Harassment at school?

Question

At school these 2 people constinteley bother me....whether its about my last name or the type of music i listen to, they never stop. Even when i walk home if they see me they bother me. What can i do to make them stop? Went to guidance counselor about this last year and she did nothing...is there anything else i can do? They do it everyday....wat can i do to make them stop?

im and 8th grader and this started in 7th grade.....one of them told my gym teacher i cut myself...the other tells people i have an attitude.....both of them say im emo...im not.....they make fun of the way i dress, a little bit on the punkish side but not like to the extreme......they make fun of music i listen to......and they just plain make fun of me for no reason....thanks for the suggestion Laura, but i don't want to be there friends......both of them made one of my friends cry during gym......i told the guidance counselor and she did nothing.....its getting on my nerves, lowering my self esteem, and soon im just going to punch them both out or get my friends to do that for me, they have offered too, i really don't want to resort to violence but they never bother me......

if anyone has any good comebacks that would help, then that would be usefull. They call me emo, punk rocker, make fun of my last name....the last person to answer...u helped a bunch! gracias

Answer 1

this actually happened to me too, but what i did was instead of be hostile right back, i was nice. Very nice. I made jokes with them and complimented them and pretty soon they asked if we were friends....and now...we are...i mean they rnt really super close friends cuz they are a lil rude to other ppl sometimes, but they leave me alone and have my back.....maybe this will help...

Answer 2

this is what you do tell them to meat you after school get your friends together and beat the **** out of those girls let them know what real pain is. dont take there crap i know you should never hit a person but this has been going on too long. some times hitting someone is the only way to get them to stop. this is if you have tried everything else. but there is a better way that was my way. you just do the same back tell eveyone that there gay together or somthing like that. or you could keep ignoring them and tell your parents or go to a new school i dont know what else to tell you. good luck.and make sure you get there little clever jokes whish probley aint all that clever and say somthing like im sorry let me get down to your mentality. or you could be like what your so boared with your own life you have to interrupt mine.or go back to kintergarden cuz your not smart enough to talk to me. or when they talk to you look behind you and sazy o where you talking to me i thoughjt you where talking to yourself since that is the only friend you have. i dont know those really are not good but ...

Answer 3

Laura's answer if very good, but it doesn't always work. I know - I have tried. If that doesn't work or you prefer not to handle it that way, you may see a guidance counsellor, as someone else suggested very appropriately. I know that where I am, such harassment is against the law - I would use the law only as last resort. It is no more appropriate to harass someone in school that it is to harass someone in the workplace.

Answer 4

You should talk to your parents I know it sounds lame and they may make fun of you more but if the guidance counselor isn't doing anything then maybe your parents can do something or make the school do something. A bully will always be a bully until you stand up to them-they pick on people who they know won't fight back-you don't have to get physical but make a stance and let them know you won't tolerate their behavior anymore.

Answer 5

There are lots of reasons why kids attack other kids like that- sometimes they are jealous, sometimes they actually like the person and want their attention, sometimes they want to know who you are, or maybe they just want to feel bigger by bullying others. If they are NOT being physically abusive to you ( such as vandalizing your stuff or actually hitting you, tripping you, etc.), as hard as it is, ignore it. Or, stand up to them and ask them what their problem is. Sometimes calling them on it is enough to stop them. You didn't mention what grade you are in, so I can only assume it's a high school thing. But always be confident in who YOU are. If it's just these two people, let them be idiots. It's ignorance on their parts. Be the bigger person.

Answer 6

Insist that the guidance counselor take positive action since this is an on-going issue. If he/she continues to be reluctant to deal with it, go to the immediate supervisor with the entire story.

Answer 7

HAY THIS SOUNDS WEIRD BUT WHENEVER THEY SAY SOMETHING ACT LIKE YOU DON'T CARE. I KNOW IT IS HARD TO JUST FORGET THAT THEY SAID SUCH HARSH THINGS BUT IT WORKS. JUST BE LIKE OK WHATEVER OR LIKE PRETEND LIKE YOU WEREN'T LISTENING. BECAUSE I KNOW WHAT YOU ARE GOING THROUGH I HAVE A REALLY GOOD FRIEND THAT IS ALSO A GIRL AND PEOPLE AT MY SCHOOL THINK I AM WEIRD SO. HEY BUT AT LEAST I HAVE ALOT OF GOOD FRIENDS TO BACK ME UP.

Answer 8

There's a number of things you can do. You can talk with your parents and let them know what's going on, see what they say; You could return to the guidance office, and this time insist that they do something. Or, you can take matters into your own hands and try a couple of things. First, you need to decide -- do you want them to be friendly to you or do you just want them to leave you alone. First you need to figure that out for yourself -- because each one takes a different path. Either one, I'll give you
some suggestions that may work.
If you want them to be friendly -------- You could be very direct with them, after school, go over to their house, or if more comfortable, motion them over by you when you're walking home, to join you. You make the first act to speak with them - you take control. Instead of pointing out their bad behavior, why not start with - "hey, I was wondering.....you guys seem to have some problems with the music I listen to -- I was wondering if you ever really listened to it? You wanna come over to watch some music videos (or listen to the music you like) and I'll show ya why I like it?" Or you can say "can I make you a cd of some tunes you might like, if you knew the lyrics?", etc. Whatever it is about the music. You are inviting them into your world, to share with them a new point of view. If they still hate it, ok, but at least they know that you care about their opinion. It could be, that they ssecretly think you are very cool, but because the peer pressure is making them lean to what is more normal, they wonder if you can uphold a style they really like and they're pushing your buttons to see how far you will defend yourself. They may want to be more like you, and are just looking for a way to get your attention, even if it's critical. It's sort of like this -- you're at the mall, you see an outfit you absolutely have to have. You go in, and find out it costs a fortune, and your mom says - no way, we can't afford it. You have a choice -- if you really want the outfit, you go babysit, do stuff to earn the money to buy it. Or, you can give up, and when you see others wearing the outfit, you can say -- "ugh - is that awful - she looks terrible" because then you won't feel so bad that someone else has something you want. You don't believe that person looks bad -- you just want it, and you trick yourself into thinking you don't like it.

Does that make sense?

Now if you don't like the people, and don't want to be friends with them, then you try a different approach. You try to show them how ridiculous they are being. To do that you have to think of every way they hurt you, and have an "answer" for everything they say. But, the only answer you can give them has to be something that causes them to see how dumb they are acting.
No name calling, no "whatevers". Ok -- so lets say they were picking on you for your last name. You could say something like -- "well, I've been putting this off for awhile now, because she's been on her deathbed, but since you insist, I'll just make it happen, I guess.....(act like you're really having a hard time with this, real dramatic - like you're thinking, and then have one of those "oh yeah, that's what I'll do" kind of gestures and then say this:) " I'll be visiting my Gramma at the nursing home this weekend. If they can take her oxygen mask off I'll ask her why she married a man who gave me this last name, because you don't approve. Do you want her answer on cassette, or MP3?"

If they criticize the music - you say, "man, I'm so glad you shared that with me - that's a great relief -- cuz ____name of band___ called, and said that they don't approve of you"
You don't like my music? Hmm, that's ok, for alot of people, it's over their head. (not smart enough)
it's out of your league. (not qualified, not good enough)
Or, you could say, "it's a relief, cuz if you liked them, I'd have to have my head examined!" ('cuz if they liked it, then something must be wrong with you, cuz you would never like anything they would -- that is just against the law!) something like that.

Look up the lyrics for your music on lyrics.com -- and the pick out some fancy comebacks from the songs -- little one line answers that speak to the things they say that bother you.

You can outwit twits - just hang in there! You can do it! Good luck!

PS -- if they keep up with the same insults - you could say, oh man, that is so lame, can't you guys come up with some new material? Or you could say -- you guys need to get out more, get a hobby. Or you could say --- hmmm....you keep saying that over and over -- you know they have medicine for that now -- therapists - there's no shame in getting help, should I ask the guidance counselor to refer you to someone? Don't worry, I won't tell anyone. (That sort of thing. You are in control, you take charge, and not be a victim.) Again, good luck!

Answer 9

get a bunch of ur friends (guys and girls) to confront them and tell them to leave you the hell alone. a big group of people will scare them. trust me, i do it all the time

Answer 10

i dunno about u but i'd knock em out if they havent stopped in that long of time.