My friend has a pretty good chance of being pregnant. If she is, we know it's her fiance`'s. I checked online for the signs and what not and it's showing more signs that she is. She always has the munchies. Her fiance` has no clue. It was just 2 weeks ago they became enaged but she has maybe been pregnant for 3 or 4 months. He's a sweet guy and said he would like to have kids some day. What should she do, and is there a way I can help?
2006-11-18 04:29:38 · 17 answers · asked by Artsy 1 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
The only possible course-of-action is to tell him the truth. If they truly love each other, it won't matter one bit, and a loving, successful marriage can't be founded without a strong sense of honesty and trust.
Having said this, I realize this can be hard, but no one ever said it would be easy. Love is like that, and marriage even more so. I really don't know exactly what the best way for her to tell him would be, but I would recommend trying to ease him into it. Set up the place for a romantic evening in; dinner, candles, etc. Then just be honest from there.
2006-11-18 04:40:29 · answer #1 · answered by giovanni9686 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Part of having sex is coming to terms with the fact that it leads to children. No matter how careful you are at some point having sex will get you a baby.
That said, since these two are engaged to be married, and since theyre obviously willingly having sex, let them handle it on their own. Theyre parents, and theyre soon to be married, you really dont have a place in it.
If she cant be honest with her soon to be husband and create good communication skills, especially with something as big as a baby, then perhaps they have no business getting married in the first place.
She needs to tell her fiance she's pregnant so the two of them can start enjoying their pregnancy together, and look forward to their life as a family unit.
Just be there as a support for her, pregnancy is always strange, and having a friend it nice.
The best thing she can do right now is take a test, or go have blood work done, followed by telling her soon to be husband that she's pregnant.
2006-11-18 04:33:28 · answer #2 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Well before she tells him, she needs to take a pregnancy test to make sure. If they have been exclusive and trust each other, telling him she's pregnant should not be very difficult. maybe a little nerve wrecking but that's it. If they love each other enough to become engaged then they will work it out. With me, I just took my pregnancy test to my partner and said i want to show you something. You can pretty much tell what they're thinking by the expression on their face as soon as they see the results. As for you, i don't recommend that you say anything. This is a personal issue for them to get through together...it will help to build their relationship even more. You are a caring friend and she is lucky to have u by her side.
2006-11-18 04:34:31 · answer #3 · answered by snowtiger30 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First off, take a pregnancy test! How can you not know after 3-4 months, if she feels she is, then take one. If they are already engaged and he wants children, what is there to be afraid of? He would be very happy, or should be at least. If a child throws things in whack, then maybe they shouldn't get married in the first place because he has as much responsibility in the pregnancy as her, "it takes 2 to tango". I doubt there would be any problems, just pure joy! Not something she should hide the fact about, just flat out tell him!
2006-11-18 04:42:49 · answer #4 · answered by Chaotic408 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you really should not assume anything- get tested - and if yes then she should act responsibly (which by the way this would not have happened if she had waited till the marriage to have sex) I am not passing judgment just making an observation- we all sin- anyway, the man sounds like a good guy- wanted to have kids and all- agreed to marry your friend - in Lew of the "baby" knowledge- so I do not understand what the problem is- tell him , but not unless your sure you are pregnet- this kind of thing can cause stress- do not stress him out unless you are sure. this is when you really discover if he is a good fella.
2006-11-18 04:46:04 · answer #5 · answered by drox 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she needs to tell him that it is possible asap, then make a doctors appointment that they can both go to. this way he has a few days to get used to the idea and it won't be a huge shock all at once. the important thing is to get it all out in the open asap the longer she waits he may think she was hiding something bigger than a baby-- like that its not his (and yes men think like that- they love for things to be someone else fault) have her tell you when she is going to tell him and you should be available to go over there in case he leave (to clear his head or anything) so that she isn't alone feeling abandoned!! you sound to be a good friend and you need to be a support system for them both right now but the big aspect of that is to do it from a distance!!
2006-11-18 04:41:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, first take a pregnancy test then show him the result stick, If he knows where babies come from he wont be surprised. If he is surprised he is not real bright and probably not marriage material. If she isnt pregnant now is the time to go to the doc for a checkup and birth control....Clinics are free.
2006-11-18 04:35:46 · answer #7 · answered by ronnie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he really loves her, he will be happy abou the arrival of a new family member. My Faince and I each have a child from previous relationships. Before we got engaged, we had our first son. June of this year he proposed, and about 3 weeks ago, we found out that we are expecting our 2nd child together....the down fall...we are getting married in less than a year....the upside, We have our last child to add into our wedding photos!! He was really happy...it showed how much he cares about me ( I thought he was going to flip out - and he didn't!)
Anyways, she really should tell him - NOW, and they can go to the doctor together to find out.
2006-11-18 05:11:21 · answer #8 · answered by blue_eyes_1_ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Hey fiance...I'm pregnant"
Seems like one would know for sure after 3 or 4 months...and NOT by having the "munchies"
What's the problem if they are engaged anyway???
How old are you breeding people???
2006-11-18 05:05:19 · answer #9 · answered by єЖтяα ¢яιѕρψ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I love "friend" questions :) I was engaged for 2 weeks when I found out I was pregnant - and trust me, there was no way he wouldn't have known. I suspected it, we talked about it, and one day I took a test (because I had been sick that morning) and positive it was. He was the first perosn I called. My best friend was with me when I took the test, and I wouldn't even let her see the results until he knew. just tell him! :)
2006-11-18 04:35:07 · answer #10 · answered by Mrs. Lucky 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋