Pregnant agian?

Question

i took an early response test four times all positive so i am more then likely pregnant :( i will porbably have an abortion as i told me mam and dad and said if i do keep the baby they will not have anything to do with me only with the children which i don't blame them for. abortion is hard but i feel it will be better for the baby for carmen and for me i've been to irresponsible until now im gonna have an abortion then make sure all of my attetion is on my girl carmen and im gonna chuck the bf obviously he can still be the great dad he is but not a bf he aint worth it

hello i did not just ask this question :S of course im not pregnant someone must of hacked me yet my yahoo email adress is blocked? please no-one take this seriosuly i can assure you im not pregnant and i didnt just say this.x

THIS AINT MY QUESTION... i never asked this all of a sudden my computer screen went back to the yahoo homepage i logged on again and this question was up but it aint mine im not pregnant!

Answer 1

Don't worry, Never heard of computer being hacked ? Worries me now, could happen to anyone ! What did you name that lovely new baby of yours ? I know this is irrelevant to the question, I'm just being friendly !

Answer 2

If this isn't your question, somebody else wrote it and that somebody has access to your yahoo account, so that someone will be able to read all the answers. So here is my answer, not to you, but to whoever wrote the question.

First of all, you haven't told us your age or your situation. I presume, from your writing that you are particularly young, although you have already been through one pregnancy already. I am suspecting that you are still in your teens, and still living with, and depending on, your parents. I am thinking that your parents are maybe a little bit irresponsible too, or maybe feeling a bit guilty for not educating you properly about 'having babies' in the first place, for them to react so 'off-handedly' on the news that you might be pregnant again. Maybe your parents are not too wealthy and are terrified at the thought of having another mouth to feed. There is definately not enough information given here to be able to answer the question properly. Have your parents got little or no control over you? Has it always been like this? Do you deliberately try to get pregnant just to 'get at them'? Are you trying using pregnancy as a weapon against your parents?

One thing is for sure. You have a lot of growing up to do, and for the sake of your two children, you will have to do it very quickly.

ABORTION IS NOT A 'MAYBE I WILL', or 'MAYBE I WON'T', kind of option. It is ONLY an option if it is for the sake of the baby's mother's health, (in other words, if you will die unless you have an abortion), or early indications show that the foetus is drastically and/or terribly unhealthy or mal-formed and normal life would never work for it. It is absolutely not an option to be taken lightly by a naughty girl, or distraught parents. Think about how you would feel if you had been just a unwanted result after a night of passion and your parents thought about it for a few seconds and said, Nah! Don't want it! and had you snuffed out before you were even born. Scary, huh?

On another note, so it doesn't happen a third time, if you simply MUST have regular unprotected sex, (and some people do and can't control their urges), at least plan ahead and take that little pill regularly. If you are not responsible enough to do that, then have a chat with your doctor about getting your tubes tied, or have a contraception device installed/fitted/inserted, or whatever it is they do with them. Enjoy your babies. Maybe they will help you to mature quickly. Pull your weight a little bit more at home and see if you can win your parents round to helping you again. Make it worth their while. Reward them by living within their house-rules whilst you are living under their roof. Don't forget to regularly thank them for helping you. Don't demand or expect anything/everything from them.

Oh, and please learn to use your own computer when you ask these questions. Can you imagine the fear and terror you have given to the girl who owns this Yahoo account. Maybe you could find a way to apologise to her for infiltratrating her system.

Muskrat.

Answer 3

You'll get a lot of answers to this, each biased from the point of whether the person who answers is for or against abortion. I'm not in favor of it, so will give this answer:

I think that admitting your irresponsibility is on of the steps toward maturity. You are showing maturity by even asking the question. At the same time, the mature way would be to keep the baby. If your parents ignore you, they will still accept the kids. And, over time, your parents might see that you are being an adult, and will accept you. It might be hard for a bit, but it's the adult thing to do.
Good Luck, and our prayers are with you.

Answer 4

How irresponsible. It is your fault that you got pregnant so you should deal with the consequences. If you first baby got a chance then you should give this one too. If you really cared for your baby you would have been taking care of her instead of going out and getting knocked up again. So you never had all your attention on your baby girl. What a shame, didn't you learn the first time. Since you are having sex get on the pill and use condoms. If you honestly don't want the baby then give him/her up for adoption. I'm not trying to be mean I'm just honest. If you don't want kids stop spreading your legs. learn from your mistakes or deal with the consequences.

Answer 5

If you can care for one child, you can care for two. You don't need a father to take care of your babies as long as you yourself are a good mother. I am a single mother, and I am raising my son just fine without his father in his life.

If you decide to get an abortion, no one can change your mind, but clearly you must be having doubts or you wouldn't have asked this question.

Listen-- you should not casually create and destroy the lives of your children. They didn't ask to be conceived, and they have a right to live. If you do choose to have an abortion, I guarantee you will regret it. I know many women who have gotten abortions, and every single one of them was tormented by that decision for years to come.

I'm not going to tell you you acted irresponsibly, you already know that. We all act irresponsibly at one point or another-- I got pregnant with my son at 19. But now you have to make the right decision for your children-- don't make it worse by killing your child.

Answer 6

What was your question? I don't know how old you are, but you're clearly too young to be having sex, let alone have a child, let alone be pregnant again.

I think you need outside help, cos to just "chuck" the boyfriend isn't very responsible, considering your daughter is going to grow up with a part-time dad, just because you don't consider him "worth it". And if he's so not "worth it", what were you doing having unprotected sex in the first place?

I hope no one comes on here giving you sympathy, because you don't deserve it. You've fallen pregnant once, that deserves a degree of sympathy, but to be stupid enough to do it again, deserves none. I feel sorry for your daughter, because it sounds like she's being brought up in a really dysfunctional atmosphere.

Answer 7

You should give your baby a chance and let a family that would love to have a baby that cant . You should adopt your baby and if you go threw an abortion later on when you do want to have a baby you wont be able to probably. You really need to think about what you are doing here b/c your are going to regret it later in life.

Answer 8

don't have an abortion. seriously. you will feel so terrible afterwards. there is a little person inside of you, and if you kill it, you will be killing a part of yourself. it's not worth it to throw away such a precious life, that child is a part of you. as you raise your other child, you will constantly be wondering, what would have happened if i had kept the baby?

you can do it! hold on! you need to be thinking of more than just yourself or your first child, that's called playing favorites.you are not giving that child a chance to live it's life, go to school, to walk, and talk, and tell you that he/she loves you.

please, keep the baby.

Answer 9

i wouldn't abort just think one day when the baby is asking for a sibling and you have to think i already got rid of it you have one might as well make it 2 i think its ridiculas of your parents and that they will come around just think if you've have already had a baby you know what a personality they have before they even come out and i think if you came on here you just need someone to say its ok to have the baby and it is you always make due and it will be hard at the begining but it gets easier especially when they can play together

Answer 10

Thank you for sharing you problems today! What do ya want... a medal? Congratulations on lying back and spreading your legs... AGAIN! Some people really have trouble trying to have a child and your blooming broadcasting that you're having an abortion! It's not right!

Oh and before you mark me as one of these anti-abortion types, I'm not! I just don't believe you should tell everyone about it!