why are school systems like this?

Question

why is it that if someone hit's u that u cant hit them back?

anyone see any way 2 justify that ?

doesn't this kind of increase bullying because those kids that get suspended every day dont care about anything they do an they just hit people than they get suspended and them or their parents can care less?

when u tell the princible on someone than that doesn't realy help cause that will get u in even deeper s#!T

and who likes this school policy?

Answer 1

I understand what you are going through. I have a 10 year old son who was bullied constantly and got in trouble all the time for fighting back. He sometimes would tell the principal and she wouldn't do much about it. I soon quit my job at a different school and now homeschooling him. I don't understand why they won't uphold the bullying law. If it doesn't stop, go to the principal, then to the board of education, then to your congress man. Some mothers can't afford to homeschool their children like I do.

Answer 2

I am a mother of a couple of students whose schools have these policies. I've never had to deal with it directly, but I hear stories like this all of the time and it really upsets me.

I think the parents of the victims need to be a lot more vocal and stand up to the principal and school board. They need to be held accountable for actually getting to the bottom of the problem rather than taking the easy way out and suspending everyone involved. That isn't how the real world works.

But as long as the parents keep going along with it and not making waves the "zero tolerance" policies that have gotten so out of hand with continue.

Answer 3

I know exactly what you mean because if you were to tel you had better watch your back or you will get ****** up. No matter how much parents think they understand they don't. I know that if someone sticks me in the face I will stick them right back for self defense, I would never start it though, just defend myself. i mean honestly you aren't going to stand there and get beat up, go tell, and then be a snitch. No-matter how much they say fighting doesn't solve anything, it does because once you do its over that's it they never look back at it again. It may not seem right but that is the way the world is and people need to realize that.

Answer 4

I agree with you that it stinks, not being able to fight back, but schools know that if it's allowed, you soon end up w/chaos (I worked in a school like that and it was awful for everyone).

As one person said, the parents need to get more involved and insist that violent kids be dealt with more seriously. Often, schools are afraid of negative publicity and revenge from messed-up parents of kids they discipline. One solution is to have a cop on the premises and hall monitors. But the administration really needs to enforce punishments.

Parents can also take things into their own hands by reporting assaults directly to the police and pressing charges. I did that, both as a teacher and a parent. It might sound harsh, but if you let a kid get away with that, the message is that the kid can keep getting away with it and it gets worse.

In one case, a kid punched mine (in 7th grade, I think). I knew this kid had problems and wouldn't stop, so I pressed charges. He was put on probation and sure enough, next time he punched someone else, he was put in lock-up, then sent to foster care with treatment.

So...my message is, get your parents to take action, rather than punching back and getting in trouble yourself. If your parents won't do anything, try the school counselor or report the kid yourself, either to the cops and/or Social Services.

Good luck! I agree that most school systems are totally out of it when dealing w/violence!

Answer 5

I probably wouldn't hit them back anyway. If the person wants to be a moron about the situation, then they can do just that, but I'm not going to join them.
Especially if it was about something really stupid.
For example, when these girls threw chewed up licorice at us on a bus for two hours, I didn't do anything about it. It was fine if they wanted to throw things at us like five year olds because one of their friends was mad at my friend.
It's just a great way to lower yourself.

Answer 6

Because we have turned into a lilly liveried society which is so afraid of the individual to stand up for themselves that we now associate self defense with violence. The best way to deal with a bully is stand up to them.
If you get in more deep dodo than so be it!!! At least you won't be one of those cowards that run the public system of government indoctrination.

Answer 7

Yea that does suck, I was in high school and I was walking down the hallway and this mean B**** just shoved me into locker for no reason.. that was just not going in my book.. I didnt even think f school rules, and started fighting her, I merely thought of it as protecting myself, and I was suspended and sent to Juvy.. our high school was so strict.. as for the other girl.. she got the same punishment, but your right where is the justice for my part.. its like kids have to take matters into their own hands to protect themselves because all the school does it tell you... " you need to tell someone" thats crap... I HATE SCHOOL POLICY.. im in college now and thinking about how our high school system is still ran furiates me.. I never want my kids to go to the same high school I did..

Answer 8

I think some students get suspended on purpose because they hate school. You do not give up you rights at school to include self defense, but it does depend on how bad the person attacks you.

Answer 9

well a few days ago, we had a sub and the sub told a kid to hit another kid back. but in any other case at our school , we automatically get suspended for hitting someone at all.

Answer 10

My Jesus side wants to say that its good and they shouldn't hit back, they can kill them with kindness. But I also want to tell my son (when he goes to school) to stand up for himself and not let other kids get away with that. I geuss thats where dad comes in to play! I think they need to punish the one who started it. But schools seem retarded in so many other ways to though. I'de rather him not be suspended for huging his teacher or bringing a harmless keychain to school.