iI am and have been in love with a man i have known for sixteen years plus he also asked me to marry him,but i am very much already married and i love him ,please help i feel like i belong on springer!!
2006-11-18 01:14:42 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Keep away from his shadow if u love ur husband and the family.
2006-11-18 01:18:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, you are not in love with your husband anymore so why stay in a loveless marriage? Why not go with the flow? Who condemned you to an empty life? You might have been at one point happy with your husband but it changed. Also, if you are not happy, he might not be either. Honesty is the best way to go. You need family therapy for starter. I think that it would be devastating for everyone that you left the home for someone else but it would be even more devastating that you stole the youth of your husband thinking about someone else. He could have another wife! Be happy with a women who truly loves him and does not have fantasies about another man. He may or may not be in love with you but he deserves the truth, and remember be gentle. Human beings can only take so much. A good idea is to start family therapy. I don't suggest Jerry Springer. I wish you good luck and God be on your side. Honesty is key. Don't ever lie to your partner and don't cheat on him. If you start something make sure it is ended before. You would not like it, if he had a girlfriend. Bonne Chance!
2006-11-18 01:28:34 · answer #2 · answered by JPR D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is a hard feeling to gte rid of. Ask yourself this question. Do you love your current husband or the man that asked you to marry him more? There is a difference between looking and seeing. It may look like you love your husband but do you see yourself still with him in some years to come. If not then you might have to give it some serious consideration. The main question is. Who do you LOVE more???
No-one can tell you what to do because it is all up to you when it comes down the it.
xx romance_is_dead
P.S. It's all up to you now!
2006-11-18 01:21:30 · answer #3 · answered by romance_is_dead 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't stop loving a peron! But you can learn to get on with your life. Once you have loved someone you can't just turn off your feelings, especially after 16 years. Try not to think of that person so much. This person will always be in your heart.Think of this person as a good friend.
2006-11-18 01:26:03 · answer #4 · answered by mama 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you can, if that person has a place in your heart it's there forever. The pain of not being able to be with someone you love fades over the years, but is never gone. It is like the pain of bereavement and is very strong. you have to decide if you would be happier with this man or stay with your husband and bare the pain I'm afraid.
2006-11-18 01:34:43 · answer #5 · answered by pixie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't. Love is not a horrible thing and to love anyone and everyone is a good characteristic. HOW you love, now that's a different story. Keep check on your priorities. They usually guide you in the right direction and in your heart, you know the answer.
2006-11-18 01:20:09 · answer #6 · answered by nursetohelp 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is nothing wrong with loving someone, but obsessing about him is another, move on, make your marriage work, t hink of your live while in bed with your husband and the spark may be the excitement you both seek
2006-11-18 01:17:29 · answer #7 · answered by rich2481 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is your definition of affection? you do not love him...or like him. you're probable only attracted to his unique way of appearing in course of you. sorry lady, yet you mustn't in any respect have performed that. i'm in band and that i had a lot drama this 3 hundred and sixty 5 days that I informed myself i replaced into getting out, yet you realize what? i'm not letting it get to me. i love music. really project that keeps me sane in this loopy global. in case you want some thing not in any respect supply it up. you gotta be harder than that. with the way you're taking care of one yet another that's so obvious that you adult males do not love one yet another. I could understand. my friends insult one yet another each and each and every of the time. we are friends...we attempt this...yet all of us keep in mind that we do not love/like one yet another that way...both you adult males are those kinda close friends...or you don't love one yet another bypass hit upon a nicer guy...it fairly is a thanks to get that different one off your concepts
2016-11-25 02:18:01 · answer #8 · answered by barela 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't. You can exclude them from your life, but they'll always be there in the back of your mind to make you wonder "what if?"
2006-11-18 03:18:09 · answer #9 · answered by :-) literary cappy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TILL DEATH DO U PART...........REMEMBER UR VOWS PLUS THIS GUY MAY NOT EVEN MAKE U HAPPY.........I MESSED UP AND NOW I LIVE WITH IT I AM SINGLE AND COULD HAVE BEEN MARRIED.........SO THINK HARD BEFORE U DO SOMETHING!!!!
2006-11-18 01:26:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋