2006-11-18 08:12:08 · 10 answers · asked by Italia Grl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You may have to choose whether to be a real person or continue to "fake it to impress." If these people don't like the real you, then they aren't really friends anyway. I know you know that already which is the reason for the " " marks. In my own life, I have found that having a few really good best friends is much more valuable than having some "friends" who don't value the real me. You deserve to be respected and liked for yourself, not for what someone else wants you to be.
2006-11-18 08:17:02 · answer #1 · answered by explorerkade 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then why do you call these people your friends? It is so much pressure to play at being somebody else to attract people. Be yourself and if they don't like it say goodbye. Did you see the movie, "The Breakfast Club?" The teenagers on that movie had many of the same problems as you do. They actually turned out ok in the end. You deserve better, but don't become so big headed because you said I am so popular.
2006-11-18 08:18:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
We are all chameleons to some extent, that is we learn how to behave with different people.
But what you are saying, suggests that you feel you need to do something out of character in order to be popular.
I don't blame your 'friends', as far as they are concerned, you are the person you present to them.
I may be wrong, but I imagine you feel the pressure to do things which you do not actually agree with.
I've just looked for a book I once read, it was called Why Am I Afraid to Tell You Who I Am? Can't find it at present, but basically it gave the reasons why we hide ourselves from the people we meet, the people we love. One of the strongest reasons is the fear of rejection.
It is extremely enriching to open up in front of the people we meet, your 'friends', it is possible when they see the lead you are taking they will be inspired to open up more themselves, if they do, and you see their naked personalities, you may see those ' ' disappear from friends.
You have to introduced your true self to your 'friends', there is a risk they may reject you, but if they do they were never your true friends, they were friends with that creature from your imagination, which they saw. But that creature from your imagination is also part of you, and as you grow, they will see that the person you were (according to them) has grown.
I cannot guarantee they will stay with you, when they begin to see the real you, but I am confident that the real you, is far more interesting than that small part of you which your friends have seen to date.
2006-11-19 06:40:55 · answer #3 · answered by DoctressWho 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm kinda like that, i sorta live two lives. I made friends with people like me be myself with them and spend time with the friends that i had orignally who i can't be myself around.
2006-11-18 08:20:35 · answer #4 · answered by trini_rocker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should ask yourself if you cant be yourself around your friends how good of friends are they. Then you have to decide if you are yourself around them will they still be your friends. If not you have to choose between being yourself or having these friends.
2006-11-18 08:16:25 · answer #5 · answered by jaysin2386 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well syaing your "totally popular" should also mean that you are well liked and you can make other friends right?
2006-11-18 08:14:50 · answer #6 · answered by sunslover_19 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find friends that like you for who you actually are... it wont be hard because it seems like you are good at making friends
2006-11-18 08:14:26 · answer #7 · answered by vancityblunt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sei davvero italiana grl?
2006-11-18 09:57:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i hate people like you.
2006-11-18 08:13:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
be yourself then
2006-11-18 08:14:18 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋