ok my best friend and her boy friend broke up and i was hanging out with him last night at a basketball game and we were talking and having a good time well when the game ended we decided to go see a movie and it was so much fun and at the end of the night (one of the best of my life) he said that he had a good time and that he really liked me and defientally wanted to do this again... and i really like him to but the problem is i had made my best fried a promise that we would never date each other ex boyfriend's and like they have been broken up for a month so shes over him and everything but a promise is a promise. right??? like we all hangout at school so they dont hate each other.. but i dont want to brake the promise but i cant hide my feelings for him. should i tell my friend that i cant keep the promise or do i tell the guy that we can only be friends (which i dont think i want to do) have any advice cause i dont want to lose my best friend or the guy... help please.....
2006-11-18 04:22:17 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
promise is a promise...no take backies
Be a good friend and find someone else...way too much drama there, trust me
2006-11-18 04:24:49 · answer #1 · answered by єЖтяα ¢яιѕρψ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i've been the other friend before... even if you tell her that you like him or even check to make sure that it's ok... it's gonna hurt her.. and more than likely you will lose that friend.. it may seem ok at first but as time passes... you two will drift apart and not be friends anymore... guys will come and go but good friends are hard to find. if you are truely a good friend you won't date the guy... just be friends with him and find someone else... because it's gonna happen you guys will date and break up and if you have lost your best friend to this, then who's shoulder will you have to cry on until you bounce back??? just think about sweetie.. and i hope you make the right choice.
2006-11-18 14:43:42 · answer #2 · answered by gizmo_chik04 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok try thinking about it this way if you had the boyfriend and broke up with him and your best friend wanted to date him even after you promised each other to stay away from ex-boyfriends how would you truely feel about it?
also it depends on how serious your bf and the guy were if it was pretty serious i'd steer clear of him and find another guy your bf's feelings should come first
2006-11-18 12:31:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you break this promise that means any promise you make can be broken. But when she starts dating your ex don't get mad, even if you still have feelings. You shouldn't do it. My friends and I have that same promise and I would never think of breaking it.
2006-11-18 12:29:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In this situation it sounds like your best friend or her ex boyfriend will be hurt. Which one would bother you most if hurt? How would you feel if your best friend was dating your ex after she promised not to? Good luck !!
2006-11-18 13:18:25 · answer #5 · answered by 1st time mom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell your friend that you really like this guy. ask her if it would hurt her if you started going out. don't tell her, ask. if she says she doesn't mind, then great! if she does, than i would respect that and just be friends with the guy. that guy will not always be your boyfriend, but your friend will most likely be around for a while. you don't want to lose her just because of a crush.
good luck!
2006-11-18 12:27:24 · answer #6 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Consider this. What if SHE gets back together with him? What will they talk about (you) if that outrageous thing happened after you are done going out with him. If you can't handle that possibility, then you need to reconsider. It's better to keep the friend than loose both.
2006-11-18 15:35:50 · answer #7 · answered by nitr0bike 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well...That's a tough one. I think you should just tell your friend before she finds out. If she's that good of a friend then tell her. It shouldn't be a problem if she's over him. Maybe you should ask her who she fancies now just to check. But before u tell her, make sure u do fancey him before! Be prepared for a bit of anger from her but it should be fine. Hope it goes ok!
2006-11-18 12:30:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
go for the guy
but still be a friend
this is something you need to tell your friend
if she is a true friend she wikll understand
promises can be broken sometimes
but make sure you are doijng the right thing.
2006-11-18 12:32:48 · answer #9 · answered by brittanys789 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her the truth about what happened. if it is really over for her WHY SHOULD SHE CARE. Friend discuss things and operate in mutual respect.
2006-11-18 12:30:50 · answer #10 · answered by gerry m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋