My mom would never even think of saying this to me or one of my siblings, but my dad says this to me, my 8 year old brother, and my 5 year old sister all the time. It seems like everything I say he tells me to "Shut Up", and I think that parents shoudn't do this. By the way, I am a 13 year old boy in 8th grade. What should I do, and do you think parents should say this to their kids??? Thanks!
2006-11-18 07:38:04 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Perhaps you could ask your mother to discuss how you feel, with him. Or perhaps you could print out the following series of articles, and leave them where he 'd be likely to see them. Maybe he'd read them. Another possibility would be to ask him to read them, & mention that they explain how you feel ...
1. Harsh Words--Crushed Spirits
2. Parents Under Pressure
3. Help Your Children to Thrive
http://watchtower.org/library/g/1997/8/8/article_01.htm
Have you ever told him how you feel? Since it has been so hard for you to talk to him, do you think it migh work well if you wrote him a letter, perhaps to go along with the articfles?
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2006-11-18 20:36:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't think "Shut Up" should be phrase used on a daily basis with your kids. Even the best parents have days though when they just run out of patience. Have you sat down with your dad and discussed how it makes you feel. If your uncomfortable going to him first, talk to your mom about it and then sit down together and discuss how it makes you feel. Starting the journey through adolescents can be hard, but we've all done it. Show your parents the respect you want, you may notice you get it in return. Good Luck
2006-11-18 08:10:21 · answer #2 · answered by novelwyrm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are definitely better ways to have someone "shut up". You could tell him how much that hurts you, and maybe even think of some code word(s) that he can say when he is getting to the end of his rope, so you'll know to give him some space.
He was probably told to shut up when he was a child...most of us copy the parenting skills (or lack thereof) of our parents. A lesson for you: to remember how things like that make you feel, and not do them when YOU are a parent! :)
2006-11-18 08:14:42 · answer #3 · answered by Jani 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
maybe u should tell him how much this obviously upsets u and dont say it with your siblings either because if u dont like it done to u dont do to them or others and maybe say something to ur mom about it too. But i dont think its a big deal if parents say shut up to their kids they shouldnt do it in a very hateful mean manner though but talk to him about it and if he does again remind him of what u talked about
2006-11-18 07:54:48 · answer #4 · answered by Navywife09 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally dont think that will resolve anything. If the only thing a parent can resort to is by telling their kid to "shut up" then that's pretty sad. It is a bad example for the kids.
2006-11-18 07:41:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, many times, I've swore at her a lot too. But she abused me as a child, I've never hit her, but when you're a teenager in a unstable home, you have to try and defend yourself in some way. I don't find it disrespectful to my mum, you should hear the things that she's said and done to me.
2016-05-22 01:19:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not nice but I have done it. It's better than swearing.
It usually happens when one sib is verbaly antagonizing another sib. I'll tell one of them to shut up. It really is a do as I say not as I do thing. They( the kids) are not allowed to say shut up.
2006-11-18 07:42:06 · answer #7 · answered by dudeman 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to be specific.
What are you doing at the time he says Shut Up?
Parents have their right to say it, but not if they are just saying to so they don't have to bother with you.
If they are saying it just because they would rather watch television, it's one thing.
But if you are being rowdy and after two times they tell you to be quiet and you don't listen, that's another.
You need to be more specific.
2006-11-18 07:42:59 · answer #8 · answered by elidet_reyes 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well if the kids tell their parents to shut up, then the parents should tell the kids to shut up....
return the favor, ya know
2006-11-18 09:03:27 · answer #9 · answered by tangerine9561 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My parents dont either but say " be quiet" i dont think its right but im not gonna tell somebody how to talk or raise their children so i just hear it and walk away
2006-11-19 03:48:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋