Am i gay? please help!!!?

Question

im really upset and confused. There was this one night when i got drunk and snogged my best friend i am a girl by the way. then another night we got drunk again and did the same thing but then we moved down and did everything im so ashamed. Then i told my friend about it and then a few months later we had a bit to drink together and she said shut up and kiss me! Does she think i am gay? am i??? im seeing someone at the moment but it wont stop playing on my mind. please help me i dont know what to do?!? me and my best friend talk openly about it but i dont talk to the other one

thankyou so much for all your answers they really helped im going to stay off drink and talk to my friend ill let you know how it goes thankyou! xx

Answer 1

only you can make that decision for yourself.

Answer 2

First of all, from a Mom's point of view. "Put down the drink!" If you can't control your actions, and aren't aware of your behavior, then you need to not drink. That said. You didn't say how old you are. But what is wrong with our young people today. I really don't understand getting drunk. Is it all really worth it in the end? I am not sure it is. Your worried about being gay. I think your perspective is a bit off. You need to worry about why you have to drink the way you are. Let me ask. Were you gay or did you feel gay before these drinking binges? If not, then I'd say you probably aren't. If you did feel gay prior to drinking, then perhaps you should stay sober and figure this out so you will have better questions to bring to yahoo answers. Be good. Good luck finding out.

Answer 3

It sounds like you may be using liqour as a cover up to hide the fact that you may be gay. If you are so assamed of it, I would lay off the booze and see if you still kiss your freind, or do anything that you are assamed of. Im not sure if you are using liqour as a cover up becouse I am only guessing. For the record I don't think most people would think lesbian is wrong. Its different then two guys kissing or making out, as I think thats totally uncalled for, its a double standered. If you lay off the booze and you don't do anything that you are assamed of, then your probably aren't gay, you just need to stay away from any booze. Forgeting about it might be a little harder. This will probably require the support of family members, friends, social worker, therpists, etc. I hope all goes well for you.

Answer 4

well, only you can really determine that for yourself unfortunately. Since you were drunk you were thinking differently and probably wanted to do something really crazy and fun. If you are attracted to other girls when you're not under the influence, then maybe. If you still love your boyfriend also it could just be the alcohol. People do crazy stuff like that a lot. Try talking seriously to your friend and see how she feels. Were you just having fun or was it serious? It could be a phase but who knows. If you're sttracted to girls sexually than maybe you're gay- or bi. I don't really know enough to tell for sure of course.

I hope I helped!

Good luck!!! :)

Answer 5

Plenty of people go through phases of experimentation-and as you said,you were drunk on these occasions,so your inhibitions were down. It's only you that can say for sure if you are or are not gay. Bisexuality is another possibility-but don't be in a rush to classify yourself as straight/gay/bisexual. Take some time,think about it,talk to a counsellor as that can help you-there are also phone lines you can call-you'll find them in the phone book.
But most importantly-have respect for yourself and take care.

Answer 6

Ask yourself if this is something you would do without being drunk. Maybe you are just bisexual, not a full lesbian. It's okay to experiment, but like you said if I had done it that more than once, I would be having doubts too. oh, wait! I did.

well, that's because I am bisexual too. But I am happily married now. (i guess i, like sex too much). I was so confused too. I felt like I didn't fit in, But i truly did enjoy been with a girl even if I wasn't drunk. Girls who already have doubts will probably just become closet bi's because they never experiment. But others who have already tried being with girls, tend to like it. Why? Because girls know exactly what we sexually desire, where we like it, and how we like it.

well i hope i help in some way. good luck finding your true personality. Because only you will truly know ;)

Answer 7

Hmm, don't know about gay, but you sure sound like fun! If it bothers you that much, try talking to a councellor or a clergyman, or someone else you can trust(parent?). If you are really ashamed, then don't get drunk with this person anymore, problem should go away then...Good luck!

Answer 8

Girls are far more inclined to experiment with the same sex than guys. When guys do it they end up being gay 99 % of the time. Not the same with girl. If you are gay Quit being embarrassed about it. There are a lot of gay women out there & its probably more socialy acceptable than gay guys. Also, have you ever considered the possability that you might be bisexual?

Answer 9

If you have to ask, then that more than likely means you are. Maybe you and your best friend have hidden feelings for each other. Try waiting until you are not drunk, and talk to her, and see if you end up doing that again. If not, maybe you aren't. Talk to her when you're both sober and see what happens. Good luck.

Answer 10

what will be will be.it dont matter and quite alot of girls mess about.do you only find women attractive?you might be bi-sexual!?thats not a prob either.just be happy that your brave enough to explore these avenues as alot of people dont and as a consiquence are unhappy.just do whatever feels right.regardless of what you do in any aspect of life you are always gonna get regrets but dont let the fact that you havent done something be one of ya regrets.

i hope this helps.
have fun and as long as you dont hurt anybody..F*CK what anybody else thinks

Good luk

Answer 11

If you are ashamed of what you did under the circumstances, then you are not gay. If you weren't ashamed and you felt that it was the right, natural thing to do, then you are gay. I don't think you are gay, just got a bit tipsy, thats all.