My brother is married to a women from Pakistan, he is American and she has had seven abortions.?

Question

My brother worked for Halliburton overseas for 25 years, and I know it's his choice to be married to her, but he was raised as a christian. I just can't understand how some women can use abortion for birth control. Any comments? My brother and I do not speak, because of issues concerning her inability to tell the truth-about anything!

Answer 1

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Wow.... all I can say is that he's married to a serial killer...


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Answer 2

Amazing...I never really had a close up of this nationality like you have...though my wife is from the Philippines...I think you should respect your brothers right to choose but in the same instance distance yourself from the lying but not to the point of non communication...people from other countries can be very different obviously...but I dunno...there seems to be something there that is compelling to understand and relate to...maybe it's a sense of humanity...we can't just shelter ourselves from those from other places...no matter how unfortunate their lives have been...using abortion so many times is surely disconcerting, but if you were born there you would likely be of the same dissension...I think that's the point I'm trying to make here...although it's easier to talk the talk than walk the walk...it would be a bit of a paradox your facing in that case..(just thinking out loud here)..so my rule of thumb when it comes to catch 22 situations has become to side w/ the part of the paradox that will turn out best for me...biased and leftist as it may sound...but you gotta draw the line somewhere...when it comes to paradoxes being on neither side is an automatic out anyway...know what I mean?...

Answer 3

Abortion is physically painful, kind of expensive, and mentally stressful to say the least. It's not a good choice of birth control. But you shouldn't judge her. You maybe wouldn't have an abortion(s), but you haven't lived her life. If you love your brother then let him make his own choices and/or mistakes.

Answer 4

It might be acceptable in her culture to have abortions. You should try to maybe see it from her point of view. You don't have to agree with it, but you can't tell someone what they can and can't do even though you may be highly against it. You shouldn't let this issue cause a rift between you and your brother maybe you should let them now calmly how you feel about the situation and if they don't agree then you should just forget about it because there is nothing you can really do, and it's not worthlosing the bond between you and your brother

Answer 5

Is she really using abortion as a method of birth control? That is very immature if she is and appalling. How old is she?

If your brother and you do not speak any more, how do you know about her abortions, is another family member telling you? If so, ask this family member to stop sharing your brother's family information with you, especially something of this nature. Tell them that you wish to not carry this burden on your shoulders.

Answer 6

Like christian women have not had abortions? Please get off that high horse of yours. So what if she's had seven abortions. Is that your business. Do you have to spend the rest of your life with her? Ye who have committed no sin cast the first stone. Aren't you bearing false witness telling us this?

Get a life and get out of your brothers business!

Answer 7

That is really sad! To me I would never have an abortion it is just that the child could be the next president or make a difference in the world. God gives life and I am not going to take away the opportunities for that child. If my parents had aborded me then I wouldn't be where I am today. I would like to think that all the babies that have lost their lives through abortion are in heaven with Jesus.

Answer 8

it is sad for one human to take the lives of so many children. she must have no morals at all. she needs to abstain or get her tubes tied or some type of control. he surely as a christain man doesn't want every child he conceives to be aborted. that is so sad. tell him how you feel on that issue, but just let him know you care for his feelings also, not trying to but, but worry for his happiness. try to keep in touch with your brother, you can never replace him. he will live the life he chooses, but you can still be his sister. and he should respect your feelings and want to be your brother, we only have one life here, sit down and talk to your sister-in-law and tell her how you feel also. maybe you guys can come to some agreeements and be a family, and sometimes have lunch or go to church together. if you are far apart, phone calls and letters and pictures are nice and you can at least be in touch with each other. the sister-in-law should respect the family feelings. love one another.

Answer 9

Well at least he doesn't have to support her 7 brats. This is a cultural thing.. over 50% of the babies in Romania are aborted too. Obviously she is not ashamed of it because she is letting everyone know. If you don't mind her sabotaging your relationship with your brother than go ahead and let her. I can' t see why you can't have a long distance relationship with him. After all is she the only thing you have to talk about?

Answer 10

Wow, i agree. If you are looking to have a better realtionship with your brother then try talking to him about your interests and his. If she comes up just stay away from the subject. Talk about positive things, maybe meet for lunch. If you want to get rid of her, thats not your decision to make, good marriges stay that way from having issues.

Answer 11

...then why did he marry her? Obviously they have some major moral differences. If you brother believes abortion was wrong and she had 7 abortions..how does that work? If he wants kids, is she going to let him?