Hwy do man, who clamis to be happy and loves their wifes and the sex is good, have an affair?

Answer 1

Humans are not monogamous by nature. it is cultural conditioning. I am not prescribing that it is right or wrong to be non-monogamous. Some people simply do not have the inner fortitude and/or desire to be monogamous. This is a condition that is the same for men and women. They both have affairs and while there are differences in the overall number is common to both genders.

Many men and women can love, even intimate love (not just sex) can love more than one person without loving some one else less. And the fact that the sex is good and the relationship is good has very little to do with it.

On the other hand, those you are truly monogamous, what ever the underlying reasons for their monogamy feel very little or no need to have an affair or have any other kind of romantic/sexual relationship with anyone.

Clearly, those who are truly monogamous, who have no history of non-monogamous activity in there lives, if they seek to find a new relationship with someone else, indicates that there is a fundamental problem and issue that needs to be resolved within the relationship and non-monogamy is just a symptom of a larger problem.

The key is to learn whether non-monogamy is a part of this persons character or a sign of problems in a relationship and deal with it. And how that is dealt with is very different based on the root causes.

Answer 2

While affairs often occur in unhappy marriages, I have also seen men screw around simply because IMO they are immature jerks or because they want out of a marriage (even if they say otherwise). If a man or woman WANTS to stay faithful, they will. If they want to add another notch to their belt, then they'll screw around.

Adultery is not an accident. You don't slip on a banana peel and have your dick fall into an open vagina. Adultery usually occurs with planning and forethought. But most of all, it occurs with the notion that one is still available for sex with others. If a man or woman thinks that way, then no amount of counseling will help.

Answer 3

Honestly, I think men are so confused. They may very well feel that way but act upon the feeling on the wrong head. That second head of theres seem to take over the other.They cant be strong agaist the temptations that could devastate a great relationship.

Answer 4

reason number one: they just want the thrill and eventhough they love their spouse they feel bored

reason number two: they've got an urge of changing partners, this happens o those who've frequently keep changing sex partners when they were bachelors

reason number three: he needs it for his work??? Maybe its not just the girls who need to screw there way to the top???

reason number four: He knows his partner too well and cant be surprised. someimes they want new people to make them feel new too.


reason number five: his got a psychco problem that needs to be treated pronto!

reason number six: he hasnt grown from his jerkish attitude.!

Answer 5

some men just like variety. that's basically being straight to the point. having an affair doesn't necessarily mean that they are unhappy, he may have problems sticking to just one great thing.

Answer 6

Because they want their cake and eat it too, they are not happy with themselves, so they are looking for love the wrong way.....maybe they were abused as children, cuz there past affects them, when really what they are looking for is to be love, Jesus is love and truth, He went through everything for us, there is nothing that he did not go through, and he did it for us, He wants our hearts, He is not complicated.....He is love.....take care

Answer 7

Immaturity, lack of self control, and stupidity. Sadly, that describes most supposed adults.

Answer 8

Because they are immature heels who need attention to bolster a fragile ego.

Answer 9

Becos both of you lack communication. Every single minor things he/ she does, do make a different.

Answer 10

Men are dogs!