Once a cheater, always a cheater?

Question

True or false?

Answer 1

false. people can grow and change. some people just need more to motivate them than others.

Answer 2

Think for many true and many others false. My ex husband cheated for years and years, he has finally settled down. The better question is why. Ask him and he will tell you he is now too old to start older. Ask him if he has regrets he will tell you yes that he lost the love of his life because the grass always looked greener on the otherside which he finally now at 54 determined turns an ugly brown. For others I think that they can have an affair and "find themselves" and be sorry truthfully sorry and never do it again as my son in law. His issues was drinking with the buddies that put him in the clubs finding it a personal boost that he "still had it" when girls approached him or were open to him approaching them. He has clearly stated when my daughter decided to try this again with him that he will never put himself in the position to lose the love of his life or hurt his children like this ever again. So my answer is true and false.

Answer 3

I think it's false. Like most of the other anwsers you've received, it all depends on the person. Besides, people do change, they mature more and find that cheating isn't always what keeps them happy. The thing is the trust. It will be really hard to trust that person once you've found out that they have cheated. Think about it though.

Answer 4

It doesn't have to be true, although most people make it true.
People grow and change- they grow up, they think things over, they make mistakes and learn.
Many people 'taste' cheating and pay dearly for it, and choose to never do it again.
Some people are just stuck on stupid or selfish and keep doing it forever.
But sometimes people also feel pushed to 'cheat'.
Example- if a partner constantly suspects cheating for no other reason that his/her partner has had a past relationship where cheating occured, and if this suspecting person accuses,. harasses and insists that their partner will cheat someday, so they have a right to be suspicious and invasive, as well as threaten to leave if said partner even 'looks' at another person...well that level of insecurity and hostility is not conducive to a deep, loving relationship.
That relationship may be pushed apart, and one or both partners may wind up in other relationships in order to end the current one- not smart, but done all the time- and that's called cheating also.
So it depends on the situation.

Answer 5

True. You can always trust a cheater to cheat. In their mind it is no big thing, they have already crossed that line, and what the other person doesn't know wont hurt them.

Answer 6

That depends on the person.I have seen people change and not change.The thing is,in a relationship when either partner cheats will the other trust them enough not to do it again.I never understood why someone will go out of their way to have an affair when they made the commitment to someone else.If there are problems try and work them out,if they cannot be then split up.Then and only then I can see finding a new gf/bf.But it is possible to change.

Answer 7

TRUE...Once a guy learns that he can be SO selfish and not care of others' feelings, he will satisfy himself with whomever he chooses at any time. Those cheaters who say they stopped...Just haven't found the opportunity yet.

Answer 8

Depends on the person False

Answer 9

Not necessarily. When my now-husband and I went on our first date, before we even got out of the car to go into the restaurant, he took my hand and told me why his first marriage fell apart: he cheated on his first wife. I was surprised he was telling me this, and before I could even ask why he was telling me this, he said "I just need to come clean about it before this goes any further." He told me there was no excuse, he just went crazy. After discussing this further with him, and after having met his ex, I can see that she was the type of wife that took his entire pay cheque for thirty years and blew it on clothes and new furniture, always trying to keep up with the Jones', and didn't give one moment's thought as to what was going on in her husband's life. Just spend, spend, spend. I guess my point is, while he handled it wrong, she didn't really give him any reason to NOT CHEAT. Ladies (and gents) if you don't want your spouse to cheat, you better make damn sure that you treat your spouse better than any stranger would, because if they can get better treatment elsewhere, what's stopping them from doing so? I realize self-restraint is key here, but we are talking about imperfect human beings.

On our wedding day my very shy husband squeezed my hands so hard and practically shouted out, "...I promise to be faithful to you alone..." It surprised me because he is very embarassed about that subject, but it was clear: he was making a very strong statement...and I know he meant it. I guess it doesn't hurt that I am 31 years younger than he is!! He'd be a fool to cheat on me!

Answer 10

That is the general rule, that once you cheat you will cheat again. But I do feel that people if they really really try can not repeat this pattern, the person has to want to really change in order to stop the pattern it can be done.

Answer 11

I believe that this is a true statement. A logical person could not trust another who has cheated on a person that they have trusted and made commitments with.