i am 26 yrs. old and am pregnant with my 2nd now. my son will be 5 yrs. old once the baby is born. we don't know the gender yet. my dillema is 'should i let my family/friends throw me a second shower?' i felt uncomfortable at my first even- receiveing so many gifts made me feel greedy and weird at the time. unfortunately we didn't plan on having another child, so we gave away an aweful lot of things we need now but didn't have a place to store them or a use for them at the time. (stroller, car seat, highchair, baby toys, etc.) now we are somewhat struggling with $ and cannot really afford these things. both sides of the family are pretty well off, so my husband thinks it is fine because we actually NEED stuff, and they'll be "happy to help". Iam still uncomfortable with it. shouldn't i be? please help! thank you!
2006-11-18 08:34:31 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
Let them throw a shower for you. People love to go to baby showers and see all the cute things. It will give the people who love you the opportunity to show their love and start spoiling the new bundle of joy. I understand wanting to be independent, but sometimes it's nice to let people help. It's a happy, festive occasion and people around you have the means to buy gifts. You can certainly let them know that you don't want them to go overboard... but sit back and have fun and enjoy your pregnancy without the stress of figuring out how you will get all the supplies you need again. Congrats.
2006-11-18 08:38:05 · answer #1 · answered by B 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Have another shower. Don't let anyone make you feel like a bad person for it either. People love baby showers and love buying things for a new baby whether it be your 1st or 10th baby. I had another shower with my second and I had her only a year after my first, but my first died at 5 months and this was something that made me feel like this was a new start so I had a shower. However, there were people that critized me for it, but they were not in my situation and did not understand my reasons for it. If someone has a problem with then they don't have to come. People obviously love to spoil new babies because i've had three and two showers, and I know that after I had all three of them everyone that came up to the hospital or to my house to see the baby brought gifts and these same people also brought gifts to my showers so obviously they enjoyed doing it or they would not have done so after the birth. I would like to know who made it a rule that you can only have one baby shower.
2006-11-18 12:05:04 · answer #2 · answered by shannonmangan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to ask for a shower, but you can comfortably accept a shower if it is offered. Many people have a shower for the second baby these days. Especially since it has been 5 years and you don't have anything.
:-) Hey, if you have someone that will be invited that likes to talk about people's business then you could casually mention to them about the unplanned part and how you didn't keep anything. They'll mention it to everyone else and those that might get their nose bent out of shape about a second shower will know that you're not being greedy since you didn't keep anything. :-)
2006-11-18 09:13:35 · answer #3 · answered by JordanB 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I really do not think that you should feel uncomfortable. This is what your family is there for and more so than anyhting...they just want to celebrate with you..the gifts are just additional. If you need clothes and carseats and stuff, I would let your family step in and help out. Remember..they don't mind..this is how they get to contribute to the baby. Stop worrying and enjoy your shower and what is left of your pregnancy. Good Luck to you and I wish you the best.
2006-11-18 08:41:47 · answer #4 · answered by Sheila M 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Throwing a baby shower is a fun thing. Dont feel guilty about it, especially since no matter how many babies you have you will always need new things and each baby deserves a celebration. Im having my 4th shower in March. I dont feel guilty about it. I feel excited, because we will be getting new things and I know all o fhtat is very very expensive. It helps if people even just buy you blankets and diapers. This is our first girl, so that is why Im really excited about it..lol, Just let them throw you the shower. There are not rules to babyshowers, dont let stick in the muds tell you elsewise..:)
2006-11-18 08:51:29 · answer #5 · answered by Blondi 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My 2 boys are 22months apart so I was lucky enough to still have most of my baby stuff. We had a 'welcome home baby' party instead where about 2 weeks after the baby was born I invited all my family and friends over and they all still bought small gifts even tho I told them not to! lol
I dont think there is anything wrong with having a 2nd baby shower. If your family and friends want to throw you one then let them. Im sure even if you didnt have the baby shower alot of people would still get things for the baby anyway
2006-11-18 08:39:09 · answer #6 · answered by Kylie J 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
every situation is different. I only had one....and got rid of everything after each child thinking that I was done! We have four kids and have had to replace everything from the crib to the diaper changer all over again. If your family knows your situation then by all means, have another shower. Usually its the family that throws one anyway to celebrate the joy of another baby :) good luck...I would start now saving in advance for the new one...
start shopping for newborn diapers every other week
stock up on wipes and the smaller things like socks
if you shop smart you will eventually have all of the things you need:)
2006-11-18 08:41:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
EVERY new baby is a cause for celebration. The "only a shower for first baby" etiquette is about the stupidest thing I've ever heard of. That's like saying only your first child matters.
I say celebrate! Let your family/friends throw you a shower. If they did not want to they wouldn't offer. Obviously they love you and want to help you out and celebrate with you!
2006-11-18 14:51:58 · answer #8 · answered by Carrie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wouldn't let it worry you. the people you love will probably buy you things for the baby even if you decide not to have a second shower. if you have the shower it's easier since you can make a list of the types of things you need beforehand and have whoever is coming if they want to bring a gift it can only be off that list.
good luck and congrats.
2006-11-18 08:45:12 · answer #9 · answered by *~ riddles ~* 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
People enjoy showering new babies with the things parents need. Accept the help you need today and some day you will be in a position to help out new parents and experience the joy of giving.
Happy (suprise) Baby!
2006-11-18 08:39:28 · answer #10 · answered by Vicki 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋