Any good advice ?

Question

Since my girl friend left me my entire life is a mes. I still love her but she allready has someone else (after only a month ). I need help plssssss

Answer 1

At last count, there were 2,178 country songs about this very problem. So, don't feel alone - it happens to just about everyone.

Right now, you are very into the moment. The breakup has devastated you emotionally and it's dragging everything else down around you, creating, well....a mess. Things NOT to do:

1) Drown your sorrows in alcohol or drugs (several of the 2,178 country songs are about this, too)
2) Find another girl friend. This is called the "Help Me Rhonda" syndrome and it almost always fails - badly.
3) Try to win her back. Look, she just found a new boyfriend and she's on the rebound from you. What does that tell you about her? If there ever is to be anything between you two in the future, let her come back to you. Don't chase her.

Now, you've had some time to lavish yourself in pure misery. It's time to pick yourself up and get back to a real life.

Hey, maybe you should write a country song about it. Could bring in some needed money!

Answer 2

Hi there!!

I have totally been where you are at now. I know that it is the worst feeling in the world. ( I felt like I needed to be committed!) But, there is hope, believe me! What you need to do is to keep busy. Get with your friends, make plans to go on a trip, have things to look forward to. Have friends over & get rid of everything and anything that reminds you of her & your time together. Make sure that you believe in yourself and that she is the one who lost out here. I'll bet the minute that you start to feel good about yourself and the things that you are doing, guess who will be calling you?! By then you can tell her, "Sorry, it was nice while it lasted, but I've moved on." You will have too! You can NEVER go back, you can only go forward!

Best of luck, Sincerely!!

Answer 3

Assuming that she was a long term girlfriend, perhaps she got tired of being just "girlfriend", and found someone who wanted more than just a girlfriend. Let me guess. You aren't interested in marriage- cuz you value your freedom and independance. Part of marriage is depending on another person, and making them the most important thing in your life; and allowing them to depend on you also.

Answer 4

She probably didn't have any feelings for you if she met someone else after 1 month. My advice is to move on and don't dwell on that past. You love her and care for her, but you cannot change the fact she doesn't feel the same. You have love to give and there are plenty of other girls out there. Find some one who is willing to give you the same respect and love you have to give to them.

Answer 5

You should go out with other women, even if it's only friendship. Dwelling on your ex won't help you. There are lots of women in the world. As long as you think she is the only woman for you, you won't be able to move on.

Answer 6

This happened to me. I did everything that was suggested. I did, self-help, no good. I went out on dates, no good. I did a bunch of dope, no help. Then, I went and beat the crap out of the new boyfriend a couple of times and man, I was feelin' great. Try it. I aint kiddin' you, it worked for me.

Answer 7

if she already has another man after 1 month, that there should tell you something...you didnt mean that much to HER. pick yourself up, clean out all her belongings and get on with your life. you will be feeling hurt for a while, but she isn't, so why bother. smile, the is another flower out there for you waiting to blossom. good luck.

Answer 8

My friend, you need to take care of yourself, she is a lost soul. You need to heal physically, emotionally, I have been through that too with my marriage, the best advice I can give you that really works is God showering me with His love, and He can do the same for you, and He wants to mend your broken heart....lets pray...Father I believe in Jesus who died for my sins,I repent of my sins, forgive me, I want you Lord Jesus to come into my heart as my Lord and saviour, and heal me from this terrible pain I am feeling.....in Jesus name...amen

Answer 9

broken hearts do eventually mend - I suspect this is made worse because she has found another so quickly. We convince ourselves that we are "the only one" for our partner. Fairy tales seldom come true.

I know you hurt and all I can say is time will help.

HUG and SMILE

Answer 10

Forget about her. Focus on YOUR life. Move on and enjoy life.

Yes, breaking up is painful and hard. But, everyone goes thru it. You will to.

Best wishes.