whats the best way to deal with bullies at school?

Question

i shold have told more details but its my daughter being bullied ive tried talking to anyone in the school that will listen ive even told the girl my daughter has my permission the beat the living daylights out of her but nothing seems to work as my daughter wont stand up for herself she'll beat anyone that even looks at her bro funny what can i do

Answer 1

same way as you do all bullies. don't be the victim, and grass them up if you feel like it

Answer 2

Are you serious? You confronted the girl and told her your daughter has permission to beat her up? I have to ask - WHO is the adult in this situation? A responsible parent doesn't confront their childs bully with such an immature threat. If you think threating the bully in that way is going to get her to back off, you're wrong. All it will do is fuel her anger and cause her to be even more mean to your daughter.

If teachers aren't doing anything (which I find hard to believe, but so be it), confront the principal or members of administration. There is not a single school in the country that will ignore a parents complaint about their child having an incessant bully. If teachers don't do anything, go to administration and I can guarantee they will make it stop. If it's really as bad as you say it is and your daughter isn't doing anything to help stop it, contact local authorities.

Answer 3

Remember - you are more than half way to solving this because your daughter has told you about the problem.
My view is that bullying reflects what goes on at home. Kids who sneer or hit other kids have learned it from adults who wield power in the same way. It's not up to your child to stand up for herself - its the duty of the school to provide a safe and happy place for her to learn. Tell your daughter that bullies are sad people. You understand it's hard to feel sorry for them, but they pick on her because they are jealous. They may not have such a loving home or maybe she is better at something their parents want them to be good at. If she hits back, it becomes an argument over who started it. The teachers try to be fair and bullies are good liars. But at the end of the day if the school wont help you need to go to the council and maybe even the police.

Answer 4

I cant believe you threatened a middle school girl, talk to her parents or something, im surprised you havent been charged by the girls parents for this : (



1st thing- try to avoid them, this is always the best aproach, but not always posible

2nd- Never travel alone! travel in as big a group as you can get togather, if its a major bully then you can probably rally all the people that he picks on togather (they will take it more personaly and wont back down as easily), the previous responses were right about bullys targeting the weak links. but standing up to them alone isnt always an option, i was bullied pretty badly in middle school but it was by the big strong kids and when i tried to stand alone i got the living **** beat out of me. groups give you allies and allies=power.

3rd- at my middle school there was a way to make it that someone had to be at least 10 feet away frome you during school. see if the school has a program like this.

there is of course certain risks to talking to teachers or your school resource officer about bulling. but dont let that stop you from doing so, if things get too out of hand then you can have a restraining order filed and if they try anything again its against the law and they will go to jail.

Answer 5

Bullies are at their worst when in a group of their buddies, alone they are usually insecure, that's why they are bullies. Make people aware of what these bullies are doing to you, your parents, teachers, coaches...contact the school counselor and tell him or her what the problem, don't be a victim, but don't take them on head on (unless there is no choice, but never get into a physical confrontation with any of them while they are in a group, if you start to win, the others will make sure you lose). if you ignore them, they will focus on you, somehow you have to get your own confidence and turf on which they feel less confident.

I was bullied as a jr. high student. I was actually bigger and stronger than the average, but since I spent summers at my parents tiny resort in the woods, I didn't have the sophisticated bearing that other "townies" had. This group of bullies I had trouble with actually had a sense of fairness (deep down) and I was bascially allowed to have my series of battles with them...by my Junior year, they dissipated, so be strong, learn things so that you will be their boss someday. They will not be in your higher science or math classes most likely, so as things get more complicated at school for them they will be further away...

Answer 6

I know this is wrong and it`s not what i think you should do .But when my little girl was being bullied by an older girl i tried every resonable way to stop it for months but nothing changed untill i resorted to going to the bullies house and punching the mother every every time her horrible daughter hurt mine you don`t need to tell me what kind of example this kind of behaviour sets but she was only 6 and the other girl nearly 11 and i got to where i didn`t care about anything but stopping her from living in fear the poor little thing was at the point where she waswalking about with her head hanging down wetting the bed and throwing up almost every day

Answer 7

verify with them, see how is he extremely getting bullied, like no matter if that's getting psychical then it isn't regularly occurring. do not attempt to stop it, when you consider that the it is going to now not artwork...yet do supply a proof for to him what bulling is, tell him that he could get up for himself, and tell a coach. do not bypass your self and tell the instructor on the grounds that you'll only make it worse, except they are getting bullied very badly like the bullies are in there face each and each and every of the time or some thing. provide a proof for to him also the persons who bully him are also damage themselves, or they have were given issues. multiple bullies get abused in diverse techniques through way of there moms and dads in order that that they take it on diverse persons to relieve anger, embarrassment, etc...I cant inform you extra, I were bullied earlier. only gotta educate to them they don't damage you and ignore about them and ultimately they'll stop and are available to a call on on absolutely everyone else...If now not then it will be an major hassle.

Answer 8

You will find that this don't end with school, my friend. Life will be full of decisions about who and what is worth confronting and that's a judgment you'll need to make with care every day.

If you're being threatened, bash them in the mouth. Many will back right off and search for easier prey. You might get an ***-kicking now and then but that happens in life. Pain goes away, bruises heal, bones mend. Regret and the habit of being timid hang on you like a terrible weight.

Answer 9

Okay this is what i done dont do it!! i was being teased for being small espically by a bunch of boys anyway one day i had enough and my anger overtook me i pushed in down a few steps of stairs at school he stopped after that he invited me to his 14 birthday party then i was the only girl. What i am trying to say is stand up to them have pride in yourself. Bullies are normally jealous of the person they are bullying or scared of them or feel threaten by them is some way. Stand up to them and get some help maybe teachers or friends if this is at school. dont give in to them i know its hard but you will look back when you have left school and think damn i wished i did it differently. So heres your chance put a stop to it NOW!!!! good luck

Answer 10

The best way to deal with bullies at school is to ignore them for a while. If the bullying gets worse and your getting picked on every day and the teacher seems to be unable to stop it, just show off, and let them know who your are. When I say show off, I mean when they step to you, just don't act scared, look them straight in the face and tell them how you feel. If you can, think about something that you can pick on them about.

Answer 11

Ignoring them could be the best way, if not let a teacher or an adult know about this, and ask them to confront them.

I'm sure all bullies have a weakness, try finding them out and use it against them.

All the best!