My husband is addicted to porn...as i have already told you in my previous questions. He is specially addicted to Filipina girls. He has dozens of them in his buddy list. They play sex shows for him. He sees them naked on the webcams. Once i saw a few pictures of girls other than philipinas, they were showing their private parts, it was very nasty. I mean specially they were showing their vaginal part. I felt really bad. I could not imagine my husband looking at such private things. Live webcams and chatting has made my life hell. I dont feel like having sex with him. He doesnt spend any time outside bz he has nothing much to do in the outside world as he is here in europe on a student visa. He doesnt study at all. He spends most of his time on the internet while i sleep. He knows it hurts me bt he doesn't quit. He looks for a chance when he can get online and do all this ****. I'm asian american and he expects me to take him to usa as he doesn't seem to have a future here in europe.
2006-11-18 07:32:56 · 16 answers · asked by mind 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You need to dump him. If he is not willing to change and clean up his act. Life is to short to spend with someone that doesn't respect you. If you love him it will be hard, but you need to do it for your own health and happiness. Another will come along that will love you the way you deserve.
2006-11-18 07:36:52 · answer #1 · answered by Me 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I can't determine with the way you feel. I've been lucky ample to certainly not have undergone this sort of horrific expertise. I can handiest present you my sympathies and hope that you can find the force to overcome it. Reminiscences are a loopy thing. Trauma appears so much more suitable than pleasure. I keep in mind pleased instances in my lifestyles - I've had so many of them. But more than that, I do not forget crashing my bike in a left-hand activate MO125 in October of 2006. Whenever I trip that road I must maintain more focus on that distinctive flip than every other in order that i don't excited about what I did improper and crash again. Whenever I round that flip i will point out the targeted spot where I lost manipulate and ended up breaking my neck and hand and dropping my favorite bike. It is just anything that stays with you. As little concord as there is in this component to Y!A, i am hoping you at least suppose that there are persons who surely care on the grounds that you're human. Try to have a hey anyway. Thanks for sharing.
2016-08-09 22:53:35 · answer #2 · answered by roupe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is absolutely amasing to me how many women have been through this or are going through this. Why do men do this to us? Mine wasnt this bad but he was on a singles site, a few of them, saying he was single and talking to women. I wonder if there was none of this on the computers these days if they would seek other meens to hurt us?? What ever happen to a man just picking up a nasty magazine and beeting off?? I dont know what to tell you sweetie but when you love someone who does these things to you I know it hurts and not just a little, It is something that is hard to forget about and you will deal with it every time you go to sleep, everytime you leave the house, every chance he gets to get on the computer you will think about it.
Can you live with that? If not Id be packing my stuff and leaving him in Europe to fine him a nice girl that will put up with this s**t!!
2006-11-19 07:10:01 · answer #3 · answered by littlebit02 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why in the world are you still with this man. This guy isn't a husband he's a constant pain in your heart. Take him to the US?No take him to the cleaners and get the heck out of there. This will only diminish your self confidence, integrity, and esteem. He's abusing you! Life is too short to be with someone so totally unaffected by your feelings. He treats you like your his mother or some other disciplinarian. He's needs to hide his habits from you, waiting until you go to sleep to practice his deception? Get out, get well and live your life in happiness not misery.
2006-11-18 07:50:02 · answer #4 · answered by crkristy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're ACTUALLY going to bring him from Europe because he has no future and dump him on us here in the U.S., where he'll be of equal laziness??! We have enough bums! Just leave his butt and find yourself a REAL man who'll be good to you and let YOU be his fantasy!
You need to know that you are worth a great man and deserve to be treated like a queen. You know what you should do, but it's up to you to be strong enough to do it.
2006-11-18 07:38:17 · answer #5 · answered by me 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
when a man is into porn he doesn't view his marriage as he should, it takes away from the marriage. your self worth is at stake here and u feel as if he is wasting marital time on the porn sites. best to just get a divorce and find someone who will treat you like a wife. no matter where u move him he will continue to do the same things. he has made a choice here to do what he does.
2006-11-18 10:13:23 · answer #6 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whooaaa if i were u i dont know like i would have to give him an ultimatum u may love him BUT i wouldnt put up with that **** no no no way i would kick his *** out and tell him he can choose and if he chooses the other **** i would divorce because me i dont put up with that kinda stuff that is nasty and if im not good enough for him to look at and have sex with then why be together??
2006-11-18 07:37:41 · answer #7 · answered by alyssa<3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The short answer.....DUMP HIM!
No matter how painful it is. You will be better off without him.
If he is as you describe, he is a sick, obsessive man who doesn't care about you as a person, only insofar as you fulfill his obsessive fantasies about Asian women. He only wants you for the free ride to America.
2006-11-18 07:43:48 · answer #8 · answered by pessimoptimist 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't see that you are being used and you keep justifying his actions, then you deserve it.
Divorce him.
He EXPECTS you to take him to the USA.
He is using you and you let him.
Didn't you learn anything from Britney Spears?
I'm sorry, I don't have sympathy for stupid girls who can't walk away.
If you don't have the COMMON SENSE to walk away, you DESERVE every little bit you are getting.
It hurts for him to cheat, because you are staying around.
LEAVE!
I'm being mean because you are sugar coating it.
2006-11-18 07:37:12 · answer #9 · answered by elidet_reyes 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not to encourage violence but I personally would throw the computer at his head as I was walking out on him
2006-11-18 08:14:08 · answer #10 · answered by Ashley 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋