He works as an independent contractor and work has been very slow. So I'm the only one bringing in a decent check. He will use money out of the account without even telling me. He went and got a big screen tv before buying FOOD! What's wrong with him!? Every time he gets money, he spends it on stupid ****!
2006-11-18 08:31:22 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
some people spend money compulsively as a side effect to depression or anxiety--maybe he is particularly stressed or sad--be supportive TALK to him calmly--try to get to what is really inside him. good luck
2006-11-18 08:34:21 · answer #1 · answered by tiff 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The key to saving is reduction and resourfulness. The first thing you should do is clean and organize. You may find things you were planning to buy you forgot you had. How many times have we bought new pens because we keep losing the one's we had? Instead of going out to eat with friends and family have a potluck instead. They are much cheaper and more intimate. Shop thrift stores, many which have brand new things. You help a good cause and save a lot of money. Be creative. Make new things out of old. There are so many things you can reuse that don't take much if any artistic talent. My office and bathroom trashcans are litter box containers. Why leave a light on if you're not home? Does it have to be that cool in your house when you're not home? Get cfl bulbs and turn them off when not in use. Get an adjustable thermostat and set it higher when you're not home. Proper maintenance saves money. Check the oil and tire pressure weekly to make sure they are well filled. Keep your car maintenance records so you know when you are due for repair. Poor car maintenance equals less gas mileage.
2016-05-22 01:28:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll tell you this I have had this problem in the past with my wife and the best thing we did was we still have a joint account but she holds onto the ATM card so I do not spend all the money
anyways this may work ifhe goes to the bank though I would recommend getting another account for your money and maybe give him a allowance other then that it goes towards food and bills period. I would also tell him to return the T.V. before you consider divorce it would be fine if he was making the money to afford that expense but he isn't so tell him to return the TV because we need food in the f u c king house and stop spending money on sh it we can't afford if this doesn't ring any bells then I do not know what you can do he sounds like a big kid most of us guys are but he needs to realize whats important and whats useless.
2006-11-18 08:51:38 · answer #3 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
here is what you might have to do at least until you can get back on your feet. close the account, and open a new one with just your name on the account. I'm not saying go and do this behind his back. tell him what you are going to do and why you are doing it. if he gets mad then that's to bad, food is more important than some big a** TV. if it were me i would have sent the TV back to where it came from got the money and went and bought food. but hey that's just me.
2006-11-18 10:05:32 · answer #4 · answered by here to help 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most extravagant people insist on being BROKE all the time! Stop trying to hinder the obvious. Next time you get paid, deposit your check in a new account, with your name ONLY. When your husband asks about your money, tell him you agree with his desire to be broke all the time, and depositing your money in the joint account was hindering his greatest desire. And since you no longer share that desire--to be broke all the time--you decided to manage your contributions to the family's well being differently.
Tell him that when his money in the joint account equals the balance in the new account, you will begin sharing your money with him again. If he achieves the objective, start with your next check, and deposit half in the joint account, and half in your separate account.
Let him have all the pleasure he wants from being broke all the time. Don't rob him of that by sharing in his brokedness.
2006-11-18 08:43:53 · answer #5 · answered by mcjordansr 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is time to have a talk. Why does one put their needs above their kids and wife? We must agree the kids first, and we decide together what is left. May require seprate account for a while. One for bills and kids and each their own account. Then there is credit. Whole another story.
2006-11-18 08:37:45 · answer #6 · answered by guberDWG 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he can't see the needs right before his eyes,that is a huge problem...When you say "we",I assume you have children.In the name of providing for them,and them living in a stable,stress free atmosphere where two parents aren't disagreeing over lifestyle I'd suggest considering alternative living arrangements.Perhaps your selfish hubby will wake up when he doesn't have you to absorb all of the responsibility..Good Luck!!!!
2006-11-18 09:11:18 · answer #7 · answered by maykithapin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds depressed and bored. When you get your paycheck, immediately move your household money out of the account (perhaps to a second checking account), so you can continue to eat.
2006-11-18 11:07:41 · answer #8 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
uh not trying to sound mean but get a clue already.youre the one making the money and hes spending it all?kick his *** out!!or open a seperate bank account that only has your name on it.im sorry i let my husband be frivilous at times but we always got food in the fridge and the bills are paid first!!hes not a man!!and you need to look out for your kids first!!
2006-11-18 09:15:09 · answer #9 · answered by these r my people 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He will not change,so why do you but up with it leave and get a real life,I'm sure there are men out there who are willing to work with you for a better life. Hes using you can't you see that??You can't buy love..
2006-11-18 08:37:55 · answer #10 · answered by larry B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋