Our 17 year old daughter is out of control. She comes and goes when she wants and talks back to us by saying we are stupid and to shut up. She of course does not help around the house bucause she doesn't fell like it and has dropped out of school because she hates it and it sucks, as she puts it. She had filed charges against her boyfriends but ended up hitting her a few days later so we had to drop the charges & now she is still sleeping with him.
2006-11-18 08:30:27 · 28 answers · asked by cschott3 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
kick her out of the house....
2006-11-18 08:32:44 · answer #1 · answered by Charlie Bravo 6 · 2⤊ 3⤋
Well im really sorry to say this but you should have been being strict with her from the begining and she wouldn't be putting you through this..And another thing is that at 17 years old where i live your a legal adult and are able to do what you what.My advise to you on controlling her lack of respect is by telling her to get a job or get out..I know it's kinda hard to say to your own child but if you feel you've done everything you can and she knows your always there for her buckel down!!By makeing her get a job or get out either why she will learn you weren't asking much when shes on her own and has to work for everything she has..Good Luck..
2006-11-18 12:08:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This unfortunate and I'm sorry for your situation. However, if she wants to act like a spoiled child, then treat her like one. I disagree about the "all kids" thing, I never was like that and have a couple other friends that were smarter as well.
Require she see a counsellor and revoke priviledges. No matter what, don't protect her from the law either. If her boyfriend really is a SOB, he might convince her to do more stupid stuff, so put down your foot.
It will suck having to watch what she's doing, being so close to independence, but she needs help now. You'll regret not doing something sooner if a "something" happens.
2006-11-18 09:44:43 · answer #3 · answered by erythisis 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sorry to be so harsh but just who is the parent and who is the child. it sounds like the child is taking all the control and you the parents are letting her. first lay down the law she is to be in the house at 10 pm later if she earns the right. no sex unless she is willing and able to support the baby that will come from sex .she goes to work if she is not going to school. oh if she is old enough to make her own rules then she is certainly old enough to pay her own way so that means she pays room and board. don't take all her wage but most of it. if she starts yelling then call the police or family services i am sure a few days in a group home will point out how good she has it where she is. you really need to put your foot down and do it soon.
2006-11-18 08:41:19 · answer #4 · answered by jemc7 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Tough Love
http://www.4troubledteens.com/toughlove.html
http://www.child.net/toughlove.htm
2006-11-18 08:33:07 · answer #5 · answered by kimandchris2 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
YET again most of the people who replyed to your post have no idea what they are on about and are not parents themselves. I would not kick her out until you have run out of options. Sit down and talk to her calmly do your best not to lose your cool or raise your voice and simply say if your not going to change a few things then look for another house!
2006-11-20 14:56:20 · answer #6 · answered by mommy2b 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get her help immediately. Find a residential program for troubled teens in your area and place her in it before she turns 18... you could end up saving her life. Don't let her run the house, you are the parents and you need to take control back. Go to a therapist and get support for yourself and find some help for your daughter. She will thank you years from now even if she hates you today. Please do this immediately, don't wait another day.
2006-11-18 08:34:24 · answer #7 · answered by B 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Listen to me very carefully she is heading down a dangerous road I know Because she sounds just like me at that age.Do anything you can to stop her send her to boot camp.The only reason I stopped my behaviour was I got pregnant and wanted a good life for my kid.You have to do everything in your power to protect your daughter from the mistakes she's making and will make.And I really hope you can get through this cause it's not going to be easy.
2006-11-18 08:41:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wow sounds like you daughter is going downhill...help her now! Help her now while you still can! Maybe try to sit her down and tell her your worries and the things that can happen to someone who doesnt care about there future. Are there any boot camp type places you could send her to? Make sure she realizes that she needs to make a life for herself and you want to help her. Myabe she could go see a counsler or does she have any rule models in her life to look up to?
Best of luck to you, and wish your daughter well.
2006-11-18 08:35:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
im 23 but i never had problems at all with my parents and im a gangster or was i should say
give her a reality check the day she turns 18 kick her out let her know whats its like in the real life with out an education. when and if she decides she needs to go back to night school to get the rest of her credits to get a diploma set strick rules to come back home and do so
she needs to know that having a boyfriend specially one like that is not going to help in the future unless she likes that life style
good luck
2006-11-18 08:36:29 · answer #10 · answered by lv23smurf 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Tough love. Get her help. and I would say you started discipline a little too late,especially respect.Have her sent to the juvenile courts,let them decide what should be done. As a parent myself,I would NOT ever let my child disrespect me,and I do NOT disrespect them.Family counselling may work,if she will agree.
2006-11-18 10:45:53 · answer #11 · answered by Mother of 2 girls 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋