my friend jamie is driving me crazy. she calls like 13 times a day and its getting on my nerves. she is also trying to e mail my boyfriend and i really feel uncomfortable with her doing it. how can i tell her very nicely to stop it please (im a nice person so i am sorta looking for not rude answers or comments)
2006-11-18 08:08:44 · 13 answers · asked by Lily 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
If you guys are close friends, then she will listen when you talk to her. Calmly and nicely ask her to give you some room. Let her know it makes you a tad uncomfortable that she speaks to your boyfriend. Don't sound like you are trying to "control" her, but say it firmly enough so that she will get the jist. If she is really your friend, she should understand.
2006-11-18 08:14:31 · answer #1 · answered by tbmass 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just have to tell her how you feel period! Just let her know that all her phone calling is intereferring with your everyday affairs. Limit your conversations, and phone calls. Afterall, not everybody stays on the phone all day! As for the boyfriend part, you have to set bounderies with your friends to avoid this situation. It does not matter how nice you are, once someone starts to irritate you, or get under your skin for whatever reason, being nice and patient starts to run out... inevitably it will bring out the nastiness in people:( Be firm, put your foot down... even a simple "I can't talk right now, i'm busy" and then hanging up may suffice. If this continues because you don't want to be rude and hurt her feelings, then you'll just have to bite down and bear it! Remember...we only end up suffering withe these problems when we allow people to overstep our bounderies!
2006-11-18 16:20:14 · answer #2 · answered by wherenai 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, this is a hard fact. You will find there is people like this all through your life. If you try to ignore them, they just come on stronger. If they are a friend, I just try to tell them. Hey, look girl you are out of control. 3 to 4 calls a day is normal. Is something going on in your life that is putting on this spin? Talk to your boy friend about it. Both of you talk to her. He should feel uncomfortable talking to her. Especially if she discusses you. Sooooooo NOT Coooooooool. Good Luck
2006-11-18 16:20:24 · answer #3 · answered by guberDWG 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you've answered it yourself, treat her like you would want to be treated, nicely but firmly. privately talk with her and tell this is bothering you to have her email your boyfriend and call you all the time. if that doesn't do it be firmer and just tell her stop doing it. if that doesn't, don't answer her when she calls, even if you have to change your number. talk with your boyfriend and have him not answer her emails. if it persists you may just have to cut off being friends with her, but tell her why. but also why is she calling you, does she have a problem, going through difficult times, insecure maybe she needs to know you want her as friends but not way she is handling it.
2006-11-18 16:16:39 · answer #4 · answered by falling leaves 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just talk to her and explain how you feel! It would help if you started your "speech" with a compliment like "Hey, you know I appreciate you, we've been friends for a while and I really like you but there is something I need to tell you....". Don't worry about a thing. If she respects you, she will understand! Hope I've helped! Good luck!
2006-11-18 16:13:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her your not comfortable with her e-mail-ing your boyfriend yet.
Make a joke out of her calling you 13 times a day.
2006-11-18 16:14:11 · answer #6 · answered by itsALICE! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her: hey i get kind of busy so i was wondering if you dont call as much because i cant answer a lot of the time." then say about the email "im not so comfortable with you emailing my boyfriend, i know you wont do anything but i just get protective" or just be mean!
2006-11-18 16:12:33 · answer #7 · answered by jane 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
type this: Hey jamie it's me (your name) I was wondering if you can stop Emailing my boy friend please? I'm kind of uncomfortable of the thought of you doing that?
2006-11-18 16:14:03 · answer #8 · answered by monpuchi k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just simply tell her that you still have to give some attention to some other thing.
2006-11-18 16:12:35 · answer #9 · answered by lolipop 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
politely tell her that you need more space and dont have time to yak on the phone all the time. tell her about how you feel about her emailing your boy, ask her why she does it, see what she says
2006-11-18 16:12:24 · answer #10 · answered by vancityblunt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋