I(I’m a male) told my close female friend how I felt about her and she said we should remain friends.She said it 'wouldn't feel right' going further--meaning?
She said she don't deserve my feelings---meaning??
Said she can’t imagine me not being in\part of her life---this mean anything??
After our chat,we agreed to always remain friends and hugged.
I txt her a week later(sort of ignored her as I needed to clear my head,)saying how impt the friendship is to me and apologised if I made her feel uncomfortable and hope that we’re cool.Why hasn’t she txt bck for over 5 days now??(we’re usually in touch everyday!)I say anything wrong?
Why has she suddenly gone quiet on me??She missing me??What should I do?
We are attracted to each other....
2006-11-18 05:02:30 · 14 answers · asked by sircrazydude90 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I know exactly what she meant when she said that it wouldn't feel right going further (of course I'm assuming that you mean sexually). When you are female & have a great friendship w/a male, you are afraid of messing the friendship up by having sex/making love. She loves you as a friend & the thought of screwing around, possibly ending that friendship scares the hell out of her!!! I've been there, done that and it hurts for a loooong time!!!
She probably/may have said~she doesn't deserve your feelings because she doesn't return them - not in the same way anyhow. She loves you but is not "in love" with you, I hope you understand what I mean.
I think that what she meant when she said that she couldn't imagine you not being a part of her life is...she is afraid of losing your friendship because of this situation.
As for your chat, agreement, hug & txt message~txt her one more time to make sure that she got the message or even better"call" her. If she doesn't answer this time~leave her alone for a month or more. Let her contact you; if she doesn't then you were never really friends; but if she does~listen to her w/your mind as well as your heart!! And leave the other anatomical parts out of it!!!
Best of luck to you! I know how much it hurts to lose a friend, I did!!!
2006-11-18 07:57:46 · answer #1 · answered by Donna J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it wouldn't feel right going further with u cos she cant imagine being with u in that way or she's insecure about herself..
What she means by she doesn't deserve your feelings is she probably feels there is someone better out there 4 u..
She cant imagine u not in her life means if u split up then u may not stay friends this leaving her without u in her life..
I think that she may not know how to chat as mates cos u have told her things that cant b forgotten, but I don't think that your friendship is over just that she needs time to either think bout her feelings for u or let u get over your feelings 4 her..
U could go 2 see her & let her know that u really miss her frienship & ask if she' cool with everything or wait a few more days 2 see what she does.
2006-11-18 06:11:43 · answer #2 · answered by bakebeanie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ouch.
ummmmm well I would say what she said if I didn't want to go out with the guy.
however, there are some guys that I like loads as friends but I would feel so uncomfortable going out with them because its like one minute he's just a friend then the next minute you're kissing etc and it just feels so strange. So that's probably how she would have felt.
Said she can’t imagine me not being in\part of her life---this mean anything??
maybe she just meant if she ever went out with you then you broke up, your friendship will probably be no more and she can't deal with that because your really good mates.
She said she don't deserve my feelings---meaning??
However, i have NO idea what she means that THAT,
As to why she hasn't text you back, I have no idea, how about you call her instead. Don't worry, she won't think you're getting desperate or anything, I think she may just feel a bit uncomfortable with the fact that she knows that you like her in that way.
2006-11-18 05:13:35 · answer #3 · answered by don't stop the music ♪ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sadly your friendship may never be the same since your revelation. You were both more than likely living in denial about your feelings for each other, and that will now always be there. You need to keep contacting her until she agrees to talk thouroughly about the situation. Then just take it from there. Good luck.
2006-11-18 05:07:52 · answer #4 · answered by Billy 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
seems you are playing games with your friend coz i think you both like each other but she is trying to avoid getting into a relationship with you of which i think that wont be good for both of you, why restrict yourself, does she have any other man she might be attracted too besides you that she want to get involved with? if not so i will advise you to talk to her again because i think that once you develop feelings for your friend, its either you should go out or your wont be really friends again coz the feeling wont go away even if you agree on the surface that you will remain friends.
2006-11-18 05:34:15 · answer #5 · answered by Ayati 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think she feels if you were to take it further and hypothetically it didn't work out that you would never be able to be as good of friends as you are now. and she doesnt want to do anything to lose that,because she does want you in her life. i think you did the right thing by txting her what you did as for her not getting back is it possible she didnt get it? anyway i would make sure she knows by phone maybe that you arent trying to "bug" her but you want to make sure that she knows how important of a friend she is and that you want your friend back in your daily life..
2006-11-18 05:20:48 · answer #6 · answered by lorie 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-04 02:46:14 · answer #7 · answered by grumney 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shes obviously confused about what to do, give it a bit more time and dont tx her for a while. Let her come to you as you have said everything that needed saying so its now up to her.
2006-11-18 05:06:50 · answer #8 · answered by herbal ashtray 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
All she wants is a friend ship, nothing more, she does not like you like that. She probably has a boyfriend or is looking for one, and she is not attracted to you in that way. God bless*
2006-11-18 05:06:26 · answer #9 · answered by ? 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
WHY NOT HAVE ANOTHER TALK TO HER AND ASK HER WHAT SHE MENT,OR IF YOU DONT WANT TO ASK HER FACE TO FACE WHY NOT PHONE OR TEXT?THE POOR GIRL IS CONFUSED AND NEEDS SOME TIME SO FOR THE TIME WHY NOT GET TO KNOW EACHOTHER EVEN BETTER AND FOR THE TIME JUST STAY FRIENDS,HAVING FEELING FOR SOMEONE DOESNT MEAN IYOU HAVE TO BE GOING OUT WITH THEM DOS IT?HOPE I HAVE HELPED .goodluck!
2006-11-18 05:16:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋