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Question

Recently one of my like best friends, erin had kept telling me that she needed to tell me something. Well everytime i was with her something came up of she forgot. Well last night i was texting her and she decied to tell me. i was really not ready for this. she told me that her and her other friend ashley like each other. (but yet erin says shes not gay cause she 'doesnt look at other girls') and the thing is i promised erin i would act any different. and when she told me i like freaked. i got this really weird feeling in my stomach and i just dont know.its not that i have a problem with gays and lesbians but its just its kinda weird for me and i dont know how to handle this. im really freaked i dont know what to do. i dont want to act different. and heres the really big probalem. both erin and ashley are supposed to come over today! i am afraid i will act weird cause i think they are going to do something together or something.i just dont know if i can handle it.i just dont know help

so yeah i dont know what to do . i mean i am still there friends and everything and i am not going to tell them that what they are doing is completely wrong and that i am going to like shun them or something. but i dont know i thought i was prepared for this cause i just had this feeling she erin was going to tell me that she was gay or something like that. and i was really prepared for that but when she told me that her and ashley liked each other i just dont know i freaked.i dont know .

last night i was really looking forword to them coming over but now i just dont know. i just dont want things to be weird or akward or something. i mean i dont think they are going to do anything cause thats just not them but i dont know, and i really wanted erin to come over cause it was like forever ago that she had been to my house and i wanted her to come. at first it was supposed to be just erin. then ashley needed somewhere to go and she thought she was going to go to erins but she found out that erin was coming to my house. well at first i really didnt want her coming cause i just wanted it to be me and erin but then i was fine with it cause i started texitng ashley and talking ot her and stuff. but now that erin said that i just dont know if i even want either of them coming. idk please help.
i really need a good detailed answer . cause i am just so confused

Answer 1

I am fixing to not beat around the bush.....the problem isn't that you can't handle the lesbian thing........you are JEALOUS......you show so many signs in your words.....Erin is like one of YOUR best friends and Ashley is HER other friend......and then you through in there that you didn't want Ashley to come over at first......just go back and read your own words.......if you are one of Erin's best friends, which to her you must be....because she came to you with this, right? Well....then be her friend and stop being selfish......being a lesbian or gay in this day's society is hard enough......do you really think she needs or deserves for her BEST FRIEND to make it out like she is awful for feeling this way? NO!!!!! She needs you to just be her friend, I seriously doubt that they are just gonna come over and just do there thing.....look how long it took for her to tell you(HER BESTFRIEND) they will feel more ackward then you do......so I say stop tripping and believe in your friendship and stop feeling threatened by Ashley.......a TRUE friend is there regardless of the matter......she needs you to be her strength.....can you is the question ,friend? I KNOW YOU CAN!!!!!!

Angel

Answer 2

Hmm...this sounds very complicating. I understand your mixed feelings about the situation. I would be freaked out too. Remember this though, you and Erin have been frineds for a while right? When a friend has a problem and needs to tell the other friend about it and then makes reasons why she didn't tell you, then it was really hard for her. If she texted you about it obviously she couldn't tell you to your face because maybe she was afraid of your instant reaction and cares about what you think because she loves you (as a best friend). I would call Erin today on the phone and just tell her that you just find this fresh information a little strange right now and you need time to digest it and let it settle in your mind. She should understand. Tell her that you certainly want to maintain a friendship with her and that you'll be there for her if she needs you. Just be honest with her. Tell her you are not ready to see them together at your house. Maybe you could tell her that you just wish for her to come over so ya'll can talk and hang out without Ashley. If she gets upset about it, just tell her that it might be best some other time for them to come over but you just need to take some time to think about some things. I hope this helps and I'm sorry about the whole situtation. You can always try praying about it too, ya know. There's certainly nothing wrong with a little prayer. =) Good luck and keep your chin up!

Millie

Answer 3

Just give yourself some time to digest this information. You may feel uncomfortable right at the moment, but Erin is still the same person. You say she's one of your best friends, you have to decide if you're ready to destroy this friendship just because she's gay. I don't think that they are coming over to your house to "do something together". Erin trusted you enough to be honest with you, now you should be honest with her as well. Tell Erin that while you promised her you wouldn't act any different, that you just feel a little weirded out right now.
Talk it out, everything will be ok.

Answer 4

it's ok to be confused, what's not ok is to lose your friendship with either of them over this.
I think both of them coming over is a good thing, cause you can let them both know your feelings, why you feel the way you do and that you need THEM to be patient with you while you sort out your new feelings.
I'm gay and have been for years and I can tell you you don't just 'turn' gay all of a sudden. some people think it is now the IN thing to do. what I'm trying to say is that this might just be a phase they're going thru or it may be the real thing.
whatever the case may be, they are still the same people you have come to call your friend, they haven't grown a 3rd eye or horns.
just try and relax, listen to what they have to say and tell them where your head is at and let it grow from there!

Answer 5

Calm down take a deep breath and don't worry so much. I would treat them as if u knew nothing about them "liking each other". In other words act as though u don't know, treat them like u always have. Also. I would not bring it up unless they do. Most of all just relax, you'll be fine, after ten mins. you will wonder why u were so worried. Good Luck.

Answer 6

well i can say is that u HAVE to treat them as your friends because if u dont your getting your self in trouble wit erin and ashley.
If that is their choice then thats the way its gonna be and that doesnt really change who they are really.
and if they choose to do something at your house just sit with them and say something like "i dont appreciate u doing that around me" but dont say it in a harsh way. and if they disobey wit what u say then politely ask them to leave.
but either way dont think as them as bad people because they are still just erin and ashley.
sort of the same thing happened to me but with my two best guy friends and they are still my best friends, i did exactly what i am telling u to do and it worked.

i hope this helps
best wishes.

Answer 7

RELAX!!! Ur freaking out about nothing. It shouldn't be awkward. Find something all 3 of u like to do and do it. U ha ve nothing to freak about. So what if ur friends like each other? Big deal. U can handle it just chill out, try to put it in the back of ur mind and just hang out w/ them. What's the wrost that can happen?

Answer 8

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Answer 9

I am not good in giving advice, but i hope my answer will help..

they told you the problem because they trust in you and they know you can help..

if you are a true friend, you'll give them all you support..

then, help them with this problem.. give your opinion, ideas, and ask theirs..

ask them questions like "Do you really like each other?" and "How did it happened?" or something like those..

discuss the situation..

then, select a course of action.. will you and your friends keep it as a secret? or do you need someone to help you, like your Mom or Dad? well, if ever you need to ask someone who could help you, and you're too shy.. why don't you say, "what if.."

sorry, if this is what i can do..

Answer 10

If you liked these girls before,you should still like them. They are young and it is normal for young girls to be attracted to each other. Some go on to only be attracted to girls and are called lesbians by heterosexuals. Others go on to only like guys. Some go on to like both.
If they are good people, why should you care?
Look at Ellen Degeneris on TV. She is super cool. Who she sleeps with at night does not affect that.
Now is a good time to leave other people's prejudices behind and form your own feelings about people.
Good luck.