sure, i like the guys. i t wouldn't be naural if i didn't. and i know there's nothing wrong wih it. but the thing is, i'm not looking to get into a 'reletionship' with guys. i see guys as my buddies. but it's almost like i can't get on that side of the line.
maybe i'm too shy. bu it doesn't seem like it. i have some great guy friends (like two). so its not that i can't talk to them. how do you be friends with a guy without having to worry about all the 'girl guy attraction' things?
i like guys alot. they're cool to talk to. what do i do to make bddies wih them? i'm kind of lost!
2006-11-18 01:52:16 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Unfortunately (or fortunately) there is nothing guaranteed to work to make guys not be attracted to you. Even if you was the uglist with your pic in the dictionary under ugly you still gonna get somebody interested in you. It is just natural God designed things that way.
The best thing is to be secure and strong and cherish the friends you do have. As you meet new guys (people) let them know your limits, feel them out, and go slow with them.
Till then if you think it will help you are free to be chat buddies with me. Good Luck.
2006-11-18 02:01:36 · answer #1 · answered by GERALD S. MCSEE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know I'm not a guy, but I was the same way, still am to a degree. I'm now 35, married to a guy who wasn't one of my buddies, still keep in touch with the guys who were my friends, have gotten to know their wives, and they all know my husband. There were some tricky times as a teen that I thought there was more than friendship being felt by a couple of them. And me too. But, I knew a relationship beyond friendship might destroy the friendship. Just be yourself, be a friend, and don't let it go further than that, unless you can see one of them as the father of your future children. Sometimes being friends for a long time makes for the best marriage down the road. But most of the time, your buddy guys are too much like you to ever have a satisfying relationship with. Good luck sweetie!
2006-11-18 09:58:18 · answer #2 · answered by shojo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would like to know how old you are, and how exactly you were raised (I am assuming a relatively devout christian family).
Do you have any male friends that you are particularly attracted to?
To answer your question though, you just need to be up front after getting to know a guy what you are looking for. Get to know somebody for a bit, and then tell them straight up that you aren't really looking for a relationship. Some guys can deal with this, and some can't. You just have to make sure you are surrounding yourself witht he right kind of guy. Just don't try to force yourself to feel a certain way about a guy, then people get hurt.
2006-11-18 09:56:57 · answer #3 · answered by jjpanoff 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first off have you ever given yourself the idea that you might just be the "asexual" type. I've got to friends that are very much like that. In science asexual usually refers to creatures that reproduce by themselves but in social circles and regurlar speech, it just refers to someone that isn't interested in sex, which as anyone will tell you is the main reason people get into relationships on a romantic level. And there are ALOT of people like this. Nothing to be ashamed of. Just one of the 4 types of people, Asexual, homosexual, bisexual, and heterosexual... though there are those that will argue that there are only two types bisexual and asexual.... oh well I digress.
As far as "girl/guy action" just tell them straight off when they start to get interested. Honesty is always the best option. If the question never comes up.. fine that'll work, but if it does, just say "Hey, I like you as a friend... but I don't want a relationship" sometimes it can hurt a persons feelings, but it will mend. Better than leading a person on.
2006-11-18 10:01:36 · answer #4 · answered by Josh Graham 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Guys don't want to be your buddy. Any guy who plays the friend angle is doing just that, playing at being your friend in hopes of someday making it more. In an opposite sex friendship there will always be a sexual tension.
2006-11-18 09:59:43 · answer #5 · answered by hankthecowdog 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont worry is the first thing --- you dont look for a relationship --- the relationship finds you --- enjoy the company of friends and see what happens
2006-11-18 10:00:07 · answer #6 · answered by trader1867 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just talk with me
2006-11-18 09:57:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋