I have found my mates wife on a lot of online dating sites with some rather rudey pictures on her profile. Her profiles all say she is singe and looking to meet men for fun and other things.
Should i tell my mate?
2006-11-18 03:47:19 · 46 answers · asked by Jay 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
create an annonymos email and send him a link, that way you don't get caught in the cross fire
2006-11-18 03:50:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well I just went through this with a friend, It is hard to hear about a spouse being unfaithful or untruthful from anyone else than yourself. It is embarrassing and if you would like to work through it and act as if it never happened you always have a hard time with someone else thinking bad of your spouse and knowing all your spouses faults, you want them to think great of them as you do. I suggest that you help them find it themselves or go to the mates wife or girlfriend and tell them game is up. They have to come clean and if they don't you will tell it for them. This will allow them to tell it.
You really need to know the limits of your friendship also if you are close enough to this friend then tell them if not help him find away to find out.
2006-11-18 04:11:04 · answer #2 · answered by Shell 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should tell him and show him the profile. Put yourself in his shoes and I'm sure you would agree that you would want to know also let him know you are a friend and that your there for him should he need a mate to talk to.
Good Luck Be a Mate we all need good friends
2006-11-18 04:08:27 · answer #3 · answered by emma b 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No! date her!!
2006-11-18 04:47:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would approach him like this .
Hey when you get time check this web site out - I stumbled across it and it left me speechless.
Then after he looks at it for his self and get all upset .I would just let him know the reason you went about it that way was so he could make his own decisions instead of get made at you for even saying something like that about his wife .
I seen my ex-brother in-law once with a lady.I told my sister about it -she was so made at me did not believe me so I made it a point to take her to the same dinner house on night he was supposed to be working late that night and let her see it for her self although she thought it was only her and I going to dinner --I did that only because I love her and did not wish to see her waist her life with a looser
2006-11-18 04:30:25 · answer #5 · answered by jc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sadly, yes. A married person that is going on dating sites IS going to get caught especially if post their picture. Telling him will just make it happen a bit sooner, and may save him some heartache.
2006-11-18 04:21:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How good a mate is he....if he is close its a no brainier .. you've got to spill the beans , he might not thank you for it at first but he will come round...I would want to know wouldn't you!!! OH YES what are you doing on the sites any way ?
2006-11-18 12:16:42 · answer #7 · answered by loveb00ts 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I am shocked that from all thses responses, there was only one correct one. Any person trained in ethics or psychology will tell you that in situations such as this, you should tell the wife that she must tell her husband and that failure to do so will mean that you will tell him. I suggest you save the evidence just in case...(cough, cough) strictly for back-up purposes, of course.
2006-11-18 15:56:27 · answer #8 · answered by vinny_the_hack 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is putting pics on the sites how on earth does she expect not to be caught. This lady is not being fair to her hub.....yes I think I would tell him...hard tho it is he has a right to know about the pics cos who knows who might be laughing out there.
2006-11-18 05:18:08 · answer #9 · answered by eagledreams 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just found out from a friend that my husband has been on a singles site the whole time we we're married pretending to be single. yes it hurt, but i'm glad she told me. i would have never known other wise and been dumb enough to take him back, but not now. you should definitly tell your friend about his wife. it's the respectful thing to do.
2006-11-18 04:45:01 · answer #10 · answered by cantgetintoss 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spill the beans...but anonymously,and be there for your mate after the fall out,that's what Friends are for,as a post said...bros before hoes.
2006-11-18 09:34:51 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋