16 year old, doesn't care about grades, appearance, hygiene ect have tried taking away several of his privileges at different times and he just doen't care. Is there more effective punishment?
2006-11-18 04:56:05 · 17 answers · asked by Pam W 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
It sounds like your son may suffer from depression. There are lots of reasons why kids become depressed. He may be being bullied at school, is his father in the home, does he have any friends, does he recieve encourgement from peers, family, etc.. He may just feel like no one understands him, trying having a serious heart to heart with him, with you doing all the talking, encourging him, giving him praise, dont mention any of the bad or negative things about him. Try doing this every day for one week, if it dosent work, try taking him to a church that has a good youth group, or trying taking him to a shrink... i hope this advice works..
2006-11-18 14:46:13 · answer #1 · answered by miss nycole 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Boy oh boy...my 16 year old is now 19 and is just beginning to behave like I am in fact the person who raised him. At sixteen I did not even know who he was. I used all forms of punishment for "behavior" and poor grades but to no avail. My son, at the time was also very combative and mean. As I look back I wish I would have tried harder to understand what he was going through. In most cases he shut me out but I wish I would have tried harder to be involved in his world by listening to his music, spending more time with his (unsavory) friends, etc.
Bottom line: There has to be consequences for behavior but think about spending more time with him by going out to dinner once or twice a month, hanging out in his room sometimes and listening (without challenging) when he's angry. I know all this can be easier said than done. Good luck!
2006-11-18 05:09:08 · answer #2 · answered by Natalie 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-15 17:18:48 · answer #3 · answered by boatright 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come up with an incentive for improvement. What is a priveledge or reward that he would LOVE but doesn't normally get? Set a goal for him to work towards.
Talk to his teachers. Find out what they suggest about his homework and performance in school. Is there a "supervised study" that you could put him in after school?
Stop any after school activities until grades improve.
2006-11-18 04:59:30 · answer #4 · answered by momma2mingbu 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he wants to act like a careless child, treat him like one.
He'll get sick of being 10 again really fast.
No phone, no friends, no tv, no games, no after school activities, no going places, no driving, no license, no job, no money, no dating, no nothing.
He can stay at home and get help withhis home work, make sure he's cleaned his room, have mom wash his clothes and hair and check his teeth, and help out around the home.
Once hes ready to act more like an adult and training and less like a tween then maybe he can try real life again.
Be consistant about it.
2006-11-18 05:00:38 · answer #5 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not really, "don't care attitude" means he clearly doesn't f**king care! I was sort of like that for awhile, very bad a*s kid, gave my parents a lot of grief, then just got over it... not a damn thing worked with me. he needs a girlfriend or something i think, to get him out of it.
2006-11-18 12:51:20 · answer #6 · answered by skye_macd 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My nephew was the same, but a little younger if you have a local detention center in your area which most do they will let you do an overnite sta or just walk thru an show him where hes heading.
2006-11-18 04:59:12 · answer #7 · answered by mommy 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You throw more punishments hes still not going to care.
2006-11-18 06:28:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there anything upsetting him? Try talking to him and seeing what's wrong. Attempt to make conversation. You might think about bringing in a counselor.
2006-11-18 05:11:39 · answer #9 · answered by 13 year old girl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what does he like to do?
hang with friends? if so dont let him go to frinds houses until his grades are up
play computer games? same thing
2006-11-18 07:42:54 · answer #10 · answered by smartbomb314 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋