel it's okay to
cheat, as the majority know it's not right; I
think they do it as a cop out to not face the
problems that are at home. These people to me
are weak minded as they do not want to come
face to face with their problems with their mate
and does not or cannot communicate their fears
and does not want to accept reality. So to me
cheaters will always be losers in a relationship
as they will never be able to mend themselves
or each other.

Answer 8

Some people are just so insecure and some are just worthless cheats. There is a reason why they do it sometimes its just not a very good reason. And YES, it causes incredible pain and makes the person who was cheated on feel worthless, its happened to me.

Answer 9

Two kinds of people I can't stand, a cheat and a lier. If you're not happy in the relationship, at least break up with the person first. I hate that.

Answer 10

it's the madonna/whore complex. lots of wives don't like sex. plus men sometimes want to do things that they don't want to do w/ their wives. kind of like being able to use someone for dirty things but keeping your wife pure. women cheat to feel desired, men cheat more for animalistic reasons. i don't know if it's right or wrong but it exists. many men live secret lives, i think it's better to be honest, go to vegas and swing once a year.