we dont sleep together any more but i want sex. should i have affairs. hes not really bothered about sex as he was a virgin at 38 when we met. im bored.
2006-11-18 03:31:37 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I feel the same about my wife. I still love her but I look at other women & find them sexy & want to be unfaithfull but I have never done it. It's a difficult one but all we are doing is denying ourselves a beutifull sex life. I think all that you could do is have casual sex with no strings & try not to let your partner find out.
2006-11-18 03:45:09 · answer #1 · answered by Snake 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋
wow. I guess if you truly love him ask him to make love with you. If he's not into sex maybe rent some videos and try to get him in the mood. Kidnap him and take him to a romantic getaway for the weekend (or whenever it convenient) Dress for success wink wink. But before you step out on him talk to him, you owe him that. Maybe a separation is in order, then you can both see other people without the guilt. Good luck
P.S. You fancied him once right? Try to find that spark and rekindle it. A good man is very hard to find. Roll playing is a great way to discover the new old flame.
2006-11-18 11:42:55 · answer #2 · answered by whateverhohum 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
due to the fact you still love him that is a very big plus.
Yes it is very hard to be with someone that makes you feel like being intimate is no big deal.
Myself I would not go jump in bed with some on Else do to that is not far to anyone .Unless you are really ready to end your marriage.Then you need to do that 1st .Not only for yourself but everyone Else that you may choose to get involved with .
I would 1st greet my husband in the morning with nothing but sweet kind words-That makes for a very nice day -then maybe have a candle lite dinner waiting for him -or if not that then maybe after dinner I would make it a point what ever room it is in the home he is sleeping in before he gos to bed I would have candles in that room maybe {don't ask him if you could rub his back} But just do it relax him a little.Do the little things you use to do for him that made him fall in love with you in the 1st place
2006-11-18 11:54:02 · answer #3 · answered by jc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A person virgin till 38 means he has some problem. Its a medical problem & requires proper treatment. What i mean he has tendency of being impotent. Deficency of sex harmones cause such problem. But it can be physcological problem also. Take him to sex specialist and see the result . If no improvement then leave him and get another spouse.
2006-11-18 11:50:38 · answer #4 · answered by bisexualmale s 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sex has always been a big part of any relationship.
If you still love him as you say ,explain to to him your concerns about your relationship and your need for more intimacy.If you cannot resolve the problems you are experiencing it would be better to end the relationship before you engage on another relationship.
I hope you can get a satisfactory solution.
Good luck to you.
2006-11-18 12:28:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you do not have kids, then maybe move on. Do not have affairs, that demonstrates a shallow character within yourself & destroys any trust within the marriage. (Also is disrespectful to him).
If you have kids, then you should do things to save your marriage.
Discover new ways to spice up your relationship. Always be positive. Dr. Laura Sclessinger says, "Be the wife he wants to come home to." Recreate the romance & sparks. Go on dates with him & fall in love all over again.
2006-11-18 11:42:34 · answer #6 · answered by Daiquiri Dream 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you talked to him about you concerns. You need to open up to him and try to work things out. Tell him how you feel and ask him to help you work things out.
It will be unfair to have an affair without first trying to work things out. There is always a solution to a problem.
Don't add yourself and your marriage to the divorce heap...it doesn't solve you emotional problems always.
2006-11-18 11:47:02 · answer #7 · answered by Dazanix 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Haven't you heard of or seen about all the cheating going on in the world? Why would you want to be one of them?
First, have a talk with him. Explain your needs. If he still doesn't budge, leave.
For those who stay in relationships for no reason, are just letting their own lives slip away.
2006-11-18 11:39:39 · answer #8 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Together think of fun ways to enjoy one another sexually. He could try some ginseng. If that doesn't work, go to counseling.
Please don't have affairs, it will cause a whole lot of drama and not solve a thing!
2006-11-18 11:37:06 · answer #9 · answered by Jaedyn=God has heard 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say maybe it's time to call it quits intimacy is important in a relationship and if that fire is gone out between you to then it's time to start the fire with someone new pls. do not cheat it is not worth your quilt or his feelings if you love him let him go.
2006-11-18 17:16:33 · answer #10 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋