i have often wondered if in different circumstances we might have been more than friends but this is not an option for us. i want him to carry on being my close friend but i sense he is different. he was flirting heavily with someone else a few weeks ago and this really hurt. have his feelings changed or is he trying to make me insecure.?
2006-11-18 08:37:46 · 9 answers · asked by tellmemore 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
People change. Life goes on, and maybe he has too.
2006-11-18 08:40:30 · answer #1 · answered by Reo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think six years is a long time to be with someone and not take the next step to ingagement or marriage.I don't think he is trying to make you feel insecure about yourself. He might be getting a little board with the situation he is in. You said being more than friends is not an option so he is clearly trying to find himself a mate. He will eventually find someone and you and other freinds will slowly be phased out. If you do not want this to happen then the best thing for you to do now is have a heart to heart with him.
2006-11-18 09:08:45 · answer #2 · answered by george 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have like the same thing. I've been friends with this kid for a couple years, we've liked each other on and off. But lately instead of hanging out with me he hangs out with a girl that has a boyfriend. And i dont understand b/c when she isnt around, he's always with me. I think oh crud i read the question wrong. I think he's neither, well he still likes u as a friend but he may have something for someone else.
I feel for you and good luck :]
OR maybe he's just given up on you b/c you never showed intreset.
2006-11-18 08:43:14 · answer #3 · answered by dreamscrushed 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I find that is a long time to be friends with some one and not find out were you stand by way of a relationship. What you can do is to listen to your gut feelings and base on the results cut your losses by way of seeing this relationship as null and void and move on from there. Secondly check to make sure that it is not some thing you did, for him to be flirting with some one else.
The length of time you invested in your friendship with him is a good road map in going about another relationship in the future in a different way. Lay your cards on the table when things begin to move towards some thing more than friends as a way of not wasting a lot of time with some one else like the first.
2006-11-18 09:10:44 · answer #4 · answered by Premio 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not sure why it is not an option...but he's probably focusing more attention on this person. This happens will all good friends when they meet "someone". Unfortunately, your feelings seem to be alittle deeper than friendship. You need to accept it.
2006-11-18 08:45:13 · answer #5 · answered by crazymom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might like the other girl but if u like him tell him how u feel and just maybe his feelings for u will come back.
2006-11-18 08:43:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think so. well u r being friends for 6 years. then u should speak to him abt this. let him know u feel insecure.
2006-11-18 08:46:11 · answer #7 · answered by Mikeeee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he likes you and is trying to make you jealous. or, i hate to say it, he may feel you are drifting apart and turns to another girl for attention. or he may like you and feel weird that he hangs around with a girl all the time and she doesnt like him so he could be trying to prove that he can still "get girls", even if that doesn't apply to you.
2006-11-18 08:54:58 · answer #8 · answered by sing_like_ur_alone 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i really don't think he's trying to hurt you it's just probably he's testing how you care for him,as a friend or maybe he wants to be more.
2006-11-18 08:45:16 · answer #9 · answered by yane 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋