I have been married for 5 yrs. and I have a very special girlfriend who is also married. i think my husband knows of our relationship now. She is married too and my husband will tell her husband that we have been playing on the side. should we lie about our relationship and just tell them we are best friends and nothing more? or should we come right out with it? we love each other and don't want this to end! maybe we should just leave our husbands and be together?
2006-11-18 07:38:59 · 20 answers · asked by sissy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No matter how you look at it, your still cheating on your husband and he don't deserve that. Think about him and his feelings. Your thinking of yourself and what you want. Why don't you put him and his feelings, needs and wants before your own. It's so sad that people have to be so selfish these days, especially when it comes to sex. You need to tell your husband about your affair, because if you don't it could ruin 2 marriages if your husband and your g/f's husband finds out. And about what anyone has said about the swinging lifestyle, don't even try it. Been in that and it almost destroyed my marriage. That lifestyle is so dangerous to a marriage. As well as having threesomes.
You married your husband, not your g/f. You should be devoting the time you are to your g/f to him. It's not fair to him.
2006-11-18 08:34:57 · answer #1 · answered by Bryan M 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
YOU have a problem!!! The husbands WILL eventually find out about you and your lesbian friend. Might as well tell them and let them go on with their lives.
You will have to make the decision.
The right thing to do is to break it off with the lesbian and cling to your husband.
It seems like women are so gullible when it comes to a "soft" shoulder to cry on and there is always a lesbian waiting, in the shadows to provide that shoulder. Women are naturally loving, warm and sensitive. This gets them in trouble with other women.
You can love someone without going the rest of the way!!! Good luck. Pops
2006-11-18 07:45:31 · answer #2 · answered by Pops 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I think my husband know now?
2014-12-13 03:22:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on what you want. If you want to stay together...then you two need to be together. Though, you can't have your cake and eat it too.
It isn't fair to your husbands. Just because your "Affair" partner is a female doesn't make it right...Cheating is Cheating. It doesn't matter if it was an Alien...You are still cheating.
Would it be okay for your husband to have a "best friend" but be sleeping with him/her? Come on...think about it.
2006-11-18 07:49:07 · answer #4 · answered by ladydrea2918 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The answer is complete honesty with each other on what the relationship is between the two of you and then complete onesy with your husbands. it is likely that one or both of them will be fine with it as long as you tell them how each of you feel ablut the men in your lives as well.
set some ground rules in talking to each of your husbands that doesn't threaten them and privately each of you tell your husbands (you owe that to them) and then all of you meet to discuss what that means.
Since the relationship has been going on for a while this is going to be very difficult, but it is the right thing to do. email me if you need any specific advice (email in my profile)
I am in a polyamorous relationship now and have been for the past 16 of our 26 year marriage. Be careful and make sure that, no matter how you feel for your girlfriend it doesn't have an effect on how each of you feels about your husband.
2006-11-18 07:50:07 · answer #5 · answered by jryanwinterhaven 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Lie , deny and demand proof. Do u still like doing your husband ?? If so , just keep everything going, and if your husband threatens to pursue the issue , include him in your sessions sometimes as a reward.
2006-11-18 07:41:56 · answer #6 · answered by DEADGONE 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Do you both still love your husbands? Maybe you can have the best of both worlds. Be honest with your husband about your relationship with the other woman and see what reaction he has. If you still love your husband and he loves you and your relationship is good now - why change.
2006-11-18 08:18:11 · answer #7 · answered by ur_ave_joe 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
By being with her, you are cheating on your husband. That is not fair to him or her. So you need to decide with one you really do love and let the other one go. If you want her, then divorce him and let him be free. If you want him then let her go, cut all ties with her. Don't be playing both of them, that is not fair, and it is cheating any way you want to look at it.
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