I have a 17 year old daughter whose 20 yr old bf just gave her an engagement ring w/the understanding that they would have a long engagement. My question is~How should I handle it? This is my youngest daughter~my "baby"~and I feel that she is to young for this kind of commitment. There are several reasons for me feeling this way: neither one of them is working, she is diabetic w/out control of it, this is her first "real" bf and I am scared for her emotionally & phisically.
Now for the positive side: I like the bf pretty well and they have both been good for each other, they have helped each other to mature in many ways, he is working on joining the Army(took the test~hasn't heard back from recruitor yet) and they love each other. But in my eyes, they both need to mature some more!
Am I just being an over protective mother, should I leave them alone or what?
2006-11-18 08:30:10 · 4 answers · asked by Donna J 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You do like him so that is one good thing. You just have to raise your kids the best you can and then let them make their own decisions. If you tell her not to commit, she is still 17 and has that girl thing in her where she knows everything now, she would go and do something drastic and get married. Just be their to support her as hard as it may be.
If she is close with a sibling their advice won't be taken like a parents advice though.
2006-11-18 09:40:14 · answer #1 · answered by schell_75 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My kids aren't that age yet BUT - it sounds like the guy has a good head on his shoulders. Some people just meet the "right" person at a very young age. Maybe your daughter and her bf are two of them.
You said he's helped her mature in many ways, maybe he can help her deal with her diabetes. How she cares for it will affect their future together, plus if they decide to have any children.
2006-11-18 08:34:11 · answer #2 · answered by Stimpy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They are both too young but on the other hand they are supportive of one another. He might just want someone to write to when he goes into the Army too. Our military guys need just as much support as we can give them.
Just tell her no babies and no marrying until he gets out of the Army. They are in normally for 4 years and so that will give them both time to get into an age group where marriages usually works out.
And pray a lot the take your advice!
2006-11-18 08:38:32 · answer #3 · answered by Tapestry6 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say just leave them be for awhile and see how they handle it. You said they were going to have a long engagement right? So dont worry about it too much they probobly do want to grow up and mature a little more before they take such a big step. Some of the happiest and longest marriges were of people who were also young. If they try to take such a big step before they finish school and have a career..... then I would say somthing. Until then, I wouldnt worry about it.
2006-11-18 08:34:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋