Gay marriages and adoptions?

Question

After reading some questions and answers on here,I can see that this topic can bring out the worst in people! My personal views are that love is a blessing,everybody should have the right to celebrate their love,and children with 2 loving parents are very lucky children!! People don't choose to be gay-it's innate-they are born that way and often realize it at a very early age. Ergo-THAT'S THE WAY GOD MADE THEM. We are all who we are and what we are for a reason. Can anybody give me a VALID reason to think differently?

P.S. A person cannot be made gay-just like a person cannot be made straight. And no,I am not gay-I just accept people on their own merits.

Though,as I suspected,the hate filled and uniformed would reply,I'm very happy with the majority of the replies I've recieved here so far! What a lovely bunch of people-I wish I could give you all 10 points!

Answer 1

I agree with you 100%. I try to look at the other side and I see no reason why a loving couple should not be able to adopt a child. Many children with heterosexual parents are neglected. There is no research that shows heterosexual couples make better parents. Love is the key here. I think agencies should consider all qualified parents for adopting children who need a loving family.

Of course we are going to get negative comments from Bible thumping hypocritical bigots that try to say Homosexuality is wrong and the most dreadful sin ever committed. I see more love in the homosexual community than in the heterosexual community. A gay man or woman definitely can be a suitable role model for any child. It's possibly a better environment because the child is more likely to learn from a homosexual couple to accept people for their differences. Homosexuality is definitely not learned. My entire family is straight and I have not been exposed to homosexuality. I just realized in my teens that that I am gay and that is how God made me. I wish these people that claim to be good Christians would reference one passage in the Bible that shows it is okay to discriminate and be hateful toward anyone. Even Jesus forgave and loved his enemies. We are all sinners. If you think homosexuality is a sin, that's your opinion. Hate and discrimination is a sin also. So is depriving an innocent child of a loving family.

Answer 2

So John B thinks that gays should not adopt children. Well I can think of many reasons why heterosexuals should not and for that matter why some people should not be allowed to have children because of their inability to raise them. But that's life John. Sorry that you are so sick of hearing about gays but if you have suffered as a minority as much as gays have over the years (I'm 63 so was born and lived at a time when homosexuality was illegal) then you too would want to celebrate the fact that at last you are treated as a human being and accepted as an equal (well almost) to heteros.

As for the church, well the majority of so called christians I meet are hypocritical. They say that God made us all and the church welcomes everyone. Believe me, that is certainly not true from my experience. I am sick of being told what I should and should not do in accordance with a book that is over 2000 years old. We live in the 21st century and it is time the church did also.

If anyone believes that you choose to be gay or choose to live a gay life then they are clearly mistaken. Anyone who says that to me gets the reply "try living for a day not being a heterosexual and see how hard it is".

Yes - I am gay and proud to be so. I also have a son who is now happily married and is not ashamed of showing off his gay dad and proudly attended our Civil Partnership last year. So you see, a boy brought up by a gay doesn't turn out gay because of that. But what it does do is make them far more tolerant of others. It's a pity a few others can't be the same.

Thanks though for the many people who responded to say they are tolerant.

Answer 3

The question can be argued under the equal protection clause. The Equal Protection Clause, part of the Fourteenth Amendment to the United States Constitution, provides that "no state shall ... deny to any person within its jurisdiction the equal protection of the laws". The Equal Protection Clause, along with the rest of the Fourteenth Amendment, marked a great shift in American constitutionalism. Before the enactment of the Fourteenth Amendment, the Bill of Rights protected individual rights only from invasion by the federal government. After the Fourteenth Amendment was enacted, the Constitution also protected rights from abridgement by state leaders, and governments, even including some rights that arguably were not protected from abridgement by the federal government. In the wake of the Fourteenth Amendment, the states could not, among other things, deprive people of the equal protection of the laws. What exactly such a requirement means, of course, has been the subject of great debate, and the story of the Equal Protection Clause is the gradual explication of its meaning. Since marriage and adoption are legal proceeding of the state, it can be argued that equal protection is denied to those who are of same sex in those states where the law prohibits these. Please note that I am not an attorney.

Answer 4

I know several gay couples that would be way better parents then straight parents. I think any family that is willing to bring up a child in a good home deserves the chance.

As for gay marriage, if two people want to live their life together, why shouldn't they be able? Thats stupid, like saying a white female and black male shouldn't get married.

Answer 5

I was looking for a real question in the whole statement but apparently you just want our feelings on the matter. Here it goes. There are so many children in foster care or homes unloved that one parent home, two same gender homes are better than no parents home at all. These children are happy to have two dads or two moms. Most Gays have grown up with straight parents so why can't straight kids grow up with gays parents! There are more than one style of parenting! Have a nice thanksgiving!

JP

Answer 6

Homosexuals have always made up a small percentage of the human species. We just never did hear about it so much in earlier times because back in a time when religious extremists had a great deal more power than they do today, to have ever openly admitted to it would have virtually banished you from society (probably even your own family would disown you) and in some extreme instances, that person ended up extremely dead. I am reminded how, back in the early 1980's when AIDS was first becoming known to the general public, many sufferers of this horrible affliction were treated like pariahs - -shunned, rejected, and often actually even blamed for their own condition. They must have been engaging in some perverted sexual behaviours, and received God's punishment as a result. Today, of course, anybody with half a brain knows there are many ways in which a person totally innocent of ANY kind of "unacceptable behaviour" can become infected with hiv. but back then (not only, but very largely from the "religious community" ) the hatred, and condemnation of these unfortunate people was unbelievable.
Very recently, I seem to remember that a certain well known "Religious Purist" actually stated publically something to the effect that the destruction of the Twin Towers was an expression of God's anger towards America for its growing acceptance of Homosexuals. I hardly know whether to pity people like this for their blind ignorance, and twisted thinking, or just simply perspire with relief that in this present day and age, such people will never have the sort of power that their kind once had in the past - the power to destroy the lives of those whom THEY decided, based on THEIR religious beliefs, were unfit to live in "decent society"
I have personally never heard argments against the acceptance of homosexuals, other than those based on that particular person's strong religious beliefs.. But one thing I don't believe I need a crystal ball to predict, is that, whatever any particular group's personal religious convictions, people whose sexual orientation happens to attract them to same sex partners, are going to be with us from now on, and love it or hate it, they WILL become fully embraced into human society, and those who reject them and attempt to discriminate against them will increasingly find themselves becoming the ones who are rejected.

Answer 7

I totaly agree and would like to point out that i'd rather leave a child in the care of a gay man or couple rather than a priest.
How often do we have to here about another priest being a sexual predetor and peodophile???
Its not the gay community thats corrupt.

Lets just let people be happy ah?

Answer 8

Doesn't matter what you say or do.... the Bible Bashers will revert to somewhere in the bible to say it is wrong... However, a homosexuality is quite prevalent in the animal kingdom and according to Christians, God created everything, logically God made 'gay' animals. As for those who are bigoted or prejudice... their lower intellect will not allow them to see any further than they do already... and trying to educate them... well they believe they are educated enough anyway.
I agree with you, live and let live... just accept people a Human Beings first and foremost and if they commit a crime that is against the law, then deal with them such, otherwise just leave them alone.
Am I gay? No, very happily married to a lady, I have kids and a grand-daughter. Am I prejudice? Yes.. to those who are prejudice!

Answer 9

I'm not gay either but shouldn't everyone be able to enjoy life, love and a family?
If the family is stable, loving and puts the child's best interests first I don't see a problem. Even put in the child's place I don't see a problem. And all those who quote the bible please be aware that not everyone here is Christian and most Christians don't actually believe that being gay is a sin.

Answer 10

If some one has a stable home and love to give a child who cares what sexuality they are.
Adoption is such a hard process, so many rules why you cannot adopt, even though the world is full of poor children growing up in foster homes when there are couples who would give anything to give them a proper home but their application is dejected because they dont fit the criteria its absolute madness,
thats why this county and this world is so screwed up