many of you have already read my 3 other questions.I'm the guy who's soul is dying because his beloved wife of 14yrs has decided.that the grass is greener on the other side with a imoral 25 yr old who knows shes married and has 2 kids with me.I'm 32yrs old but told I look 20 she 33 and looks young also.doesnt a woman know shes loved when her hubby comes home from work and if she is sleeping whispers I love you in her ear and kisses her on the cheek?doesnt she know shes loved when your giving her hugs and softly kissing every part of her face?and last shouldnt she know shes loved when I'm in love with you always comes from my mouth.I think shes living in a dream world with this guy and is trying to crush me like a roach.every time I try to concern her about her affair she tries to say we met to young or we argued to much,or something of that kind to try and justify what she is doing.why is she blind to the fact that she is being used?I dont know what to do or say to her anymore.
2006-11-18 06:01:30 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
without knowin you or her I cant possible comment on what has or has not happened in your relationship...
I can say that I was caught in the midst of a somewhat situation many years ago when a friend was using me as her cover story while she was going out with a young man of 25.... her hubby was at home with the kids...
My response to her was to say: No. You cant use me as a cover story. No. I don not like what you are doing to your husband.
My response to him was tosay: I don't know what you should do but I dont think I could be as patient as you.
His response was to simply say that she was free to leave if that is what she wanted but she was not free to take the children from their home nor was she free to keep the family home.
It took her 8 agonising weeks to make her mind up..... she stayed..
They are still married.
2006-11-18 06:52:02 · answer #1 · answered by wollemi_pine_writer 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There has to be some reason why she is hagging on to this other man. What I am thinking is that she needs to find out for her self if you truly love her or not by being with this other guy. Even though you were telling her constantly how much you loved her, she was still having doubts for some reason. By being with this other man, she is not only seeing but she is also feeling the love that she has given up for this man. You should not be grieving over this you should be understanding why she is going through this predicament. Just because you tell her that you love her every day and you whisper I love you while she is sleeping that is not showing her. Now if you would wake her up by loving & kissing on her and then when she is awake tell her that you love her and then make love to her and show her that you love her as well, maybe she will believe it more. Because you are not only telling her you are also showing her. I hope that you understand my meaning?
I wish you the best of luck.
God Bless!
2006-11-18 06:52:45 · answer #2 · answered by bigred 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love is more than words
it is listening to her when she talks or even cries etc
or taking out the rubbish for her
if you hear her nagging she is feeling unloved
because she would not have to nag about anything if she was treated like she needs to be treated that feeling of being the most important thing in the world to you!!
BUT that is no excuse for her to be a cheating liar
DUMP her but always see your kids & never run Mum down to them because that will hurt them
you seem like a guy that would make most women happy to be with so try & move on
& good luck
2006-11-18 07:47:54 · answer #3 · answered by ausblue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My friend I have been there, you cannot figure it out. Her soul is lost is all I can tell you, you need to take care of yourself, I was so heart broken that I felt I could nt go on with my life. One day God touched my heart, and I gave my heart to Him, He loves, He heals, He cares and hates a broken heart......I invited Jesus into my heart, best thing that I have ever done....God bless ya.
2006-11-18 06:18:49 · answer #4 · answered by Bert 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be patient but take care of yourself first. You may be smothering her and she needs time to miss all the good loving you've given her.
2006-11-18 06:05:45 · answer #5 · answered by pinniethewooh 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Walk.
Make her believe you mean it. I think she wants what she can not obtain.
Don't desert your kids though.
Be prepared to start your life anew. But also be prepared to forgive her if she comes back and you want her too, just don't make it to easy for her.
Good luck
2006-11-18 06:29:50 · answer #6 · answered by Carl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no longer creepy. joe is nineteen and kevin is 21. they do no longer seem to be young ones anymore. yet, if she is crushing on them, then confident. very creepy. my mom likes some songs of my cd, yet she does not like them for seems; she has basically seen them some circumstances.
2016-10-04 02:48:16 · answer #7 · answered by grumney 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce her for adultery...
Find a new & worthy wife...
2006-11-18 06:09:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not us you need to convince.
2006-11-19 00:37:33 · answer #9 · answered by sue m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋