Married people, what advise do you give to people thinking about marriage?

Answer 1

Be of the same faith, don't ever let divorce be an option, overlook the bad things, if you want your other half to treat you like a queen - treat him like a king, decide on common goals and work together toward them. It never works if you are pulling in opposite directions. And pray together.

Answer 2

That marriage is a huge step and that they should be prepared to be in that relationship for life if they are not sure if they could see themselves together for atleast a good number of years I would not recommend marriage.

Having a child out of wedlock doesn't necessarily mean you should marry that person I have seen enough divorced people who think this way and its very hard on the kid/kids.

If you think you could not be faithful to one person you should not get married.

Go to pre-marital counselling its a must!

If you can't see giving up time from your friends to spend with your wife and family do not get married.

If you are controlling and abusive get that undercontrol first.

If you have ever cheated on an ex GF/BF tell your expected spouse they may have a change of heart.

Always be truthful and honest.

Communication is the #1 importance of any good marriage or relationship.

Do not keep secrets it is the downfall of any marriage.

Don't fight over money money comes and goes a marriage is for life.

Having god in your life or believing in a higher power can help you through many ups and downs.

The first year of Marriage is the hardest.

Answer 3

When you are truly in love, marriage is a wonderful next step, it gives you more than you could ask for, and demands a constant growth. I will tell you what my Dad told me:
Be truthful when you know it is going to hurt, be honest when you don't know. Be the bigger person and stop an aggrument and just talk about everything, even if you have to take a break.
Don't keep secrets, meet all of lifes ups and downs with each others full attention and respect each others wishes.
Never decide on anything that isn't a joint agreement, laugh at the screw ups..cry at birth of your hearts living on the outside of you in a child you concieve in love.
Learn not to fall into temptation of its me and my way, learn it us and our way. not our family and friends way.
One of the gifts of being married is that one day you'll think as you sit alone, that the life you both wanted together started at the moment you said "I do" and being separted by death allowed you to grow in between.
Because some day seeing the life you shared was as a gift and a blessing God allowed you to live in true love.
When you love someone would you give your life for them, would you sit with them in the middle of the night when they are sick and dieing.
Marriage isn't fun, it isn't just for amuzing, it isn't safe.... its the hardest thing you will ever do, it is the most challenging education. Yet is the most intamatly, inticingly, lustful, unashamable, loving bond shared with the best friend you could ever want to know.
When two hearts connect and love grows, life begins, its how you live it that makes it worth its weigh in gold.

Answer 4

Lets see... LOVE IS BLIND! MARRIAGE IS A REAL EYE OPENER! Dont ever get married till you have been living together for at least 3 years. It takes about that long for you to see the other person for who they really are, not what they want you to see. Once a cheater always a cheater, never forgive that. When I got married, I told my husband that there is ONLY ONE THING that would make me divorce him and thats cheating. Everything else we can work through, but NOT that! Make sure you both have common goals for the rest of your lives, like both of you wanting or Not wanting children. Both of you knowing where you want to live. Some of those things will come with life, but are important to have a general idea up front. I use to think NEVER GO TO BED ANGRY... But thats a crock. Sometimes you just have to sleep on why you are mad and it will give you more perspective in the morning. Always look at the big picture, why you two are such a great couple, and dont let petty things get in your way of happiness. I hope this helps!

Answer 5

GET PRE-MARITAL COUNSELING!!!!! Pre-marital counseling is a chance to bring up and discuss topics that love tends to blind people to. www.drphil.com has a pre-marital checklist you could look at, too.

These are things that you will discuss. You do not have to be in perfect agreement, but you have to be able to ACCEPT your partner's position, and never expect them to change.

Religion, Where to live, Who will work, Who will pay the bills, Whos family to visit on what holidays, What each of your definition of infidelity and inappropriate relationships are, Finishing educations/college, Investments, Vacations, Division of household responsibilities, Retirement, Views on divorce, What each of your "dealbreakers" are, Fighting-styles/Make-up styles, Children/when/how many, Childcare, Birth control methods, etc.

Obviously, there are some things you must be in agreement on, and others that you will deal with when they come up. It's important to discuss because you can't expect to change each other'e beliefs about most things.

Answer 6

Keep an open mind. Don't sweat the small stuff. Try to do as much as you can for the other person, and don't get upset when they don't do the same for you. Take pleasure in making your spouse happy. Communicate your needs in plain and simple language.
Don't get married if you aren't mature enough to do these things.

Answer 7

If you have to ask, maybe getting some premarital counseling would be helpful.

My daughter and her fiance did that and it has helped them so much during their first year of marriage. They learned strategies for working out problems. They recommend it to all of their engaged friends. It wasn't cheap - about $100 per session and they went for about 10 sessions - but, they say it was really worth it.

Answer 8

If you have any doubts about getting married, don't do it.

Second, if you do decide to get married, keep arguments out of the bedroom and never go to bed angry. Learn how to actually communicate with your partner as it will save you a lifetime of headaches.

Answer 9

Be patient and compromise. Never demand. And what ever you are expecting marriage to be like, it's not what you expect at all. Some parts leave you disapointed, but some parts leave you happier than you can imagine. And Good luck.

Answer 10

Take your time and make sure it is the right person ...the one person you really want to spend the rest of your life with. The person who will be faithful and stick by you through it all. the good and the bad as well. know 100% that this is the person for you.